I understand a little better where you're coming from now...If I understand you correctly, you want the dock to be more of a document manager than an app manager (like windows, as you said). That's a valid point, and you also have a valid point about Apple pressuring people into working a certain way, but I still can't relate much because I worked "Apple's way" before I even used OS X.
If you want better document management, I suggest using Expose a little more. F10 is my best friend when working with multiple docs within an app. It may take some getting used to, but I find it much more effective than the "Windows way" of just having names in the taskbar. I relate to things visually, not really by doc name (but like you said, that's just a matter of preference). So when I see what the doc looks like rather than just the name, I can identify it much more quickly.
As for the dock being an app launcher, I wouldn't have it any other way. I hate having to hunt through menus to find an app (I have to use Windows at work and this is a pain for me). Yeah, yeah there's the little launcher there, but if you have more than 4-5 (I use more apps than that), you encroach on the space you'd use for document names, etc.