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Age Difference

Spock said:
Im almost 100% sure its not about about sex.They just want to go out to a movie or dinner every now and then more like friends then anything nothing serious.
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In fairness to all, one can only be that sure about something when you are the actual person involved and know what the day-to-day plans consist of ... anything else comes under the umbrella of speculation. If you are right, then it would seem to be a platonic relationship at least for the forseeable future.
 
Provided the intentions of both are reasonable and, well, not statutory rape, then all is well. Sometimes the difference can be a definite asset: I'm 22 and my current fella is 35 - I get on with him MUCH better than I did with any of the fellas closer to my age.
 
Spock said:
Im almost 100% sure its not about about sex.They just want to go out to a movie or dinner every now and then more like friends then anything nothing serious.
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You should really just look at their intentions. If their intentions are fine with you, then them being together should be fine with you. Their intentions are a million times more important than their respective ages. You can't ask "Is a 17 year old girl going out with a 21 year old guy alright?" In order to answer that question I'd have to know both of them for a while, know their personalities, and know their intentions with each other.
 
Spock said:
Im almost 100% sure its not about about sex.They just want to go out to a movie or dinner every now and then more like friends then anything nothing serious.
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Then there really shouldn't be a problem - unless you're not telling us the whole story.

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I did more than 4 :p

I started dating an ex when I was 17.8 (nearing birthday) and she was 22.8 (nearing birthday as well), so a 5 year span. It worked fine for us as I was more mature than my age (in relationships) and she was slightly less mature in relationships and life. Neither of our families were really keen on it in the beginning though, it took a solid few months to prove to them all that we meant it and it wasn't just a joke or for screwing. When they finally bought it :)D) we were fine, mostly. My mother never really cared for her which can make things hard, but her and I were fine.

It is about maturity, but it's also about societal norms as sad as that may be. 17 is only 1 year past 16 which just sounds far too young to even talk about for me, and I'm only 21 too! Not sure what it is about that 1 year, but it certainly matters.

I prefer older women so dropping to 17 would be freaky-weird, but I think it's doable if you both really care for each other. Be prepared to defend the relationship at times though, sad but it will need to be done.
 
My bf and I started dating when I was 20 and he was 27. I must say that this is the best relationship I ever had.

I think that it really depends on each person's stage in life as well. I've found that I really notice the age difference when he started working but I am still in school. This was worse than when we started our relationship when we were both still in school (he was doing his master but I was in undergrad). Anyhow, it really wasn't that big of a deal. We got through it and things are great now. :D

17/21 could work too, it really depends on each couple. Good luck.
 
I went out with a 28 year old guy when I was 19. We stayed together for 2 years or so. I didn't find the age a massive problem. I was (apparently) fairly mature for my age, and he played PlayStation all the time. I think we met somewhere in the middle. :D

I eventually dumped him because he was an inconsiderate git who played PlayStation all the time :D , but again, I'm not sure age was the problem, I think we wanted different things.

Plenty of relationships work out with bigger age gaps than them, so I say if the personalities work, why not? I don't find it especially pervy (perhaps because the age of consent is 16 here).
 
I would have to agree with those who said that it really depends. There are circumstances when I'd say it would be just fine, and others where it wouldnt seem as appropriate. I guess it just depends on the two people and thier intentions. I'd agree though, that when she hits 20/21 that it wont matter at all.

Having said that, my wife is 16 months (exactly) younger than I am and most of the time, I really forget that fact. (She will be 22 soon - so not a big deal anyway).
 
Lau said:
I eventually dumped him because he was an inconsiderate git who played PlayStation all the time :D , but again, I'm not sure age was the problem, I think we wanted different things.
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Have we met? hehe, j/k.
 
No biggie, I'd say. My wife is 10 years older than me, and when I was 18 my gf was 23 (that relationship lasted 5 years). In fact, most gf's have been older. Don't worry about it.
 
remember the rule

divide your age in half and add 7 that is the rule for the youngest you can date :p

as for right now i am with someone that is 26 and i am 20
 
eva01 said:
remember the rule

divide your age in half and add 7 that is the rule for the youngest you can date :p

as for right now i am with someone that is 26 and i am 20
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That's a *very* interesting theory... ;)
 
eva01 said:
remember the rule

divide your age in half and add 7 that is the rule for the youngest you can date :p

as for right now i am with someone that is 26 and i am 20
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Wow.... that's a good rule.
 
eva01 said:
remember the rule

divide your age in half and add 7 that is the rule for the youngest you can date :p

as for right now i am with someone that is 26 and i am 20
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Then when I'm 80 years old, I'll definitely be going after the 47 year olds!
 
Yeah 4 years is nothing. the half plus 7 rule is a rhater old one though. I knew about that years ago, but it's not always applicable. I mean I find it hard to date anyone around my age. I am alot more mature, I mean I went to s psych one day to talk about it and he said I act like i'm about 29..and i'm 18 so it's mostly about maturity.

Unfortunatley it also depends on the person your dating. I'm intrested in a 25 year old but I don't know how it's going to go down. She says it's too old, but at the same time she tell's me age dosen't really matter.

Go with it and see how it goes. that's the best adive I can give you.
 
Age difference of 4 or 8 years apart is my rule.

So if a guy is 28, he matches well with a girl aged 24 or 20. Or 32, if he likes older women.

Such as, 22 and 18 work well.
 
Soooo... all of you who say it's OK and age doesn't matter.

Stop for a second and think really hard on this:

You'd let your 17 year old daughter date a 21 year old? You'd have NO reservations at all? None?
 
yellow said:
Soooo... all of you who say it's OK and age doesn't matter.

Stop for a second and think really hard on this:

You'd let your 17 year old daughter date a 21 year old? You'd have NO reservations at all? None?
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Personally if i were to ever have children and it would be a daughter i would always have reservations about who she dates, no matter his age or her age. So that isn't all that applicable in this situation in at least my case.
 
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