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lamina

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Mar 9, 2006
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I met a girl from China about a month ago. We started off just as conversation partners. We hung out a lot, we would meet at the library to study together, I'd take her places, we'd hang out till really late. Recently, I finally bit the bullet and kissed her, and things moved from there. She had grown pretty close to my family, and they would share long conversations about Chinese and Canadian culture. It was a pleasure having her around.

Only 1 month of knowing this girl, and not even 2 weeks of being intimate, and here I am crying like a newborn baby. Well, not really like a newborn, but you know that feeling in your throat you get when you're on the verge of crying and your eyes are watering? That's how I am right now. She left for Beijing this afternoon at 2:30 from Toronto.

Before I said goodbye to her last night, she gave me some cologne, her Garfield stuffed animal, and her cell phone to use during the summer, since it would cost 10x more to use a Canadian cell phone in China. I had written her a letter saying how much I'm going to miss her, etc.

We had only been somewhat serious for maybe 2-3 weeks. I laid with her while she slept till 7:30 this morning. She wouldn't let my arm go, even in her sleep. She cried, but I didn't feel the need to at the time.

Now, she's 33,000 feet above Western Canada, heading towards Beijing at 900km/h. She will be back Monday, September 3rd.

What is it about me that gets me so attached to a girl like this?
 
That sucks man, I know where your coming from. Something similar to this happened with me and an American girl, the only difference being we were to not meet again.

Look on the bright side, with how technology is these days, you can talk to her over the phone for free (Skype), and September's not too far away.
 
we all get attached easy. the hardest part is letting go.

i wish you the best of luck. love isn't easy.
 
it's hard, but no worries man, you know when she is coming back, wait..you know she is coming back...that you have that a lot don't...so be happy for what you had, be happy now and be happy for what will come.
 
Haha way to go guys/girls... I'm crying again :)

You're all right though, at least I know she's coming back.
 
Like PoD said- we get attached easily, i's our nature. She'll be back soon enough, I hope all works out for y'all.
 
Atleast you will see her again soon. In the meantime, why not plan her a big surprise for when she gets back? :)
 
because your a person...its the way we work. We do stupid things, that looking back don't make much sense. We make foolish mistakes, ignore logic ect.


And we'll do it all over again..your a human, and have feelings :)
 
Send her a sweet package of something in the post. Not something expensive, just something heartfelt or handmade or similar. It'll make you feel better to be planning it, and she'll love it.
 
Send her an piece of jewelry with an anchor on it. (A ships anchor)

Send something like your an anchor in my heart or something like that.
 
That story seriously almost made me cry.

If you really liker her, and she really likes you, then it will work out. I'm rootin' for you man!
 
WTF are you waiting for. Get on the next flight to CHINA!

That would be a pretty kick arse grand romantic move...and then she'd love ya for a while!(I'd imagine, unless she meat someone else, in which case you'd feel stupid and be out the plane ticket cost, but she doesn't sound like that type of girl)
 
What is it about me that gets me so attached to a girl like this?
Love? :)

Sounds like you have something neat started. Long distance relationships are always hard to do -- especially international ones.

Do the Skype/e-mail thing. But also write her a short letter say once a week. Nothing like having something arrive in the mail from someone you care about. Consider writing a portion or all of it in Chinese. She will appreciate the gesture.

And remember, September is not that far off in the future.

Good luck! :)
 
That would be a pretty kick arse grand romantic move...and then she'd love ya for a while!(I'd imagine, unless she meat someone else, in which case you'd feel stupid and be out the plane ticket cost, but she doesn't sound like that type of girl)

Yeah, lets not make him feel any worse then he already does.;)
 
But also write her a short letter say once a week. Nothing like having something arrive in the mail from someone you care about. Consider writing a portion or all of it in Chinese. She will appreciate the gesture.
Great idea, Sushi. There's nothing quite like a handwritten letter (unless your scrawl is as hideous as that of my honey; he missed his calling as a doctor, it seems). You can also buy cute "thinking of you" if you're ever at a loss for words. Send pics, too!
 
Thanks a lot guys/girls.

I went for a long walk with my D50 tonight and it really let me think about things. I'm really lucky this summer because I got a job working as an Apple email support rep, and I will also be doing some phone support.

The second half of the summer, I'll be working as an event coordinator with Brock University's IELP (Intensive English Language Program). I am really excited about this opportunity, because I'll be involved in planning events, as well as photography and small website design.

So, I've got a lot to look forward to. Thanks all for easing my mind (for now) :)

Lee: She's got a lot better chance with me than 98% of Canadian girls, that's for sure :D
 
heading towards Beijing at 900km/h. She will be back Monday, September 3rd.

Why does it take so long?

LauLau said:
Send her a sweet package of something in the post. Not something expensive, just something heartfelt or handmade or similar. It'll make you feel better to be planning it, and she'll love it.

Lau, you're such a closet, wannabe Blue Peter™ presenter. ;)
 
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