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Yet More Girl Advice

ghall

ghall

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Okay, this thread is a follow-up to my last thread, but I figured the question was different enough to warrent it's own thread. (Mods, please merge if you disagree).

So basically, I've been thinking about this for a while. We were just gonna hang out around at school (our school is open until 5:00), but that sounds kind of boring. I was wondering if it might be appropriate to take her to this great street that I know, they have all kinds of restaurants, cafes, shops, and such. It's a pretty popular place for high school/college students to hang out.

I am rather new to this whole dating thing, so I am unsure what would be appropriate here. Thanks.
 
ghall said:
Okay, this thread is a follow-up to my last thread, but I figured the question was different enough to warrent it's own thread. (Mods, please merge if you disagree).

So basically, I've been thinking about this for a while. We were just gonna hang out around at school (our school is open until 5:00), but that sounds kind of boring. I was wondering if it might be appropriate to take her to this great street that I know, they have all kinds of restaurants, cafes, shops, and such. It's a pretty popular place for high school/college students to hang out.

I am rather new to this whole dating thing, so I am unsure what would be appropriate here. Thanks.
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Oh yes! A café, or ice cream parlour is great for a first date. It's a great place to just talk and get to know each other. As a warning, from my experience there is no secret formula to "creating" a perfect rendez-vous. They are either super great and the two of us have a lot to talk about, or they can be really awkward with lots of silences between bouts of talk about the weather.

Don't bring flowers on the first date. Just yourself and your best, cleanest shirt. No heavy aftershave or cologne. Just get to know each other better. Good topics to start with are: "the biscotti here is to die for!" - or some other food or drink you could recommend. If that doesn't go anywhere except an ok or other mono syllabic response, sit at your table and go, "So tell me about you. What do you like in life?" Hopefully that will trail off into a wonderful evening.

Oh and one more tip: CONFIDENCE! Even if you're nervous as hell, and your palms are sweating and you're conscious about your walk and you feel even more awkward...take a deep breath and just at least pretend to be confident. Girls love a guy that takes control...to a certain point of course.

PS: I would recommend you NOT taking her picture on the first date. That could seem kinda creepy. Just let the first date allow you two to break the ice. Not evaporate it.
 
Mavimao said:
Oh yes! A café, or ice cream parlour is great for a first date. It's a great place to just talk and get to know each other. As a warning, from my experience there is no secret formula to "creating" a perfect rendez-vous. They are either super great and the two of us have a lot to talk about, or they can be really awkward with lots of silences between bouts of talk about the weather.

Don't bring flowers on the first date. Just yourself and your best, cleanest shirt. No heavy aftershave or cologne. Just get to know each other better. Good topics to start with are: "the biscotti here is to die for!" - or some other food or drink you could recommend. If that doesn't go anywhere except an ok or other mono syllabic response, sit at your table and go, "So tell me about you. What do you like in life?" Hopefully that will trail off into a wonderful evening.

Oh and one more tip: CONFIDENCE! Even if you're nervous as hell, and your palms are sweating and you're conscious about your walk and you feel even more awkward...take a deep breath and just at least pretend to be confident. Girls love a guy that takes control...to a certain point of course.
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Pretty much what I was going to say in a nutshell. Good advice! :)
 
A sense of humor is also a good thing.Don't be afraid to laugh and to laugh at yourself (a good sign of self confidence).Open ended questions are also great to keep a conversation going.Most importantly,be yourself,relax and have fun. Good luck!!
 
johnee said:
Look, just act like Frank Costello from The Departed, and everything will be golden :D :D
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Yeah, I have no idea who that is, but thanks. :confused:

Anyway, here's the message I sent her:

No, I'm not cancelling our meeting. I was just wondering if you wanted to go somewhere else, since being at school might be a bit boring. I understand if you can't or don't want to, but I'm just throwing it out there. Have you been to [the cool place]? I have a few favorite places to hang out over there, or maybe you know someplace we could go.
Well, either way, see you Wednesday.
-[my name]

How is it?
 
A better way to say it would have been, "Hey do you want to do something other then hang out at school."
 
Try not to sound desperate, try to be spontaneous. Don't plan the evening out before hand, let it happen as the evening progresses.

By saying "do you want to get a bite to eat" does not sound as bad as, "hey I found this great place."
 
You didn't say wrong more as you said to much. Keep it simple, don't try so hard to get her to notice.
 
MacNut said:
Next time keep it simple. just say, "do you want to hang out later", is all you need. Let the attraction come natural
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Noted for future referance. :)
(I probably shouldn't say stuff like that, should I?)

Well, I hope it'll work out. I'll let you guys know if anything interesting happens.
 
MacNut said:
Next time keep it simple...Let the attraction come natural
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Great advice....just be more like the Mac and not like the PC. That's way it will "just work"...if you come at her with a bunch of security prompts and a camera taped to your head, she's gonna give you the Blue Screen of Death.
 
ghall said:
Noted for future referance. :)
(I probably shouldn't say stuff like that, should I?)

Well, I hope it'll work out. I'll let you guys know if anything interesting happens.
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MacNut is right in a lot of the posted ways, however it's always easier when it isn't your relationship you're talking about.

I tell all my friends those same things but then when it's my turn I can't stop talking, say waaaay too much then totally somersault sideways into hardly speaking at all! :eek:
You'll do fine, just keep things light and enjoy yourself/ves.
 
Right now, I'm doing a bit of investigating. Right now, I'm looking through her Facebook notes to get an idea of what kind of music she likes. Thank god for iTunes. :D

Is that too weird?
 
TheAnswer said:
Great advice....just be more like the Mac and not like the PC. That's way it will "just work"...if you come at her with a bunch of security prompts and a camera taped to your head, she's gonna give you the Blue Screen of Death.
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:p

Oh man, it's sad that I actually understand all that.
 
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