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Another girl advice thread... this is a fun one though.

Alright, I definitely will abandon the kiss idea for now. We already have plans for tuesday evening too though, at a more secluded/romantic nature spot.

But regardless, I won't try anything like that until I either get a crystal clear sign from her, or we're on an official date.
 
OP, if you want to skip the chase and just get her really into you, talk about how you're heir to a massive inheritance and that you sure wish you had someone to share it with. Make sure you subtly drop the word 'green' at least a couple of times. But don't say it directly. Talk about how your favorite color is green and if she would like to play some cards.

Oh, and I'm guessing she's either Russian or eastern European. amirite? If she's Russian, have her teach you how to play durak (pronounced dur-rock). Fun game.

But seriously... just have fun and don't think too much about it. And don't be awkward, just do what feels right. If it seems like a good idea, then go for it. What do you have to lose in the end, besides a little bit of dignity?
 
mgartner0622 said:
Well it depends on the type of kiss. In Europe ... it is commonplace for people to kiss upon departing.
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Somehow I don't think that is the kind of kiss the OP had in mind…

Doing a quick "airkiss" or hug after meeting someone new in the presence of friends is one thing.

Going in for the full tongue tango with a girl you barely know alone in a room at the end of a road in a forest…? Very different situation.

Good luck.
 
Glad it went so well! But I agree, no kiss until you go on a real, actual date -- unless she goes for it first, of course!
 
Alaerian said:
Let me be brutally honest with you. You're creeping me out. I sincerely hope that you don't give off that vibe in person.
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For me, pretty much everything you're writing about. It reads as though it is hardly true but then again, I'm from America and if a guy I ran into on the street had shown up at my house I'd be rattled.

Either way, good luck with this.
 
StephenCampbell said:
edit: @JLatte, unfortunately I'm not going to disclose where she's from. Sorry. Thanks for the advice though! :)
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To be fair, if you gave us a region, we could probably be a lot more helpful. A girl from, say, Ukraine, is probably going to be very different than one from Italy or Sweden.
 
So wait, you use what appears to be your real name as your username here, but for some reason you think that telling us which language she speaks and which country this girl is from is too much information? You also think that she may somehow come across this thread and ruin everything for you? Because everyone in the world reads MR? Okay then.......:confused:


More like: ... this is a fun strange one though.
 
jessica. said:
For me, pretty much everything you're writing about. It reads as though it is hardly true but then again, I'm from America and if a guy I ran into on the street had shown up at my house I'd be rattled.
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He didn't just run into her on the street -- he shared a car ride with her, with his aunt in the car, which I think gives him a little more legitimacy.

Since he DID show up and she didn't discourage him, I'm guessing he didn't come across as creepy. If she told him she wasn't interested and he still kept going back, now THAT would be creepy.
 
Surely said:
So wait, you use what appears to be your real name as your username here, but for some reason you think that telling us which language she speaks and which country this girl is from is too much information? You also think that she may somehow come across this thread and ruin everything for you? Because everyone in the world reads MR? Okay then.......:confused:
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You just know that this is not his real name. We have a 14 year old kid here trying to act like a man. In fact, I think this whole story is BS.
 
maccompaq said:
You just know that this is not his real name. We have a 14 year old kid here trying to act like a man. In fact, I think this whole story is BS.
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I don't think he created his account back in 2009 knowing that in 2011 he was going to make this thread.

If he had his bar mitzvah, he's a man.;)
 
Glad it looks like it is going to work out. Maybe after you guys are in a solid relationship, you can show this thread to her.

Bravo for doing something totally outside of your comfort zone! Conquering your own fears is the hardest thing to do. Good luck to you!
 
lol OP you do sound kind creepy in some of your posts

I understand us guys' brains are hardwired for sex but you don't have to talk about it in such a creepy way before you even really know this chick.

If you seriously like her or whatnot, ask her out on a date. You can't expect to get to pound-town on the first date.. or even the first week, or even the first month.


But hey, what the hell do I know about foreign chicks?

Good luck, and try to be less creepy. :D
 
teleromeo said:
Since she ain't french it's time to learn german an put your lederhosen on. Also remember : Don't mention the war...
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Sie ist nicht Deutsche. Ich weiss ein bisschen Deutsch.

jessica. said:
For me, pretty much everything you're writing about. It reads as though it is hardly true but then again, I'm from America and if a guy I ran into on the street had shown up at my house I'd be rattled.

Either way, good luck with this.
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I'm aware that it sounds hardly true, and I know I write dryly and bluntly sometimes, but everything I've said is true, except for her name being Jessica and my relative being my Aunt.

Surely said:
So wait, you use what appears to be your real name as your username here, but for some reason you think that telling us which language she speaks and which country this girl is from is too much information? You also think that she may somehow come across this thread and ruin everything for you? Because everyone in the world reads MR? Okay then.......:confused:


More like: ... this is a fun strange one though.
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I wasn't genuinely worried that she'd come here and find this thread.

maccompaq said:
You just know that this is not his real name. We have a 14 year old kid here trying to act like a man. In fact, I think this whole story is BS.
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I'm turning 21 in a month, and graduating with a BA next spring.

SidBala said:
Glad it looks like it is going to work out. Maybe after you guys are in a solid relationship, you can show this thread to her.

Bravo for doing something totally outside of your comfort zone! Conquering your own fears is the hardest thing to do. Good luck to you!
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Thank you! Since we only have nine weeks together though, do you think there's any way to bring up the idea of a "summer fling" quicker than the normal route of dating and "serious relationship" and stuff? Because we both know we can't be in an "actual" serious relationship, because we only have the summer.

@all: I know the story is strange, and I know (apparently) I sound creepy sometimes, but this is all completely real. I'm not creepy at all. She wouldn't have let me into her room 10 seconds after I knocked on the door if there was anything creepy about me.

And just a few more delicious details… apparently she's actually only been here for a month, she doesn't know anybody (aside from the people she works with), and she hasn't gone anywhere. So it's not too late for me to be the "show you around" guy, or the "help you with english" guy. Nobody else has approached her yet.
 
Honestly, you're planning this way too much. I mean, in your head you're thinking "after we hang out for day I can get a kiss out of her" and now you're thinking about how to raise the subject of a fling. Just see how it goes and be prepared that all that might come out of it is a new friend.

You can be sure right now she isn't posting on a forum in her native country saying "How can I get this American dude to screw me?" ;)
 
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