i found itunes to be the opposite of what the op is describing.
I spent many years raging against apple and itunes, but that meant that i had to manually drag and drop all my music to an mp3 player or phone (which usually took way longer than a simple itunes sync) and every device handled the song/album information differently. Hell, my lg chocolate used to put the songs in alphabetical order instead of album order, which drive me nuts, so i would have to go in and rename all the songs with numbers to maket them play in the right order.
These days, i find itunes to be refreshing. There is no manual song management, and usually no album art management either. I have an iphone 4 that i find a pleasure to use (the ipod is my favorite part of the phone), and an ipad 2 on the way if apple ever decides to ship it. I love that i can just plug it in, it syncs itself up within about a minute, and i'm good to go. I have my computer set to automatically back up all my content to another hard drive in case my itunes ever freaks our or my computer crashes. Problem solved--life is much easier. I used to spend hours organizing and customizing my mp3s to work on specific players.