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Coach, 40, marries 16-year-old student

They say that girls mature faster than boys. Maybe 16 in girl-years is about 40 in boy-years. :p

Seriously, though, the concept of a teenager is rather recent invention brought about mainly to end child labor. Maturity is just a construct of society brought on by the need to work less to get more. A hundred-or-so years ago she would likely have a couple kids, a house, and a plot of land to take care of, which would provide her with all she'd need for survival.
 
atszyman said:
As a parent I would never sign the consent form...

My initial reaction: If the coach/teacher was truly in love with Windy, why the hell didn't he sit back and wait until Graduation and then approach her as an adult? If he really loved her why didn't he hold off on marriage until she finished college? She's ***** 16!

Then I watched the video, the parents come across as the typical non-confrontational parents, who don't want to have the argument with their kids and who always want to be the good guys. Know what? Being a parent sometimes means being the bad guys, grounding your kids, dealing with them not talking to you for a month (enjoy the silence) because they "hate you". When are parents going to once again start realizing that it is not their job to be their kids friends?

And then there was the school representative saying how the school officials can't regulate all hours of the day and that this relationship obviously formed outside of school hours. Regardless of that fact he is still an authority figure at that school seducing someone he is supposed to be in charge of, and a minor at that. Corporations have a huge number of legal issues when bosses date employees and firings/lawsuits often result from such relationships regardless of whether or not the romance takes place outside of the office. This guy should have been fired suspended as soon as Windy came home with the consent form. The parents should have taken that to the school board immediately.

All that being said I would put large sums of money down on the divorce, but I hope that I am wrong and that they have a long and happy life together.
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Agreed.

FoxyKaye said:
*cough* Pedophile *cough*

Sorry to throw a wet towel on the love and support the happy couple is getting, but seriously, he started taking an interest in her when he was 38 and she was 14. How is that appropriate in any context?
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Also agree.

I don't mind age differences, but it really depends on the specific age of the people involved, and what stage of life they're in. If one is in the middle of her high school years, and the other is supposed to be some sort of teacher, I think it's wrong. Actually, even if he wasn't her teacher, it'd still be sick for a 40 year old to marry a 16 year old, or a 38 year old man to take interest in a 14 year old girl.

I'd have a different opinion if a 21 year old uni student married a 40 year old uni student, as they're still students and are in the same phase in their life, despite the age gap.

In this case, all I can think is "Old man perving on young girls because sweet young a** is HAWT."


raggedjimmi said:
But at such an age gap? And with him (previously?) in a role of responsibility for her? I'm not keen, but it's not for me to judge.
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Why not?

theLimit said:
A hundred-or-so years ago she would likely have a couple kids, a house, and a plot of land to take care of, which would provide her with all she'd need for survival.
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And he'd almost be a grandfather or great-grandfather with around 10 years to live.
 
ehurtley said:
When I was a kid, a friend of the family had two daughters named Windy and Breezy. (They were a few years younger than I, Breezy younger than Windy.) I had completely forgotten about them until now, I wonder what ever happened to them... I wonder what the mother would have named a third? Puffy?
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Gale.
 
FoxyKaye said:
*cough* Pedophile *cough*

Sorry to throw a wet towel on the love and support the happy couple is getting, but seriously, he started taking an interest in her when he was 38 and she was 14. How is that appropriate in any context?
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Well in the State of Alabama, whilst it's illegaly for sexual relations, marriage is quite legal, no parental permission required. 14 for marriage, but 16 for sex.
 
I think the parents made a mistake in signing the consent form - why the hurry? Regardless of the ages in volved, there's no need to move things along at that speed. Anyway, teenagers are hardly a model of emotional stability; only time will tell but the odds are heavily against this young girl being happy in a long-term relationship, which has now been sancioned by everyone (at least officially).

My guess is that she will soon feel trapped. Her parents should have made her wait until she turned 18 at least.
 
Oh, I reached that point a while back. What kind of bizzare/horrifying/disgusting/shameful news item have we not already read about several times?
 
Jaffa Cake said:
This guy's mum and dad did... ;)

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Love your humour, JC. Spot on!

When I was a kid, a friend of the family had two daughters named Windy and Breezy. (They were a few years younger than I, Breezy younger than Windy.)
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Think there's anything in a name? Anyone remember that 70's film, 'Breezy'? That was about the love between an older man and younger woman. Actually, it was quite a nice film. :eek:
 
Anyone else stop to think that this girl's going to get a big surprise in about 10 years? This is a 40 year-old man who's sexual appetites focus on teenagers. When she's in her 20's or 30's, he's still going to be pining over 14 year-olds.
 
pooky said:
Anyone else stop to think that this girl's going to get a big surprise in about 10 years? This is a 40 year-old man who's sexual appetites focus on teenagers. When she's in her 20's or 30's, he's still going to be pining over 14 year-olds.
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...if they even make it ten years. I hope it works out for them, but I'm not gonna hold my breath.

