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No offense to your girlfirend, but that kind of stuff is really annoying. It can be worked on but I do not believe men should be coerced into always agreeing with their women on the "cuteness" factor, esspecially when it means squelching their own opinion, solely due to insecurities. No matter what, there will always be someone else out there who is *gasp* cute, hot, or beautiful, maybe even more so than the women (or man). My boyfiend has a sister who pulls this crap all the time but to the point of making a huge deal out of it, tearing her boyfriends head off (literally), and basically ruining the good times of everyone around her because she can't deal with the fact that she isn't the only girl around. Her BF (and there have been MANY due to this) can not even be in the same room with a pretty girl without a giant fight. It's gotten so bad no one wants to hang out with her. I try not to get upset and understand that it's coming from her low self-esteem but it is very difficult when I get told by her that the only reason I can appreciate a woman's beauty is to get brownie points with her brother (OMG how wrong can she be!). No, it's because women are beautiful, every single variety of them, and that should be admired, not despised just because they may be more beautiful than me.

Wow, that was a bit long.

You may have hit a nerve!

I will close by saying your (the OP) girl must be one hell of a woman for you to be ok with that. Reinforce the fact that you love her and not the girl on TV you think is cute, and let her know that you are entitled to your own opinion. I hate to say this, but by appeasing her when she does this you may be setting yourself up for (for lack of a better word) a wee bit of brainwashing. :)
 
jadekitty24 said:
No offense to your girlfirend, but that kind of stuff is really annoying. It can be worked on but I do not believe men should be coerced into always agreeing with their women on the "cuteness" factor, esspecially when it means squelching their own opinion, solely due to insecurities. No matter what, there will always be someone else out there who is *gasp* cute, hot, or beautiful, maybe even more so than the women (or man). My boyfiend has a sister who pulls this crap all the time but to the point of making a huge deal out of it, tearing her boyfriends head off (literally), and basically ruining the good times of everyone around her because she can't deal with the fact that she isn't the only girl around. Her BF (and there have been MANY due to this) can not even be in the same room with a pretty girl without a giant fight. It's gotten so bad no one wants to hang out with her. I try not to get upset and understand that it's coming from her low self-esteem but it is very difficult when I get told by her that the only reason I can appreciate a woman's beauty is to get brownie points with her brother (OMG how wrong can she be!). No, it's because women are beautiful, every single variety of them, and that should be admired, not despised just because they may be more beautiful than me.

Wow, that was a bit long.

You may have hit a nerve!

I will close by saying your (the OP) girl must be one hell of a woman for you to be ok with that. Reinforce the fact that you love her and not the girl on TV you think is cute, and let her know that you are entitled to your own opinion. I hate to say this, but by appeasing her when she does this you may be setting yourself up for (for lack of a better word) a wee bit of brainwashing. :)
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Sounds like your boyfriend is one lucky dude. :)
 
Thee are no fights, we dont yell at each other, we dont get upset its just friendly talking. Its like when you have a PC friend and your explaining to the why a mac is better, there is no fighting i would call it friendly dialog.

The reason for this thread is to inform the men at MR that they are fighting a losing battle :)

I got some nice tips here and i will use them soon *devil laugh*.

p.s yes my GF is cute, very cute and sexy.
 
Don't let her rule your decisions and don't let her make up your own mind. Its ok to disagree - if you think she's cute, she's cute. If she thinks she's not that's her opinion. Respect it and move on.

And remember that attraction isn't just physical appearance - she could be the hottest thing out there, but if she doesn't have it all there mentally (and that means more than intelligence - its part smarts, humor, quirkiness, etc. all the things in her personality that make her who she is).

If she continues with this, move on.

Good luck,

D
 
Me and my girlfriend have a understanding that if the person is on TV we probably won't be hooking up or dating them, so it doesnt matter what you say.

If my girlfriend tried to describe to me what cute is I would tell her that:
a) she is not me, therefore I will decide what is cute and what is not
b) if she asks, then she should be prepared for the answer
and
c) if she doesnt think I know what cute is, then would that mean she isnt cute (this is of course assuming you believe your girlfriend is cute)
 
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