Is this just sales talk ? Is the apple ram somehow better quality ? If I put after market ram in will it melt ? I am VERY skeptical myself but thought I'd ask people who may know more than me.
The apple sales staff has been notoriously going downhill, in terms of reasonableness. When I went into the apple store and called the last few times the sales people I spoke with have outright lied to me, or told me some very very false things. Some of which were said to get me to buy their product, in their section they were operating in, within the store.
Don't always believe what you hear, even if that person is wearing a nametag.