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Yes. :p

For Christ's sake, and a future generation of Campbell's, please, do something!!!

Why wouldn't she suspect it's her? The timing and details All match up with what she experienced yesterday. I don't see why the thought wouldn't at least cross her mind.

Anyways, maybe that is a little out there, but that's irrelevant.

At this point I am planning to go tomorrow, early afternoon probably. I don't feel like I'm going to be able to work up the courage, but I'm going to make my legs move regardless, and when I reach that door, I'll have no choice but to speak. I'm kind of hoping she won't be there, because then I can give my card to one of her roommates, and have her email me. That would be less awkward. :)
 
Just go over there, knock on the door, and when she answers, say "o hai thar," and "remember me, babe? My Aunt gave you a ride," and finally "want to go grab a coffee or something?"

Then you (hopefully) know what to do from there.
 
Just go over there, knock on the door, and when she answers, say "o hai thar," and "remember me, babe? My Aunt gave you a ride," and finally "want to go grab a coffee or something?"

Then you (hopefully) know what to do from there.

I know what to do from there, but I feel I could use some improvement in that area as well. Let's say that I'm interested in having a summer relationship with her. I want to get to know her a bit before deciding I definitely want that, but if I hang out with her too much without bringing it up, we get caught in the friend zone. So how do I move towards the discussion of a relationship?

edit: I'm getting really nervous. I talked with a sibling today on the phone about it, and I feel more confident now, but I still get shivers when I think about the reality of it. I'll report back here tomorrow evening!
 
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I did it! I knocked on different doors of the building until I found someone who knew in which unit she lived, and then I knocked on her door, and she wasn't there. I'll try again this evening.

I did it! I actually went up to her door and knocked. I'm free now! I've gotten over the hump of fear. I can't believe it!

I'll report back when I actually talk to her. :)
 
Or did you mean I was delusional to think that she'd suspect it's her?

Of all the gin joints on the Internet, what are the chances she would end up here?

I did it! I actually went up to her door and knocked. I'm free now! I've gotten over the hump of fear. I can't believe it!

The real hump of fear comes when you have to talk to her.

I'll report back when I actually talk to her. :)

I have no doubt you will report back.
 
Of all the gin joints on the Internet, what are the chances she would end up here?



The real hump of fear comes when you have to talk to her.



I have no doubt you will report back.

For me, the fear is all about getting up to the door and knocking. I have no fear or anxiety surrounding talking to people. So, I did get over my hump of fear. I'll still feel a bit of fear on my way back there, but I'll just ignore it. That's what I did last time. I'm not afraid of feeling afraid anymore. I know I can do things in spite of fear. And the fear won't be nearly as strong as it was the first time, because now I know which room she's in, and I can just go straight up to that one and knock, and say "Hi! I enjoyed meeting you the other day, and would like to hang out with you. I could help you with your english!" or whatever. That part doesn't really concern me. I'm not shy or awkward once a conversation is started.
 
I did it! I knocked on different doors of the building until I found someone who knew in which unit she lived, and then I knocked on her door, and she wasn't there. I'll try again this evening.

I did it! I actually went up to her door and knocked. I'm free now! I've gotten over the hump of fear. I can't believe it!

I'll report back when I actually talk to her. :)

Just saw this thread ... good for you :) When you go back, I would just say something like, "Hi, Jessica -- I was just wondering how you're settling in. I thought maybe when you have some free time, I could show you around town and we could grab some coffee or something." It says, "Hey, you've been on my mind," but doesn't make you look like you're coming on too strong. :)
 
She's not french, haha.

And, apparently she's been here for a few months already. At least that's what she told my aunt in the car, before I joined.

So, I think my best bet is just to tell her that I enjoyed meeting her and that I'd like to hang out with her, don't you think?
 
Oh, OK ... I thought she was new to the area. In that case, I'd just say, "I enjoyed meeting you the other day and hoped we could get a coffee sometime."

You want to strike the right note of confidence (without being too cocky) and modesty (without seeming unsure of yourself) :)
 
Oh, OK ... I thought she was new to the area. In that case, I'd just say, "I enjoyed meeting you the other day and hoped we could get a coffee sometime."

You want to strike the right note of confidence (without being too cocky) and modesty (without seeming unsure of yourself) :)

Well, she's still Relatively new. She's only been here a couple months, straight from a very, very different place.
 
If she is really that beautiful, then you need to quit wasting time on this forum. I'm sure your not the only guy in town.
 
This is so unreal.

So, I went back there, at around 6:20. She was there, alone. Her roommate is on vacation apparently. She opened the door and I said hi, and asked her if she remembers me, and she said yes, and then said "come in" and moved back from the doorway. It was as though we knew each other. I got this feeling that in her culture it's commonplace for people who meet briefly once to follow up like this later. She behaved like "of course you'd stop by, we met the other day."

Later though, she did say she was surprised I showed up.

But anyways, so she told me to sit down on a chair in her room, and I did, and we talked for about three hours, and then arranged to meet up tomorrow evening to go to the park/lake nearby, and then I left.

It's so amazing. All my fears are completely gone. I've murdered them. This evening was so great!

Even if she has no sexual interest in me, she's a great person to have as a summer buddy, but if there is a sexual interest, I definitely would want something to happen, and don't want to screw that up. Because she doesn't speak english very well, I have no way of reading any signs from her, aside from smiles, and when I parted, I just couldn't tell how she felt in that regard, or if there was that interest on her end too. There was this slightly awkward moment where we stood facing each other outside her door, with our arms crossed, nodding like "okay, you're leaving now.. yup..." and I thought I felt maybe that both of us wanted to kiss, but I couldn't be sure.

I think tomorrow, at the lake, I'll ask her if she has a boyfriend back home, and if she says no, I'll try and move in for a kiss when we part at the end of the evening. What do you think?
 
I think tomorrow, at the lake, I'll ask her if she has a boyfriend back home, and if she says no, I'll try and move in for a kiss when we part at the end of the evening. What do you think?

I know you must be really excited about all this and good for you, you should be, but I think you should slow down just a little bit. A kiss this soon may be a bit too much. I know it would be for me (I'm a female) and as someone coming from a completely different culture (possibly, since you haven't disclosed this, I'm assuming) you really don't know what that may mean to her either. So maybe just try to get to know her a bit more first. Good luck!
 
Let me be brutally honest with you. You're creeping me out. I sincerely hope that you don't give off that vibe in person.

No, I'm not creepy in person at all. What about what I said came across as creepy to you? I'm just curious.
 
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He can't be that creepy or she probably wouldn't have wanted to see him again...
 
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