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Why is life complicated? Completely off topic to macs....

pulsewidth947 said:
I'm not really expecting any responses here, I just want to rant, and being the geek I am, I prefer to rant with my fingers.

I know I'm only 25, and very pessimistic, but why is life so complicated? The reason I ask is I've recently realised that I'm very much in love with my best friend. Of course the problem is, she considers us 'just friends' :) Obviously that wasnt the reaction I was hoping for. The worse thing is - she really is my best friend - who I go to for everything.. so obviously I can't talk to her about how a girl is breaking my heart!

Don't get me wrong, I'm completely delighted that I have her as a best friend. She understands me better than anybody I've ever met, but how do you fall out of love with someone? I've tried concentrating on her flaws, but I don't see any.

very very frustrating..
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Ugh, I'm in the exact same boat. I have liked this girl for about 3 years but we're only "best friends." Every one of our friends are always asking if we're dating or saying that we should but nope, we aren't. I figure if it's meant to be it'll happen eventually.
 
Emergent properties; hormones, neurochemicals and the like.
You may, as Chris Rock once said, be in the friend zone. you have a choice - would you rather never make a move, but live with not giving it a shot, and having to live with dealing with your feelings without telling her
or, tell her, and see what happens, knowing the consequences might include losing her as a friend, or gaining her as your soulmate/girlfriend.

It's a hard choice, and i feel for you. You could always play a subtle flirting game with her. Double meaning sentences with drop pauses, naughty smiles, general flirting...
If you're such good friends, go and take her for a suprise dance class, or dinner date at a place/food type she enjoys. i'm sure you have many ways of suprising her, by knowing her well as a friend. don't have to take it any further.
 
carbonmotion said:
Question for the OP: How old is this gal?

What is your nationality/ethnicity and her nationality/ethnicity?
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Not really sure why this is relevant but she's 29, I'm 25. We are both white english.

GSMiller said:
Ugh, I'm in the exact same boat. I have liked this girl for about 3 years but we're only "best friends." Every one of our friends are always asking if we're dating or saying that we should but nope, we aren't. I figure if it's meant to be it'll happen eventually.
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Tough, isn't it mate?!

t0mat0 said:
Emergent properties; hormones, neurochemicals and the like.
You may, as Chris Rock once said, be in the friend zone. you have a choice - would you rather never make a move, but live with not giving it a shot, and having to live with dealing with your feelings without telling her
or, tell her, and see what happens, knowing the consequences might include losing her as a friend, or gaining her as your soulmate/girlfriend.

It's a hard choice, and i feel for you. You could always play a subtle flirting game with her. Double meaning sentences with drop pauses, naughty smiles, general flirting...
If you're such good friends, go and take her for a suprise dance class, or dinner date at a place/food type she enjoys. i'm sure you have many ways of suprising her, by knowing her well as a friend. don't have to take it any further.
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To be honest, I would be crushed losing her as a friend. So I'll never do anything to jeopardize that. I do surprise her with nice things regularly. But I think that you should do this for your best friend anyway!
 
I seem to have the opposite problem to you all, I can't make friends because whenever I do they fall in love with me >_<
 
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