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A Respectful Goodbye

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CubaTBird said:
just a thought.. how can you miss someone you never met? :confused: :eek:
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Through their comments, after a while you kinda know how they think and you miss that, but meh what do I know I talk out of my arse 99% of the time.:D
 
You don't need to bond face to face to miss someone.

How can I miss people I have only met 2 or 3 times?

Sdashiki said:
its called playful irony.
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Not really. Nobody posted repeatedly in the GayWay thread to whine.

This whole forum is off-topic, so I don't see the big deal if we stray way off topic in any particular thread. I know some people will tell me that it's because they didn't discuss anything related to the thread title, but does it really matter in the grand scem0 of things? The Community forum is really just a forum for bonding. Its not about Macs, and it's not needed at all. So they were chatting and discussing many different things.

Signs of a healthy forum and board, possibly. However, watch the entire place go downhill if this Community forum was closed.

Good luck with everything you do later. Come by sometime and post once in a while, won't you? ;) I'm glad that you posted a goodbye thread. Its better than leaving abruptly and never knowing where people left or why they disappeared. :(
 
Goodbye Emerson (and the thread that dare's not speak it's name)

I for one will miss your insightful postings Emerson, and it simply amazes me that so called intelligent people can claim that your 6,426 posts were in regard to that one thread. In fact if they'd looked before posting a diatribe of venom against you and the GayWay thread, that you'd only posted 543 times.

I shall miss you on the boards as I shall miss the thread 'that dare's not speak it's name' That thread was my introduction to the MR, and like any first love, it will not be soon forgotten. Both you and the thread helped me so very much in coming to terms with death, and with life as well. Y'all have made me a better person for it. Thank you scemO.

Grey Beard
 
I think that anyone who leaves a discussion board should have their goodbye. This way some effort can be taken to fix whatever made them leave, which may improve things for others.

Plus, haven't you all wondered what happens when someone dies, and so they never post again. Wouldn't you worry, if someone online disappeared, if something bad had happenned? Much better for someone to say goodbye, so we know they're ok.
 
Gah, bummer.

Take it easy, wherever you make it Emerson. Maybe I'll bump into you in NYC sometime this winter.

Not that you would know me if you did....but....whatever.

Take care.
 
I'm leaving too, is 555 posts enough to be considered important?

Will anyone miss me!? :rolleyes: :D
 
gwuMACaddict said:
according to his profile, he's logged in and viewing other threads right now... :rolleyes:
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He's probably just reading the comments in this thread, and viewing other threads that catch his interest. I realize this isn't truly leaving then, but if he doesn't plan on posting anymore, that's fair enough. Perhaps he'll just revert back to a lurker, as we all once were... :cool:
 
ohcrap said:
I'm leaving too, is 555 posts enough to be considered important?

Will anyone miss me!? :rolleyes: :D
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Nope, but you might want to change your username once again.

See ya, beenflushed

:p
 
CubaTBird said:
just a thought.. how can you miss someone you never met? :confused: :eek:
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I have not met a lot of the people that I have come to know here on MR, just a few. But that does not mean that there can't be a closeness to that person - all without face-to-face contact.

It is a sign of the times. Hell, I know more about some members her than I do about my co-workers. And look forward to their "conversations" more.

{In order to comply with not wanting to be a "spam and/or count whore, I will address general comments about scem0's and some others choice in leaving MR.}

Evidently there has been some heat on the Mod's over the GayWay thread. Some of it was addressed within that thread. And the first concerns about the GayWay thread's survival was addressed by the posters in that thread.

The friendly banter between "friends" in that thread did run up post counts. There were those of us -I share some of the blame - but at the same point tried to keep the thread more or less on topic.

Rightly or wrongly, some took the last dust up personally. And little time was allowed for the situation to correct itself as it did in the past.

There is a sense of community that brought many of us in to the MR family. MR has become for many people a "one-stop-shop" for everything Mac and for what is important in our lives - from births, illnesses, marriages, breakups, death, and everything else in between.

The loss of people like scem0 and others over the GayWay is regrettable. For the GayWay was a part of their (and my) posting on MR. But what about those that quit without saying anything?

It brings about the question that MR needs to address, just who is a contributer. Is it by post counts? Is it becoming a Demi-God/Goddess? MR is successful because of its membership. But which members should have a say in how things are run by the Mods?

Some of the more vocal people on that MR is a Mac board, and should relate only to the Mac - are the ones that have not contributed financially to MR. Or may have more than their fair share of posts in non-Mac related threads.

I am not happy that the GayWay was closed. Only because that thread attracted not just the Gay/Lesbian (ok, few Lesbians posted - but they were always welcomed), but others that contributed to the fabric of life. Just as some of the threads I started were answered and helped by many voices coming to answer the question at hand.

I posted a question on the possibility of a separate "Gay" thread to answer some concerns that the GayWay had. This was soundly beaten down even by the Gay/Lesbian community here. Segregation it seemed was not the answer at that time. But mixed messages from Mods (according to some), and heated tempers by GayWay members have lead just to that end.

Unlike others, I have not (yet) chosen to leave MR. But at the same point I wonder how posts about my (ex)lover being sent to the hospital or my posts about my breakup with my (ex)lover would be handled in the current climate.

Maybe it is time for MR to move to a two forum system. A Mac forum, where posts count. And a community forum, where posts don't count. Remove from the front page any links to threads that don't deal with Mac's specifically.

