"When Windows 10 wants to update, I let it ASAP"
You have no choice. One of the biggest complaints about Windows 10, forced updates and the fact they happen at the worst times. I watched a compilation video of twitch streamers that got booted by forced updates in the middle of a streaming session, it was quite funny. Its also funny you think Windows updates do not break anything. I work in IT, and we support thousands of Windows 10 computers and Windows 2008-2022 servers. Their updates break stuff all the time. Usually not super bad but at times taking down business operations. If you ever managed a WSUS server and or Itune you could easily see how some updates are released, pulled, re-released and pulled again because of bugs.
I can't understand how you complain about Apple's UI changes when you went from Windows 7 to 8 which was a complete disaster back to Windows 10 which half 7 and half 8. Even after 5 years there are still parts of Windows 10 have the XP UI or things that still must be done in Control Panel vs Settings. They never finished it. I bet Windows 11 still has parts of the OS that have carried over the XP UI, like device manager or control panel and they probably look even more odd with rounded corners.
Windows 10 also has horrible display scaling. Sure it scales the OS resolution but if your app does not support it...it is bad. On a Mac scaling is so much better.