No- I didn't say it was acceptable. I said, unless you've been in the situation, don't be so quick to judge. I tried to illustrate that with a situation I was in. Was it right? Maybe not. But I certainly am not going to think I'm an a**hole for doing it.
Lee - Most people don't want to ever think of
themselves as an a**hole.
Unfortunately, because of that, a lot of people excuse themsleves for bad behavior. They will say "it was a certain situation, and I acted badly at
that moment, because of the pressure, because I was having a bad day, because of [fill in the blank]" But then they think, "well I don't generally consider myself an a**hole, so...it must have been
ok for me to completely lose it for that long, right?"
No. Sorry, it's not.
You can be an absolute
saint 99.99% of the time in your life. But act like Bale did in that tape, REGARDLESS OF THE CIRCUMSTANCES (because there's NO amount of f***ing up that someone else does which excuses that behavior), and, well...sorry, you're an a**hole -- plain and simple.
At the time, it's what happened. I lost it, and if you'd been there, I bet you would have too.
Nope. Again, sorry.
You (and Bale) might have it within yourselves to "go there" -- but I, and MANY other people, do NOT. Not matter WHAT happens. Sorry. I've never once in my life gotten so worked up to verbally abuse someone like that. And you know what? I have been in
much worse situations than what you or Bale seemed to have been in. MUCH worse, where someone cost me much more than just an "intense scene." According to your logic, I would have had grounds to be abusive to the people I was upset with too. But...I didn't. At my absolute worst, I got upset enough to raise my voice to get my point across, and that was that. There wasn't a need to throw a several-minute-long abusive temper tantrum because I felt I was justified to do so.
Just because YOU and Bale lost it the moments you did, does NOT mean others would in the exact same situations. You can justify your behavior all you want in your head, but that
doesn't make it right. It doesn't.
Does that make you an a**hole for life? No, of course not. But it's very possible you had it within you to be an a**hole in other circumstances too. My hope would be that you've changed since then -- and wouldn't do something like that ever again. From your posts on here, it doesn't seem like you could be like that now. You seem quite pleasant, actually, and a fun-loving guy -- which is why I'm surprised by what you're saying here. I would hope you would never pull Bale-like behavior on anyone again.
How do you guys know what the relationship is between these two guys? For all you know, they went out and had beers later.
Even if they did, AGAIN, it doesn't justify it. Yeah, it's very possible Bale knew he was acting like an a**hole (or more likely, someone had to point it out to him), and invited the guy out for drinks later to try and "make up" for it. The guy, fearing for his job, accepted and went along with it -- all the time thinking Bale was a complete prick, because...well, he was.
If you guys want to turn this into a big deal because it makes you feel superior, that's your business. But honestly, I don't think it is. You're making a mountain out of a molehill.
I'm not making a big deal out of it because it makes me feel superior. If anything, one can argue YOU feel superior enough in your previous actions on set to make it NOT a big deal. I'm
not saying that myself, I really am not -- but one could certainly make that arguement.
And no one's making mountains out of molehills here -- just stating opinions. It does, however, seem like you're going out of the way to excuse Bale's behavior, in an effort to somehow excuse/downplay yours back then? It's really OK to admit you may have been an a**hole then, and that you're not now -- that's fine. But defending Bale's behavior by bringing up your own similar tirade just doesn't sit well...