Something like this may address the concerns that some voiced about the GayWay and other non-Mac threads here on MR. And maybe allow for a sense of community that draws so many to MR.

Otherwise there might be other goodbyes, or where did they goes.
 
Have to say I agree with ~Shard~ and Lacero, both of whom posted quite eloquently.

scem0, you will be missed. I hope you will check in from time to time to let us know how you are doing.

May your iPod socks never fade.:)
 
Chip NoVaMac said:
There is a sense of community that brought many of us in to the MR family. MR has become for many people a "one-stop-shop" for everything Mac and for what is important in our lives - from births, illnesses, marriages, breakups, death, and everything else in between.
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Unlike others, I have not (yet) chosen to leave MR. But at the same point I wonder how posts about my (ex)lover being sent to the hospital or my posts about my breakup with my (ex)lover would be handled in the current climate.
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Post it Chip, and I'll read it, and respond, wherever it may be - I was moved by your ongoing experience and your bravery in sharing it with us. I don't give a flip about anatomical preference, the GayWay thread was valuable to me... well, not the thread per se, but the people, their posts and the honesty. There was IMO some of the best Community posting in the entire MR there.

Is what doomed the thread the difference between "Discussion" and "Social"? Don't know. Also don't know how anyone'd keep a thread on topic if there were a separation between "Discussion of issues" and "general social interaction"
 
Hey I liked that thread and scem0 is a good guy. It was getting so hard to keep up with however so I only jumped in here and there in it's final days. Just reading some of those posts changed the way I feel about things.

Scem0, I know you say you won't come back, but maybe in a few days you will cool down and decide to come back and at least let us know how you are doing.
 
CanadaRAM said:
Post it Chip, and I'll read it, and respond, wherever it may be - I was moved by your ongoing experience and your bravery in sharing it with us. I don't give a flip about anatomical preference, the GayWay thread was valuable to me... well, not the thread per se, but the people, their posts and the honesty. There was IMO some of the best Community posting in the entire MR there.
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Thanks. I think it was Jay in Phili and his wife's cheating that drew me in to the sense of family here on MR. Sure he was married to a woman, but there were somethings that I shared something in common with him. And this was before my berak-up!

I have shared a lot in his thread, and MacDawg's job and family threads. And in StuBeef's many triumphs and trials. Ed H's love and support and offer to give my beloved Chewey a home at all costs. Makisushi's support on freelancing, when my job was downsized. To FFTT and On The Brink who came to visit at work. And so many others that can not name.

The GayWay provided some of us a place to hang our hat on MR. Is it any different than threads here on F1 racing? Or any of the "top" six threads in non-Mac related "communities" here?

So far I have chosen not to leave. But with some "voices" now gone, It will be hard to double post in two forums and get a "clear" picture to the questions I ask.

As long as non-Mac related posts in the "open" forums are accepted, then there needs to be equal application of the rules and policies. Sure the picture association thread was killed too. But I think we can agree there are so many other threads that deserve to be closed or wastelanded too.

In the end rest assured that when I feel the need for comment form my MR family, I will post. Some may note that my posts have become more positive on the personal side after June. Asking for advice on SF and Chicago travel.

Hell, I procrastinated in asking about travel to Iceland in January or February in the GayWay thread after a freezing reception. <g> So there might be a tread post on that soon. In part to to the support on my other issues and posts here, my life is moving on.

Is what doomed the thread the difference between "Discussion" and "Social"? Don't know. Also don't know how anyone'd keep a thread on topic if there were a separation between "Discussion of issues" and "general social interaction"
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There was a desire in the GayWay thread "members" to be able to discuss "issues" that were deemed important by the participants. This led to a wide range of posts. And at times the posts did seem to be nothing more than PM's between friends. But is that any different than other threads here?

I posted a "request" thread here for a Gay/Lesibian sub group. It was beaten down by both sides. It seems that has won, and one has lost. For I saw at the time that the GayWay thread was doomed. Too broad and too "hot" for the Mods to be able to handle by themselves.

I think you hit on a message that I support, and that is the "general social action". I know that I have learned a lot from the Political Forums, though I don't post much there much any more. Though I do read it on a regular basis.

Again thanks for the words of support on my many threads here. I posted out of need at the time, and I shared so others that might stumble on them might find comfort in my pain and concern at the time. And the many words of love and support that I have gotten.

Chip
 
Abercrombieboy said:
Hey I liked that thread and scem0 is a good guy. It was getting so hard to keep up with however so I only jumped in here and there in it's final days. Just reading some of those posts changed the way I feel about things.
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It is a post like yours that causes me concern about the turn of events. I liked your posts. They provided a new look on topics. With the closing of the GayWay, we have lost voices like yours. We might have not ended up agreeing, but maybe in the end learning from each other.
 
WTF!

I get back from School, Gayway thread is closed.

"due to this just being a thread full of mostly nonsense posts in an effort to raise post counts, this thread is closed."

Then I want all non-mac related forums closed, if that is your reason.

Whats with Post counts anyways? Who freeakin cares about post counts.
OOOOO Im somebody cause I have 1,000,000 posts, GET REAL!
THATS A SORRY EXCUSE IF I HAVE EVER HEARD ONE.

Emerson, I hope you and Lee ...??? ... Whatever you two have ....???
Best wishes :)



:confused:

:(
 
I remember when I first joined the forums, you were one of the posters that I looked up to. It's sad to see you go, even though we never really talked. You'll be remembered.

Much love <3
 
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