Me and my husband have these friends, let's call them, "Tina" and "Matt"
Tina, and her husband, Matt are the sloppiest of people, and they don't really care how they live, or what kind of life they live with heir kids. Matt works all day, and Tina stays home with the kids. All of the day she would veg out at the computer, and yell at her kids. She hardly exercises, and hardly eats. If she does eat, it's large bags of candy from Sam's Club, or other junk. So yeah she is overweight. She calls my husband to complain about how much her life sucks, and how much she wishes to lose weight, and other things. Yet she continues to live in that same pattern, and she has this "I don't give a spit" attitude about herself. I dread going to their place, because of how disgusting it is. They let their youngest daughter pee all over the furniture, they have a lot of animals they really don't take care of, and the house itself is nasty, with piles of dirty dishes all over the table, countertops, and anywhere else in the house. Dirty cloths cover the floors, along with dirt and dog feces. I feel like I have to soak myself in bleach to get myself clean once I come home.
Yesterday, Tina called us, saying that she had chest pains and shortness of breath. She asked if hubby could come over and watch the kids, at the same time, she was pining for my sympathy. I came back with a "You don't need to sleep off whatever you have, you need to get your butt to a hospital". After that, possibly change your habits." She came back saying 'I hope you realize that my mother has heart problems" I said back, "And so this is the perfect time to start giving a spit about yourself, Get yourself to a doctor." She started to cry, and hung up. I told hubby what happened and he called he back. She must have told him that I was out to draw blood, and he told her in the end that he was going to "Deal with me" Which in the end he agreed that I had to say what I needed to say to her. Matt was at work, he had to be present at a mandatory meeting. So calling him out would have been useless. So she called hubby to help her watch the kids while she "Slept it off" I swear I could have slapped her.
After hubby came home, he said he had a lengthy discussion with Matt, concerning Tina and her health. He said that he would be a better boost and motivator for her to get her health, and her life back into shape.
So after all of this is said and done, Tina think I was being a bit harsh to her, that maybe I thought of it as being a little more than just being a minor complication. "Chest pain" and "shortness of breath" rang bells to me, since my family has a long history of heart problems. One cannot sleep it off, that needs prompt care. I was direct with her, since she was again pining me for sympathy, that she was in pain, she expected me to say, "Awww you poor thing you, I'll send my husband right away" when I know for a fact that she did this to herself, and deserves no sympathy what so ever.
So , was I harsh? Or did I give her much deserved cummuffance?
Sorry this was long
Tina, and her husband, Matt are the sloppiest of people, and they don't really care how they live, or what kind of life they live with heir kids. Matt works all day, and Tina stays home with the kids. All of the day she would veg out at the computer, and yell at her kids. She hardly exercises, and hardly eats. If she does eat, it's large bags of candy from Sam's Club, or other junk. So yeah she is overweight. She calls my husband to complain about how much her life sucks, and how much she wishes to lose weight, and other things. Yet she continues to live in that same pattern, and she has this "I don't give a spit" attitude about herself. I dread going to their place, because of how disgusting it is. They let their youngest daughter pee all over the furniture, they have a lot of animals they really don't take care of, and the house itself is nasty, with piles of dirty dishes all over the table, countertops, and anywhere else in the house. Dirty cloths cover the floors, along with dirt and dog feces. I feel like I have to soak myself in bleach to get myself clean once I come home.
Yesterday, Tina called us, saying that she had chest pains and shortness of breath. She asked if hubby could come over and watch the kids, at the same time, she was pining for my sympathy. I came back with a "You don't need to sleep off whatever you have, you need to get your butt to a hospital". After that, possibly change your habits." She came back saying 'I hope you realize that my mother has heart problems" I said back, "And so this is the perfect time to start giving a spit about yourself, Get yourself to a doctor." She started to cry, and hung up. I told hubby what happened and he called he back. She must have told him that I was out to draw blood, and he told her in the end that he was going to "Deal with me" Which in the end he agreed that I had to say what I needed to say to her. Matt was at work, he had to be present at a mandatory meeting. So calling him out would have been useless. So she called hubby to help her watch the kids while she "Slept it off" I swear I could have slapped her.
After hubby came home, he said he had a lengthy discussion with Matt, concerning Tina and her health. He said that he would be a better boost and motivator for her to get her health, and her life back into shape.
So after all of this is said and done, Tina think I was being a bit harsh to her, that maybe I thought of it as being a little more than just being a minor complication. "Chest pain" and "shortness of breath" rang bells to me, since my family has a long history of heart problems. One cannot sleep it off, that needs prompt care. I was direct with her, since she was again pining me for sympathy, that she was in pain, she expected me to say, "Awww you poor thing you, I'll send my husband right away" when I know for a fact that she did this to herself, and deserves no sympathy what so ever.
So , was I harsh? Or did I give her much deserved cummuffance?
Sorry this was long
