"If you don't lock your doors, you're to blame just as much as the thief who walks in the unlocked door."
Yes you are to blame, that doesn't mean you get jail time or the thief would get less jailtime. Don't confuse blame with punishment.
This kind of thinking makes me crazy. How much must good people do to not be blamed for bad actions against them?
You blame the source of the problem-- the problem is theft. Nobody should have to lock their doors. You may say leaving your doors unlocked in this day and age is naive, but it's not their fault they were robbed.
If they lock their doors, but the window is broken, is it their fault for not having bars over their windows? If the bars are cut, is it their fault for not using stronger steel? If the home is breached by tunneling under the foundation, is it their fault for not reinforcing their floor?
In short: whatever the offense, is it the victims fault for not anticipating the attack and having slightly greater security? Where do you draw the line on blame? Is it coincidentally at the same level of precaution you happen to take for yourself?
By that logic, I guess women can stroll down any street at 3 am completely naked and obliterated drunk and expect nothing bad to happen to them and if it does, it's absolutely not their fault in any way. Good to know.
There's a difference between being a victim of crime where doing simple things could have avoided it and being a completely innocent victim where no easy fix could have prevented it. You need to work on your black and white style of thinking. there are all sorts of shades of grey in between you are missing.
There is a difference between expecting something bad to happen and assigning blame.
She has the right to walk where she pleases without fear. If someone violates that right, they are completely at fault. I'm well aware of the imperfections of the world, and I wouldn't council any woman I know to do such a thing, but I wouldn't blame them for the consequences.
Where is the line? If she were clothed and sober at 3am would it be her fault? If it were 11pm? 10pm? 9:30? Dusk but not dark? An eclipse? Do you know what fixes you'd consider easy before the situation occurs?
Good people are not at fault for bad actions against them. Society must be black and white on these points. It is the concept of laws. The grey is in the definition of good and bad.
There are cultures where a woman can not leave home without being fully covered head to toe and attended by a male relative. Their laws are structured in this way, and she is held to blame if she behaves any other way.
That is not my culture. In parts of my culture public nudity and public drunkenness are forbidden, but these norms are enforced by the State, and not left to individual. Individuals are not license to do her harm, and she is not to blame for harm that comes to her.
There are situations where bad people are held to blame for bad things happening to them-- self defense laws and "fighting words" come to mind, but that's a different situation.