Coach, 40, marries 16-year-old student

Discussion in 'Current Events' started by swiftaw, Jun 22, 2007.

  1. swiftaw macrumors 603


    Jan 31, 2005
    Omaha, NE, USA
  2. cycocelica macrumors 68000


    Apr 28, 2005
    Redmond, WA
  3. AdeFowler macrumors 68020


    Aug 27, 2004
    I like that :)

    They actually look well suited to each other.
  4. Osarkon macrumors 68020


    Aug 30, 2006
    #4 long as it works out.

    I don't think a 16 year old really realizes the implications of what she's just gone and done though. Time will tell.
  5. jsw Moderator emeritus


    Mar 16, 2004
    Andover, MA
    Her parents think she threw her life away. It's hard to say - maybe she did, maybe she'll get divorced in a year and move on, maybe she'll have a great career anyway. I suppose it's not proper to ponder what sort of job someone named Windy would be good at....

    I think 16 is too young, and I think her parents shouldn't have signed the consent form. That said, though, these sorts of marriages have been going on forever. Some work, some don't. It's hard to tell from one article written from the parents' point of view whether or not it should have happened. But it seems a bit creepy. Not the age so much... just the coach/student thing.
  6. Anonymous Freak macrumors 603

    Anonymous Freak

    Dec 12, 2002
    When I was a kid, a friend of the family had two daughters named Windy and Breezy. (They were a few years younger than I, Breezy younger than Windy.) I had completely forgotten about them until now, I wonder what ever happened to them... I wonder what the mother would have named a third? Puffy?
  7. Killyp macrumors 68040


    Jun 14, 2006
    She'll just look through the Thesaurus for WIND every time she has a new child until she gets to.... flatulance :eek: :p
  8. zap2 macrumors 604


    Mar 8, 2005
    Washington D.C
    Agreed Coach/Student bond should be turned into this. I'm not sure how much I trust a 16 year old to make a choice like that...but if her panrets did(which they showed by sign the form) then I can't judge.

    If they felt like that had to sign the form to get their daughter to talk to them, I think that would be foolish, and they'd need to try and "weather the storm"
  9. PlaceofDis macrumors Core

    Jan 6, 2004
    well the parents signed the forms, so what else is to be said?

    i hope the couple end up happily together for a long, long time.

    about the parents though. if they didn't think this was right, why did they give in? that i just don't understand. learn how to talk to your kid and raise them.
  10. TequilaBoobs macrumors 6502a


    Nov 12, 2006
    when shes 36 he'll be 66yo, now that is something to look forward to!! she'll be in her sexual prime and he'll be in a wheelchair. lol jk
  11. imac/cheese macrumors 6502a

    Jun 7, 2007
    he'll actually be 60 when she is 36. :)

    He was born during the vietnam war and she was born during desert storm.

    The problem I see with this is... what does a 40 year old man see in a 16 year old girl? Some older men want a young girl because the relationship makes them feel powerful. Other older men are really immature and feel more comfortable around girls that are immature too. Others are just looking for a hot girl to sleep with and a young trophy wife. None of these options seem really advantageous to the girl. Of course there are other options too but those are definitely some of the most common options. I do wish them the best and hope they have a long loving marriage.
  12. patrick0brien macrumors 68040


    Oct 24, 2002
    The West Loop

    Jay Bush
  13. Jaffa Cake macrumors Core

    Jaffa Cake

    Aug 1, 2004
    The City of Culture, Englandshire
    This guy's mum and dad did... ;)


    Hopeful they'll be happy together, but it's one of those situations that you can't help but think will end in tears.
  14. patrick0brien macrumors 68040


    Oct 24, 2002
    The West Loop
    -Jaffa Cake

    After a night of extreme 'Duch Oven'-ing...

    ... ew.
  15. atszyman macrumors 68020


    Sep 16, 2003
    The Dallas 'burbs
    As a parent I would never sign the consent form...

    My initial reaction: If the coach/teacher was truly in love with Windy, why the hell didn't he sit back and wait until Graduation and then approach her as an adult? If he really loved her why didn't he hold off on marriage until she finished college? She's ***** 16!

    Then I watched the video, the parents come across as the typical non-confrontational parents, who don't want to have the argument with their kids and who always want to be the good guys. Know what? Being a parent sometimes means being the bad guys, grounding your kids, dealing with them not talking to you for a month (enjoy the silence) because they "hate you". When are parents going to once again start realizing that it is not their job to be their kids friends?

    And then there was the school representative saying how the school officials can't regulate all hours of the day and that this relationship obviously formed outside of school hours. Regardless of that fact he is still an authority figure at that school seducing someone he is supposed to be in charge of, and a minor at that. Corporations have a huge number of legal issues when bosses date employees and firings/lawsuits often result from such relationships regardless of whether or not the romance takes place outside of the office. This guy should have been fired suspended as soon as Windy came home with the consent form. The parents should have taken that to the school board immediately.

    All that being said I would put large sums of money down on the divorce, but I hope that I am wrong and that they have a long and happy life together.
  16. Cabbit macrumors 68020


    Jan 30, 2006
    here in scotland your an adult at 16, you may marry but not drink at your wedding till your 18. I find it strange she wants to marry a 40 year old, and since men start to die 50+ and sometimes depending on diet very quickly at that, i wonder if he has money for her to inherit in 10-20 years time.
  17. ezzie macrumors 68020


    Sep 7, 2006
    Baltimore, MD
    atszyman, i totally agree with you...he could have waited 2 years (until she can make her own decision w/o parental conent) if it really was "true love".

    the worrying part:
    those are the words of a child...a typical 16 year old in "love".

    i've been in her shoes (although not with a man twice my age) but my parents were responsible and did the right thing..and i thank them for that. the parents in this case have themselves to blame, as far as i'm concerned.
  18. 0098386 Suspended


    Jan 18, 2005
    There's a 10 year age gap between my grandparents and my girlfriends parents. They're all happy with their respected partners. But at such an age gap? And with him (previously?) in a role of responsibility for her? I'm not keen, but it's not for me to judge.
  19. FoxyKaye macrumors 68000


    Jan 23, 2004
    Livermore, Terre d'Ange, Bas Lag, Gallifrey
    *cough* Pedophile *cough*

    Sorry to throw a wet towel on the love and support the happy couple is getting, but seriously, he started taking an interest in her when he was 38 and she was 14. How is that appropriate in any context?
  20. TequilaBoobs macrumors 6502a


    Nov 12, 2006
    sorry to be an anal-retentive-word-smith, but a pedophile is one who is primarily attracted to *pre-pubescent* children, and the 40-year-old man is actually a hebephile, a person who is attracted to *adolescent* children.
  21. dmw007 macrumors G4


    May 26, 2005
    Working for MI-6

    I can not help but think the same thing FoxyKaye. :eek: :)
  22. biturbomunkie macrumors 6502a

    Jul 30, 2006
  23. mattscott306 macrumors 68040


    Jan 16, 2007
    Doesn't matter anymore as he no longer works at that job...
  24. biturbomunkie macrumors 6502a

    Jul 30, 2006
    yeah it does. there's savings and 401k.
  25. QuarterSwede macrumors G3


    Oct 1, 2005
    Colorado Springs, CO
    I do agree that the parents should not have given into the pressure to sign the consent form. The coach is really to blame for any relationship damage with the parents and their daughter. He should have backed down because she was still under the headship of her father (being under 18). I also agree that he should have waited until she was 18 to marry her. The he would have been respectful to the parents.

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