Raven VII said:
Dude, the post above is right. Talking about past relationships = big no no. Especially talking about the wrongs of past relationships. If she asks, always stay positive, always tell her how wonderful your past girlfriends are, and how cordially you broke up - "our lives went on different paths" or some such BS. Now, she'll basically wonder if she dates you, then you two break up, and you go to another girl, will you share all the sordid details about this girl?
I'm not saying never to share past relationships with a girl. If/when you two become an actual relationship - ie gf/bf, then you can tell her all you want. But first few dates? Bad idea.
I think you're officially in her Friend Zone now.
PS. I would not like it if the girl keeps blabbering on the damn phone during our date either. It's not just "grrls". It's plain unrespectful to you. From what you wrote, I personally would nix her on the spot. Don't feel guilty because she paid for your beer. It's just, what, $4? Anybody (anyone that's half-way cool, that is) would've paid.
I've been skimming through this thread and I just had to put in my 2 cents. I've spent my last 4 years in university figuring women out and although it was slow going at first, by 4th year, it seemed like women were jumping out of the woodwork to hook up, and two at the same time once
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ANYWAY, there's really aren't any big no nos in dating because you can react to every situation with charm. Mentioning past relationships kills things ONLY if you talk badly about your exs. When girls ask me about why my past relationships didn't work out, I always respond by saying this "It didn't work out because our paths weren't meant to cross forever. Let me tell you instead about the great things she did for me that I'd rather remember her by..." and list all the massages, the favors and great stuff my exes did. This tells the girls 2 very important things:
1) You aren't the type that's bitter and burns bridges, becoming one of those psycho exes
2) You have high standards and if she wants a chance with you, she's going to have to top your ex (=EVEN MORE massages. hehehe).
The same goes for acting nerdy or really needy. If you do it as if you're making fun of that personality, it only cements the woman's attraction for you because it shows that you're completely secure and that you're also playful. For example, if a girl starts talking about how her computer isn't working at home, instead of instantly volunteering to fix it, you can scrunch up your nose, hunch your shoulders, and say in a very nasal voice something like "I can rewrite your drivers and recompile your kernel as soon as I finish my weekly dungeons and dragons session and that star trek marathon" and then relax, smile and look at her like she's stupid
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Anyway, as long as you're calm, playful and charming (easy to say, hard to learn), you can pretty much score on every date.
ooh. and one last thing: the cell phone thing is a definite indicator of disinterest. She's probably in touch with all her girlfriends and discussing with them how to get out of the date. If you get a girl attracted to you, she'll turn off her phone without asking because she wouldn't want any distractions interrupting your amazing personality.
