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Do you wait for a girl to call you back after leaving a message?

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Go back to step one.

Either speak to her directly or give have your friend give her your number.
 
Ask your co-worker to set up a double date with her and her boyfriend and you and NoName. If that never comes to be, well then there's you answer!
 
I just left her another message. :eek:

If I don't hear back for a few days then I'll ask my co-worker if her friend has said anything about me.
 
She's definitely not calling back on purpose. Maybe she's just shy, or not the type to hook up like that.

If you're seriously interested, I'd asked the co-worker/friend for some help. Nudge nudge.

Don't be too pushy though.
 
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StephenCampbell said:
So there's this girl I'm trying to go on a date with, and we've never actually met.. I won't give any details, but I saw her while she was out with a friend of hers (who is a coworker of mine), and we exchanged smiles and glances and it definitely seemed like she was interested.
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Sorry Stephen, but I think you've missed the boat on this one. Strike while the iron is hot, you should have taken the opportunity of her being in the company of someone you know to make conversation. It's far FAR easier to be funny, flirtatious and interesting face-to-face than over the phone or text. Lay the groundwork with the initial meet and use the phone as follow up or to keep things going until your next encounter, not as crutch to set things up in the first place.

My advice would be to move on and find someone else. But we're on a forum here; I don't know you and I don't know her. If it works out then let us know!

Alex
 
StephenCampbell said:
I didn't know her name. How could I have approached her directly? I approached as directly as I could. Asked for her number from the person who I knew had it, and then called her.
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StephenCampbell said:
I just left her another message. :eek:

If I don't hear back for a few days then I'll ask my co-worker if her friend has said anything about me.
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StephenCampbell said:
I couldn't have done that. I don't want to give too many details about the situation, but I definitely would have done that if I could.
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I would be surprised if this went anywhere. If she was with your coworker when you saw her then you should've just introduced yourself then.

Texting would probably have been more effective in this situation too.
 

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I said something like "hi ____, my name is Steve, I left you a message the other day, not sure if you got it. I was the guy _____ (described who I was and what I was doing at the location where we saw each other). I would love to take you out to lunch or something, so please give me a call if you're at all interested. Thanks!"
 
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I said something like "hi ____, my name is Steve, I left you a message the other day, not sure if you got it. I was the guy _____ (described who I was and what I was doing at the location where we saw each other). I would love to take you out to lunch or something, so please give me a call if you're at all interested. Thanks!"
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You just doomed yourself right there.

Sorry man. Live and learn, eh? :)
 
StephenCampbell said:
So there's this girl I'm trying to go on a date with, and we've never actually met.. I won't give any details, but I saw her while she was out with a friend of hers (who is a coworker of mine), and we exchanged smiles and glances and it definitely seemed like she was interested.

I asked her friend (my coworker) if she's single and if I could have her name and number, and she gave it to me and said that she is single, with a smiley face!

Yesterday I called and got voicemail, so I hung up and called again an hour and a half later, and finally I called a third time about two hours after that and left a message. I prefer not to leave voicemails which is why I hung up the first two times.

The voicemail was left yesterday early evening, and she hasn't called me back yet.

Is it okay to call again at some point?

I don't know what it's like being a girl but it seems to me like even though I left a message, the act of picking up the phone and calling a guy that you've never met, even if you were potentially interested, would be difficult for someone if they had some shyness or insecurities. Am I wrong?
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Stop calling. Should have left a voicemail after the first call. She's obviously not interested.
 
I had a girl do something similar with me after last year's NYCC. I was helping some of my girlfriends with their costumes, and this guy came up and was like "hey, my friend their thinks you're cute", I smiled and waved and went back to work.

She called my phone 4 times in 4 hours that night, and left a voice mail on call #4 (found out she'd gotten my number via some of my friends on Artist Row).

The rapid fire calling just put me off, it just kinda screamed "needy" to me, but what sealed the "not interested" deal was the fact that she couldn't come to me face to face.

Try talking to her face to face.
 
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