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On a side note: Wow, this thread is serious. I guess in a unbeknown to us all, Romance is dead. Never before have I known someone making a (Admittedly bad) joke towards someone trying to spark a conversation being described as 'invade her personal space and privacy'.
It really depends what the situation is. The delivery of a comment like that would be so important. If she was relaxed and it was said in a cheeky and funny way you never know, but equally if some guy sidled up to me in a bookshop and said a book I was flicking through I was too old for I think I would be more inclined to think "What's it to you?!".
Imagine that with the fact you don't know anything about why she was there or what kind of mood she was in maybe she was having a bad day and just thought "oh for god's sake, piss off" or she could be, I don't know, shopping for her younger sister's second kid's birthday and be thinking "I'm getting so old and still haven't got kids", or a million other things that would mean that comment completely sucked. If you're going to make slightly cheeky comments they're going to work brilliantly some of the time, but you've got to expect them to fall flat sometimes too because you don't know people's situations.
Another way of looking at it is what exactly would you like to have had her say back to you If someone said "You're a bit too old for that."? I have no idea what I'd say."Er, thanks?".
Whenever I strike up a conversation with someone (I mean just friendly conversation anywhere) it usually happens with a kind of trigger i.e. at a bar and they or I order a drink or make a comment to the barman and they chip in, or something. Just going up to people and randomly talking to them is a bit more full on and means it's pretty obvious you're trying to hit on them. Starting a natural conversation is a bit less threatening (and means they can get a feel as to whether you seem like a nice guy or not during the conversation).