So if you are a twunt you shouldn't be yourself? You should only be yourself when others approve?
P-Worm
I think if you're "acting like", you're probably not being yourself.
So if you are a twunt you shouldn't be yourself? You should only be yourself when others approve?
P-Worm
I think if you're "acting like", you're probably not being yourself.
IMO, a lot of people at a young age simply don't know who they are, and therefore have trouble ''being themselves". Consequently, a lot of external influences seep into one's interactions with others.. particularly those of one's amorous interest.
Then I kicked her in the face.
IBut my entire life as an "adult" has been trying to figure out who I am. That's a lie. I know who I am -- maybe I've always known -- but there's something else at work there. The language fails. Maybe it's something like "muscle memory" when playing a musical instrument. "Muscle memory for the soul." Yeah, that's the ticket. It's not really comfort with yourself, because a lot of people despise themselves but are themselves nevertheless. And it's not quite knowing what makes you happy, either.
How the hell do you -- does anyone -- figure out something like that? Do you have to try everything? What sort of education do you have, really, in figuring out who you are... other than a long succession of people trying to push you into places where you don't fit?
I definitely needed to learn how to be myself. Basically, I tried to resist who I was for the longest time -- I wanted to be slick, you know? I wanted to be a cool guy. And I wanted to bang lots of chicks. And I wanted to play guitar in a fantastic rock band. And I wanted to do a lot of drugs.
Only one of those things ended up happening, but I can't remember which.
You're doomed if you go into things with an attitude like that. Widen your social circle.![]()
Yes, but a very large number that can have major effects on the relationship. No hugs from 2,000 miles away.Isn't distance just a number, too?![]()
I'm pretty sure all people in the UK live in London.
/ignorant american
women dig confidence. You know how to most men appearance is what attracts us to women. For women, appearance is nothing - they're attracted to confidence first and foremost.
That's why they often go for the "bad" lads, because generally if a guy is bad he's that way because he's confident enough to defy authority, and in some cases knock the girl around etc. He could be a complete %$£%, and physically violent, doesn't matter as confidence is the main attraction point.
Do not tell a girl that you don't know that she has a nice ass/tits/whatever. Compliments are nice, but keep them vague, like 'you look great this evening' I don't like being degraded to my component parts. After you have had actual conversations and are starting to get to know one another, the occasional, "damn, your ass looks great in that skirt" is fine because we know that you don't like us just for our parts.
Plumosa:
I happened across this part of your post and I started laughing. Now, I don't mean I was laughing at you or anything of the kind; it's just it reminded me of some conversations I've had in the past.
Women are generally pretty vain, especially in the cosmetic, visual sense. They do everything they can to make their bodies more attractive, even in situations that are not "dating" or "looking to pick up a guy" ones; they wear low-cut tops, short skirts, clothes that generally reveal a lot, and so on. And yet, if I were to walk up to a woman who had, for instance, a nice pair of breasts and had dressed in such a way as to accentuate them, and I were to simply say "Wow, you really have beautiful boobs." or somesuch (and for the moment we'll assume I'm not trying to pick them up, etc., just observing and making a comment, no more, no less) I'd get slapped.
And at 35, I still don't "get" women. I suspect most men never do.
Semantics. Probably an unfortunate choice of words.
IMO, a lot of people at a young age simply don't know who they are, and therefore have trouble ''being themselves". Consequently, a lot of external influences seep into one's interactions with others.. particularly those of one's amorous interest.
Well, first off (and you need to understand I've got a smile on my face and I'm laughing as I type this) why do you women dress to accentuate your various "parts" if you really don't want us guys to compliment them then?
Sure, but where do I meet girls who...enjoy a good round of Dawn Of War or Dungeons & Dragons?
So if you are a twunt you shouldn't be yourself? You should only be yourself when others approve?
P-Worm
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Originally Posted by MikeTheC View Post
Well, first off (and you need to understand I've got a smile on my face and I'm laughing as I type this) why do you women dress to accentuate your various "parts" if you really don't want us guys to compliment them then?
Good point. I mean, have you ever met a girl that goes shopping for a pair of trousers and says, "Give me the most horrible ones you got so no one looks at my nice bottom"?
no, I'm all in favour of being a absolute twunt for *****'n giggles, the key is to socialise with people who enjoy the company of other twunts, however approaching random women in book stores and bars and being a **** is going to piss off 99% of them it's frankly antisocial.
Be on a couch with a girl new years eve....it works![]()