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Do you want/have children?

  • I am a straight woman, and I want/have children

    Votes: 15 7.6%
  • I am a straight woman, and I DO NOT want to have children

    Votes: 9 4.5%
  • I am a straight man, and I want/have children

    Votes: 122 61.6%
  • I am a straight man, and I DO NOT want to have children

    Votes: 33 16.7%
  • I am a gay woman, and I want/have children

    Votes: 1 0.5%
  • I am a gay woman, and I DO NOT want to have children

    Votes: 1 0.5%
  • I am a gay man, and I want/have children

    Votes: 4 2.0%
  • I am a gay man, and I DO NOT want to have children

    Votes: 13 6.6%

  • Total voters
    198
Like some other poster's my wife and I are heading into our thirties and it's still not a priority for us or something we talk about/consider. A few of our close friends are on to their second so we get plenty of opportunities to baby sit and enjoy kids vicariously :). Unless our attitudes take a rapid tack our fecund window will pass by without much fanfare at all. I always thought I'd have kids but it's turned out being something I'm a bit meh about.
 
Definitely not here. Gay anyway, but even if that were different I wouldn't be interested. I have two nieces that I love, but the great thing about them is you can give them back to their parents :)
 
My girlfriend and I are still both young, so kids aren't really a priority for us. I think in the future though I'd like to adopt, though.
 
I'm kinda interested to see what kind of spawn will be created from me and teh Cazza. We're both creative types, shy and retiring. She sings, I play a few instruments. Shame blond and blue eyes are recessive alleles and the families run of Aryan kids will come to an end.
They'd also be stressed and anxiety fuelled mentalists too.
 
Gay man, no desire. I just don't like kids.

No kids for this homo.:D:p

Definitely not here. Gay anyway...

Oh no! The stereotype is winning! :eek:

I kind of see why Gary and Queso don't want kids (you have explained it in your posts), but Prof, I'd like to know more about why you don't want children. Is it something that could change? You are young right?
I think a batter question is if you do want kids - why?

Darn it Gary for asking the tough questions. :eek:

I guess since my family and extended family has always been very kid-positive and since I love babies (they are so cute), I figured I would enjoy having some mini-mes running around. Plus I think I have the right temperament and patience to have kids.

I know they're a total drain on wallets, and they're horribly ungrateful, and they smell funny for a good number of years, and they say things at the wrong times, but darn it, they provide (I think at least) a sense of fulfillment. Right? "o
 
I am a straight man, and I want children...


...but not tonight. :rolleyes:



Out of interest, CalBoy, what do people who define themselves as bisexual choose on your poll?

:p
 
My wife and I have no plans for kids. It's driving my folks nuts, as I'm an only child. So they fear my last name will die with me.
 
I'd make a better Uncle. :D

I quite enjoy playing and working with kids, actually, but it's not an endeavor I wish to fulfill personally on a full-time basis.
 
To be brief, I flicker from wanting children to not wanting children. Many a time I begin to lighten up to the idea of one day having one only to have my will mercilessly crushed by a small child wailing away next to me in a crowded subway car or airplane... we'll just have to wait and see the end result though...
 
27, married for 7 years with a 2 year old son. We might try for #2 later this fall. :)

I think the thing really that gets me is when he is ill (proper ill - not just a cold) - nothing can prepare you for that gut wrenching feeling.

This is SO true! My son was in the hospital for four nights when he was 15 months old because he came down with a strain of rotavirus. We were out of town when he started acting up so we took him to the local small hospital and we nearly had to have him airlifted to a hospital back home. That was an incredibly terrifying feeling!

Thankfully he responded well enough to the IV and antibiotics that we were able to leave after five hours in the E.R. We drove straight home that night, and it's a good thing we did because the next morning we had to take him back to the E.R. where he was admitted for four nights.

It was one of the worst feelings I have ever had in my life. He has always been so active and happy, but when he had that virus he was so very lethargic. That's what scared me the most.

He was a little trooper though, and after four nights of me sleeping on a cold, hard hospital room floor (I gave my wife the pull-out), and $7000 in hospital bills, he came home no worse for the wear. :)

But when he calls me dad and runs to greet me - well it makes it all worth the main artery bleed on our bank account.

Spoken like a true father. :)

The funny thing about kids is that I think most of us have instincts that kick in immediately when we have a child. One thing I noticed was that I always felt so unsure of myself when I held an infant, but the first time I held my son it felt as though I had been doing it my entire life.

I can't imagine life without my son, and it's been an incredible journey so far. But I don't think I'll ever receive a proper night's rest again.
 
BTW, it's too early to tell, but it surprises me that straight males seem to want/have kids the most. For some reason I thought that it would be the ladies that want kids (probably because that's how most of the people I know think) :eek:

I think it's just that the membership of these forums is tilted heavily towards males and so there are more males voting than females.

That said, I'm a straight male and want very much to have children. I'm still young yet though (23) and don't plan to have them for a few years when I'm (hopefully) married. I'm the oldest of a fairly large family and was a senior in high school when my youngest sibling was born, so I'm well aware of what living with children is like and I understand full well that it's an incredible amount of work to raise a child. However, it's also something I very much look forward to.
 
9, 7 and 4 year olds, and right now they're even drowning out the sound of my rather excitable iMac fans. Perhaps having them in my twenties instead of mid-30s would have been less of a strain on my body.
 
I definitely do not want children. That might change one day if I ever get my life together, but by time that happens I would be too old anyway.
 
Nope. I have never wanted kids. Its not that I dont like children, I love to be around them but the moment they start crying I hand them back to their mother.

I can't stand crying babies or how erratic they act. I know its all natural but it irritates me. And they cost so damn much. I would know, I still rely on my parents for a lot of things.

In the long run though, I know I will be having a kid. But only one and it wont be spoiled.
 
well i this point I dont want to have kids because im not stable with my work..but in the future of course I want to have kids..
 
Straight female here... married, two kids 6 & 10. I had my first one at 23. Its funny I read the posts here about being financially stable before having kids ( and there is absolutely merit in that) but its amazing how much more serious you get about finances and stability once you have a child. I think we found that the things that we thought were important that tend to drain bank accounts take on much less importance once you have a little one looking to you. I certainly respect all those who wait until later in life -- but for me personally, I really like that I had my children young (better shot at keeping up) and that I'll be home free when I'm 44. Can't wait for the next chapter!!
 
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