Dating "Rules"

[XnavxeMiyyep]

you're giving me the 'its not you its me?'... I INVENTED THE 'ITS NOT YOU IT'S ME' " --who said it?

George Castanza (sp?) said it

 

[redAPPLE]

1) You aren't the type that's bitter and burns bridges, becoming one of those psycho exes
2) You have high standards and if she wants a chance with you, she's going to have to top your ex (=EVEN MORE massages. hehehe).


ooh. and one last thing: the cell phone thing is a definite indicator of disinterest. She's probably in touch with all her girlfriends and discussing with them how to get out of the date. If you get a girl attracted to you, she'll turn off her phone without asking because she wouldn't want any distractions interrupting your amazing personality.

it seems it is a fine line between being honest about yourself and the opposite. if i am a guy that burns bridges, why is it not a good thing to say it? if the former relationship hurt and you don't want it to happen again, why not burn the bridge? well in my case, those bad memories just scream back and then emotion kicks in... and after saying it, you then think, whoa. did i just tell that story again?

during the last meeting, she was really talking with other girlfriends. about parties after the meeting and the next day. i woul really want to know how our grrl macheads in mr think about this.

 

[CubaTBird]

I don't understand what's wrong with "burning bridges". It seems, from my understanding, that when one "burns" a bridge, one ceases all communication with the other person forever. I mean isn't it better that way? Does one honestly think that things could get better or resolved after an emotional heartbreak has taken place?

For example...

Girl tells guy "your a really sweet guy but lets just be friends".. Guy then reacts all weirded out and feels as if he doesn't wanna see her face ever again. Guy goes away and thats it.

Now does one HONESTLY think that the guy can be HIMSELF with the girl AFTER she has told him lets just be friends? No because he will always see her in a physical way and he knows she won't see him in that way.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[madog]

Men are stupid.
Women are crazy.

Nothin' else to it.

"Mr. Right" has been hunted to extinction and "Mrs. Right" will have nothing to do with you.


-Matt Groening,
Love is Hell

 

[topicolo]

it seems it is a fine line between being honest about yourself and the opposite. if i am a guy that burns bridges, why is it not a good thing to say it? if the former relationship hurt and you don't want it to happen again, why not burn the bridge? well in my case, those bad memories just scream back and then emotion kicks in... and after saying it, you then think, whoa. did i just tell that story again?

during the last meeting, she was really talking with other girlfriends. about parties after the meeting and the next day. i woul really want to know how our grrl macheads in mr think about this.

If you're not good at sports, math, or whatever, are you going to bring all those things up for no reason on a date? Call me crazy, but I don't think starting a date by saying "Hey, I just want you to know that I'm asstacular in all sports and a complete moron at math" would work wonders. Similarly, burning bridges and being generally bitter about your past relationships is a fault when it comes to the first dates. No date wants to hear about how much of an ******* your ex was and how you dumped her cheating ass on the street because they'll start wondering how much of that is true and how likely it's going to happen to them.

Bitterness and negativity are unattractive traits so if you don't have them, you stand out from the crowd. I'm not saying that you fake it and lie about something you're not, but you should at least try to replace them with better personality traits for your own happiness. If you can't, you shouldn't bring the topic up with women.

Cuba: You're talking about cutting ties. Burning bridges is when you scream obscene names at each other and adamantly put your ex on your hate-for-the-rest-of-your-life list. Also, if a guy gets slotted into the friend zone, he never attracted her in the first place and shouldn't worry about losing a potential girlfriend/hookup because it wasn't there in the beginning. Of course he's going to feel hurt, but it's part of the game until he can learn to attract girls consistently or until he somehow gets lucky. The truth is, if guy can attract girls, he'll almost never hear the friends speech. In fact, he'll rarely even hear the "I have a boyfriend" speech either--even from girls who actually have boyfriends. Most people are in relationships only until they can find a hotter, smarter, funnier replacement and you'd be surprised at how often EVERYBODY cheats.

Anyway, I've learned that the key to being successful in getting dates and hookups is to be confident, assertive, and adventurous. You sometimes have to tell your mind to shut up and just go for what you want, even if it means bribing your friend at the university pool to let you and the girl whose # you picked up the day before sneak in at 11:50pm to go skinny dipping .