Dating advice: Where do you meet people?

[MatthewLTL]

My advice: Don't bother. There is simply no point in doing any dating sites or such.

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You are either new to forums, or perhaps a bit too sensitive. I'm not playing "thought police" by disagreeing with your point any more than you're being thought police disagreeing with mine.

Getting a dog to meet women is the wrong reason to get a dog. Get a dog because you want the dog. Either way you'll meet women, as they make up half of the world's population. I run into them everywhere I go.

Technically there is more women than men so they probably make up a bit more than half...

 

[JuryDuty]

I think the best place you can meet people you're compatible with is at places that you enjoy.

Do you like church? Great place to meet others who like church.

Do you like games? Attend gaming events and parties.

Do you like sports? Join some sporting clubs.

The biggest key is getting out there. Too often it's easy to stay home or stay in a circle you're used to. But if you're not meeting anyone there, it's time to branch out.

 

[citizenzen]

Technically there is more women than men so they probably make up a bit more than half...

50.8% (2013)

Thank you, Rain Man.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

My advice: Don't bother. There is simply no point in doing any dating sites or such.

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Technically there is more women than men so they probably make up a bit more than half...

Well, no, not always, and not precisely.

This depends on the country, region, city, precise age demographic, whether it is urban or rural, first world or third world, and so on.

Actually, in the western world, at birth the ratio is 105-106 males (live births) to every 100 females. More boys die as they grow up - in childhood from illness and accidents, add to that fights and suicide from the teen years. The upshot is that by the time adulthood is reached, the relative numbers for males and females have more or less evened out in the First World, or western world, as they have reached parity, 100-100, or 101-100 which is statistically insignificant.

Other countries, where there is a strong cultural preference for male offspring, and where sex selection is practiced, tend to produce very different statistics which can range up to 126 male live births for every 100 females born. This, of course, has all sorts of other consequences, social, marital, economic, political, military and so on.

 

[Meister]

Well, no, not always, and not precisely.

This depends on the country, region, city, precise age demographic, whether it is urban or rural, first world or third world, and so on.

Actually, in the western world, at birth the ratio is 105-106 males (live births) to every 100 females. More boys die as they grow up - in childhood from illness and accidents, add to that fights and suicide from the teen years. The upshot is that by the time adulthood is reached, the relative numbers for males and females have more or less evened out in the First World, or western world, as they have reached parity, 100-100, or 101-100 which is statistically insignificant.

Other countries, where there is a strong cultural preference for male offspring, and where sex selection is practiced, tend to produce very different statistics which can range up to 126 male live births for every 100 females born. This, of course, has all sorts of other consequences, social, marital, economic, political, military and so on.

Very well explained!
It also has to be mentioned that the OP is not merely asking about the prevalence of women, but he wants to meet them. In certain countries the chances of that are much slimmer, than in the western world.

 

[mobilehaathi]

While the odds are that OP was male and looking for a female, I may as well point out that it was never explicitly stated.

 

[Meister]

While the odds are that OP was male and looking for a female, I may as well point out that it was never explicitly stated.

what difference would it make?

 

[Scepticalscribe]

Very well explained!
It also has to be mentioned that the OP is not merely asking about the prevalence of women, but he wants to meet them. In certain countries the chances of that are much slimmer, than in the western world.

Indeed, but given that the OP had written about making a return to the 'dating scene' (a custom prohibited in some of the places you are alluding to, where marriages - which almost bankrupt the participants - are arranged years, if not decades, in advance), I doubt he was seeking a putative partner in one of those more traditional societies.

While the odds are that OP was male and looking for a female, I may as well point out that it was never explicitly stated.

True. The OP was clear about (his?) age (late twenties, I seem to recall), but omitted to provide clarity as to other matters.

However, I replied on the assumption that it was a post from some variant of a Standard (Straight) Geek Male Direct From Central Casting…….

 

[Meister]

Indeed, but given that the OP had written about making a return to the 'dating scene' (a custom prohibited in some of the places you are alluding to, where marriages - which almost bankrupt the participants - are arranged years, if not decades, in advance), I doubt he was seeking a putative partner in one of those more traditional societies.

Very well reasoned.
This leaves me with the only conclusion that the OP has not left his dwelling in a very long time.

 

[mobilehaathi]

what difference would it make?

None at all, hence I didn't bother mentioning it before. But I figured with the lighthearted pedantry (re: gender ratios) a few posts above mine, I may as well join in.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

None at all, hence I didn't bother mentioning it before. But I figured with the lighthearted pedantry (re: gender ratios) a few posts above mine, I may as well join in.

Actually, my light-hearted pedantry re gender ratios in (certain) host societies, mining the surprisingly scant available data in some circumstances - and ruminating thoughtfully on the possible consequences which may flow from that - was a very favourite topic of mine when giving enthusiastic early morning lectures to a (snigger) invitingly captive audience.

More seriously, I think it utterly bizarre that a young guy - someone in his late twenties, and thus, is not a kid, and presumably has some sort of gainful employment, or decent education - should come onto a tech site and, as his second post, proceed to ask for dating advice.

 

[mobilehaathi]

Actually, my light-hearted pedantry re gender ratios in (certain) host societies, mining the surprisingly scant available data in some circumstances - and ruminating thoughtfully on the possible consequences which may flow from that - was a very favourite topic of mine when giving enthusiastic early morning lectures to a (snigger) invitingly captive audience.

More seriously, I think it utterly bizarre that a young guy - someone in his late twenties, and thus, is not a kid, and presumably has some sort of gainful employment, or decent education - should come onto a tech site and, as his second post, proceed to ask for dating advice.

