You'll be missing out on the best EVs then, especially if you go with a Ford lol. CarPlay is not the future. Manufacturers want full control of the in-car experience so they can monetize it with media, game and app purchases, location-based advertising and more. When self driving eventually happens those millions of vehicle passengers will be a valuable captive audience and vehicle manufacturers won't let Apple or Google replace their highly monetized UI.
For a glimpse of the future, look at CES from a few weeks ago. Ford (because of their partnership with Amazon) is putting Fire TV in their vehicles. So you're locked into Amazon's ecosystem for in-vehicle entertainment, and that's just the beginning.