And I agree with everyone who said that her parents need to stop trying to be her friends and be her parents first.
 
guifa said:
Well in the State of Alabama, whilst it's illegaly for sexual relations, marriage is quite legal, no parental permission required. 14 for marriage, but 16 for sex.
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The age of consent covers sex and marriage, and it has always been 16 in Alabama. It may be that the youngest one can get married with consent here is 14. But when you turn 16 you can marry and sleep with whomever you like. I didn't know there was a limit on the age one could get married with consent.

We have youth pastors getting in trouble all the time, but they stick to the 16 and up crowd. So no charges.
 
in any event, im convinced human beings arent even into monogamy, unless it's serial monogamy. look at the high divorce and remarry rates. the coach and student relationship should last a few years till they both realize what a mistake it was to marry. then theyll get remarried and hopefully have learned from their first marriage.
 
raggedjimmi said:
There's a 10 year age gap between my grandparents and my girlfriends parents. They're all happy with their respected partners. But at such an age gap? And with him (previously?) in a role of responsibility for her? I'm not keen, but it's not for me to judge.
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IMHO it depends on the age at which it started.

A 30 year old and a 40 year old? Nothing objectionable.

A 10 year old and a 20 year old? Objectionable.

In this case? A 16 year old is not old enough to maturely make such a decision. The fact that she called her parent's concern a "power trip" just proves immaturity. I genuinely feel sorry for her; she'll regret it.

The fact that he was showing an interest at 14 just creeps me out.
 
GFLPraxis said:
The fact that he was showing an interest at 14 just creeps me out.
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Well, in all fairness, he did wait two years for his initial interest to blossom into true love. He had to get to know her more as a person, which was hard enough with that pesky curfew. And, of course, he had to fight for her time, as I'm sure some was devoted to Webkinz.
 
Lord Blackadder said:
My guess is that she will soon feel trapped. Her parents should have made her wait until she turned 18 at least.
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Well if she was 18, they'd have no say in it anymore.

That's what they probably should have done though, that would be 4 years of her flirting, not talking to parents, and deciding whether or not getting married is the right thing.

for what it's worth, I fell in love with a guy at 14, and now at 18, I have even stronger feelings for him. However, I'm still torn over the idea of having a relationship with him (if ever, cause of so many different issues), let alone marriage :)eek:). Whatever made her want to get married so fast...well...good luck to her. Even though I can't describe what it's like to be in love, it's something radically different from what I've felt before, but it's nothing that would make me pursue marriage right now. That's just something I couldn't even begin to imagine doing...I have a BS to finish up, I have grad school to consider..
 
I just don't think I could deal with a 16 year...either a son or a husband!

(but I've had a husband for 16 years...does that count?)
 
jsw said:
Well, in all fairness, he did wait two years for his initial interest to blossom into true love. He had to get to know her more as a person, which was hard enough with that pesky curfew. And, of course, he had to fight for her time, as I'm sure some was devoted to Webkinz.
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And do you honestly believe that a girl at 14 years of age, or even 16, is going to retain the same personality when she's 20?

It's not true love. It's definitely not true love on her part, because she's not old and mature enough to know that, and it's not true love on his part, because of the age gap. What kind of 40 year old man looks that way at a 14-to-16 year old?
 
GFLPraxis said:
And do you honestly believe that a girl at 14 years of age, or even 16, is going to retain the same personality when she's 20?

It's not true love. It's definitely not true love on her part, because she's not old and mature enough to know that, and it's not true love on his part, because of the age gap. What kind of 40 year old man looks that way at a 14-to-16 year old?
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Well, you don't necessarily know that. Some of my under-21 friends are married, getting married or engaged already. There are a lot of couples out there who get married early in life and have long lasting relationships. Just because they are 19 vs. 40 doesn't mean they shouldn't be entitled to get married.

The age gap is also highly dependent on the age of the two people. It's certainly not as shocking if a 25 year old woman gets married to a 49 year old guy or vice versa. And there are plenty of women in the news barely in their 20/30s who married octogenarians (*cough* anna nicole smith), and we don't bash them for being too immature to know anything, we just call them golddiggers..

It may not be true love, but you can't paint everyone with one brush, I'm sure there's 20 year old couples out there whose marriages will last longer than a couple in their 30s or 40s...we're all human.
 
FoxyKaye said:
*cough* Pedophile *cough*

Sorry to throw a wet towel on the love and support the happy couple is getting, but seriously, he started taking an interest in her when he was 38 and she was 14. How is that appropriate in any context?
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No doubt! What self respecting man wants to marry the woman of his dreams after she gets her parents to sign a consent form.
 
hahah what do they even have in common?


they both really like the high school football uniforms?:rolleyes:




side note: janey has been putting up problably the most quality posts, in at least 8 of the threads i've read today! jeez! keep up the good work.
 
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