Actually, the geographic heterogeneity of gender ratios also occurred to me to mention, but you beat me to it.

As for the personal things people come around here to ask about...well much of the time I simply don't understand the impulse to publicly query the anonymous masses.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

Actually, the geographic heterogeneity of gender ratios also occurred to me to mention, but you beat me to it.

As for the personal things people come around here to ask about...well much of the time I simply don't understand the impulse to publicly query the anonymous masses.

Actually, it is an area I have come to find absolutely fascinating, as it is so revealing of an awful lot of other stuff in a given society.

Moreover, it is an extraordinarily useful source when seeking to get an alien culture into some sort of focus, and it is exceedingly helpful in finding answers to questions one might have.

Years ago, brimful of youthful arrogance, I used to think it boring. Not any longer (and it was boring only because most people have no idea how to present such material in an interesting and compelling manner) - this sort of material screams to be mined intelligently, and an awful lot can be revealed about a society's aspirations, attitudes and values by looking at material of this sort.

And, as is so often the case, some of the most interesting stuff is tucked safely away in the footnotes……anyway, I am a big believer in footnotes as a very valuable source of additional or extra information. Mine have been known to take up several paragraphs…….

 

[mobilehaathi]

Actually, it is an area I have come to find absolutely fascinating, as it is so revealing of an awful lot of other stuff in a given society.

Moreover, it is an extraordinarily useful source when seeking to get an alien culture into some sort of focus, and it is exceedingly helpful in finding answers to questions one might have.

Years ago, brimful of youthful arrogance, I used to think it boring. Not any longer (and it was boring only because most people have no idea how to present such material in an interesting and compelling manner) - this sort of material screams to be mined intelligently, and an awful lot can be revealed about a society's aspirations, attitudes and values by looking at material of this sort.

And, as is so often the case, some of the most interesting stuff is tucked safely away in the footnotes……anyway, I am a big believer in footnotes as a ver valuable source of additional or extra information. Mine have been known to take up several paragraphs…….

Footnotes and references. I've been stopped for months in the middle of a book because I followed a trail of footnotes/refs....

 

[rei101]

There is not a "place" there is an attitude.

If you are confident you can start a fun conversation with any girl in the street.

 

[TheAppleFairy]

I use Grindr app, don't tell my wife.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

Footnotes and references. I've been stopped for months in the middle of a book because I followed a trail of footnotes/refs....

Oh, yes, indeed.

A heartfelt and profound amen to that. The very same here. Follow the inviting trail of footnotes - proper footnotes, that is, footnotes with commentary on sources - and you can get lost in the most fascinating thicket of information……..

Now, there is a title for a thread………the anatomy of a footnote……..

 

[Meister]

Indeed, but given that the OP had written about making a return to the 'dating scene' ...

I was wondering what exactly this term refers to.
I've heard it before in movies, but I don't have a clear understand of what it means.

 

[ardchoille50]

I've found that the best way to meet people is to go out and do what you like to do. That way you'll meet like-minded people.

 

[maflynn]

I met my wife on ChristianMingle.com, I also tried Match.com and eHarmony. I had various levels of success on the sites I tried. I found the dating sites my best option to meeting woman.

 

[Meister]

I've found that the best way to meet people is to go out and do what you like to do. That way you'll meet like-minded people.

That is very good advise!

I am still wondering why people have problems meeting other people. I have the opposite problem. In real life lots of people want to get to know me and go out eating, and so on, and I am not really interested.
Imo it is better to cultivate quality relationships than to mingle with random, mostly superficial, individuals. Before I do that I rather spend my sparetime in solitude on macrumors

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I met my wife on ChristianMingle.com, I also tried Match.com and eHarmony. I had various levels of success on the sites I tried. I found the dating sites my best option to meeting woman.

Also very good advise!
If your goal is to found a family, the internet is an excellent place to find a likeminded spouse.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

I was wondering what exactly this term refers to.
I've heard it before in movies, but I don't have a clear understand of what it means.

I think it means finding locations (either virtually or in reality) where one might encounter individuals with whom one might date. Personally, I have long thought it sort of misses the point, as in it focusses on finding someone to date, not someone you might have something in common with. Mutual interests are a far better way of trying to build relations as you will start - at the very least - with something in common.

I've found that the best way to meet people is to go out and do what you like to do. That way you'll meet like-minded people.

Exactly. Meeting like-minded people means that at the very least, any ensuing conversation is unlikely to be of the tongue-tied variety, as you'll have interests in common to discuss.

I met my wife on ChristianMingle.com, I also tried Match.com and eHarmony. I had various levels of success on the sites I tried. I found the dating sites my best option to meeting woman.

Very good post, as it clearly indicates the importance of the common ground of the common interest in establishing a relationship.

That is very good advise!

I am still wondering why people have problems meeting other people. I have the opposite problem. In real life lots of people want to get to know me and go out eating, and so on, and I am not really interested.
Imo it is better to cultivate quality relationships than to mingle with random, mostly superficial, individuals. Before I do that I rather spend my sparetime in solitude on macrumors

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Also very good advise!
If your goal is to found a family, the internet is an excellent place to find a likeminded spouse.

Agreed.

 

[mobilehaathi]

There is not a "place" there is an attitude.

If you are confident you can start a fun conversation with any girl in the street.

Approaching women on the street? I hope you like the taste of mace.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

There is not a "place" there is an attitude.

If you are confident you can start a fun conversation with any girl in the street.

Approaching women on the street? I hope you like the taste of mace.

Yes, I had wondered about that, too.

 

[rei101]

Approaching women on the street? I hope you like the taste of mace.

If you come with a face of a horny freak, sure.