I am in close proximity to a 3 year old visiting us who anytime she does not get what she want goes into tantrum mode fairly quickly and during this time, if you speak to them, trying to resolve the issue, they respond by shrieking at the top of their lungs, as in "what's wrong"? SCREAM. "why are you mad?" SCREAM!!! "I'm sorry, but you can't have ice cream as your dinner." SCREAM!!!!!!! I attribute this to a lack of discipline, her parents just send her to her room and let her scream until she wears out. Of interest, she will later appear as if everything is wonderful, and nothing happened. When I had young kids, I believed there was a time for swats, sometimes if words did not work, a well applied pinch resolved an issue quickly. Note I said swats and pinches, not beatings. It seems to me that if you child never gets a swat, the sky is the limit for bad behavior if they have nothing to fear in response. Opinions? BTW, not my grandchild if you were thinking this and I do not apply any corporal punishment, just send her to her room. I’m tempted to carry a set of ear plugs. Edit: To clarify, we have a grandparent relationship with these kids, but are not their biological grandparents.