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Guys, I need "girl" help :)
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katie ta achoo said:ah, details.
yeah, go for it dude. Sounds good!
sweet....ill go for it when the time is rite i guess.....the success and end of this thread will be when she's my gf...at which time we can have a party...lol
ToddW said:
hahahaha. Looks like we have a pimp givin' out advice. That's hilarious but sadly sooo true
.Remember kids: pimpin' ain't easy.
That is the only way to play it when your young. After a coupld of times of myself getting played and doing the whole i'm a stupid worthless dateless dude, i started to figure some crap out. The main thing is play the girls, get laid, have fun, and settle down with someone great. It is a fund wild ride, once you figure out the rules.
The thing is chicks do the exact same thing. The will play you like a fiddle until a string pops, and then they throw you in the closet. Being the pimp will get you farther. Especially in the young years, HS and college. During that time chicks are looking for a wild time and not the whole relationship thing. Then the next thing you know, things become a lot easier. Your sex life gets better, and you start to have more fun and realize that there is a hell of a lot more in life than sitting at home on a Saturday night, watching Monty Python, drinking root beer, and eating popcorn.
The next thing you know you get married, a job, and a kid and your posting on macrumors at midnight. Have fund while you can!
The thing is chicks do the exact same thing. The will play you like a fiddle until a string pops, and then they throw you in the closet. Being the pimp will get you farther. Especially in the young years, HS and college. During that time chicks are looking for a wild time and not the whole relationship thing. Then the next thing you know, things become a lot easier. Your sex life gets better, and you start to have more fun and realize that there is a hell of a lot more in life than sitting at home on a Saturday night, watching Monty Python, drinking root beer, and eating popcorn.
The next thing you know you get married, a job, and a kid and your posting on macrumors at midnight. Have fund while you can!
Here's the thing: you need to definitively break out of the friend zone. Not ease out, because she'll resist that. Think of it like a big plate glass window at a car dealership. If you take your hand and start pushing gently, you can eventually be giving 100% of all your muscle and leverage and still the glass doesn't budge. What you want to do is get a good running start, lower your head and try to dive through that mother.
I've got a two-part prescription for you.
1: Distance yourself this week. Don't be as friendly, don't be as chatty. Blame being overloaded with schoolwork or a having a cold or a stomach thing. Don't hang out or chat on the phone or AIM. NO CONTACT of this sort will be tolerated. Zero!! Don't do it!
2: Call her home phone number next week and ask her out.
If you don't have her home phone number, get it when you ask her out. On a date. Make sure you're clear and forceful about the date part. It's not coffee, it's not playing cards with other friends. Just you, her and dinner. Nothing says "keep me in the friend zone" like timidly asking her if she wants to hang out at the bookstore.
Be bold, be cocksure and if she rejects you then you've still got an 80% of saving your friendship. Remember: this is your one and only chance. You will not be repeating this attempt.
I've got a two-part prescription for you.
1: Distance yourself this week. Don't be as friendly, don't be as chatty. Blame being overloaded with schoolwork or a having a cold or a stomach thing. Don't hang out or chat on the phone or AIM. NO CONTACT of this sort will be tolerated. Zero!! Don't do it!
2: Call her home phone number next week and ask her out.
If you don't have her home phone number, get it when you ask her out. On a date. Make sure you're clear and forceful about the date part. It's not coffee, it's not playing cards with other friends. Just you, her and dinner. Nothing says "keep me in the friend zone" like timidly asking her if she wants to hang out at the bookstore.
Be bold, be cocksure and if she rejects you then you've still got an 80% of saving your friendship. Remember: this is your one and only chance. You will not be repeating this attempt.
Good stuff ToddW. I'm in total agreement, including the "...sitting at home on a Saturday night, watching Monty Python, drinking root beer, and eating popcorn." stuff . I had a hard time with the ladies until I figured the rules out and then it was just one woman after another. The more you get around, the more other women seem to want you but after a while, dating multiple women at the same time and threesomes just gets old and too time consuming. It's just not worth the time to maintain multiple relationships and go out partying twice a week. I'm totally in old geezer mode and settling for the good long term relationship while studying/macrumoring on a saturday night at the ancient age of 25 .
. I had a hard time with the ladies until I figured the rules out and then it was just one woman after another. The more you get around, the more other women seem to want you but after a while, dating multiple women at the same time and threesomes just gets old and too time consuming. It's just not worth the time to maintain multiple relationships and go out partying twice a week. I'm totally in old geezer mode and settling for the good long term relationship while studying/macrumoring on a saturday night at the ancient age of 25 .
reberto said:Sorry to get off topic but, do most women usually find the iBook sexy?
I do.
but I'm not most women.
I'd rather read an Xserve manual than a Glamour magazine.
pseudobrit said:
Damn, it sounds like a plan...OK fine NOW I am going to bed...lol.
What if she has a legit excuse, like she has to do something for real?
reberto said:Sorry to get off topic but, do most women usually find the iBook sexy?
Women find the iBook sexy if your using it to manage your stocks that are bringing in loads of money
As for CoMpX's question, I dunno... I've had the best luck just not doing anything. Since I was 14 I dated 3 girls (that were serious), the first two I tried making the moves and the relationships didn't work. My current gf who I've dated for a year and a half now, I never really did much. All I did was give her a message saying I thought she was cute and heres my phone number. She did the rest.
So personaly, I'd just do whatever seems right.
katie ta achoo said:I do.
but I'm not most women.
I'd rather read an Xserve manual than a Glamour magazine.
u my grrl katie!
You have a good plan there. People who say you can't break out of the friends zone are wrong, but it is hard. That said it really depends on the girl how much she separates friends from potential bfs.
Off Topic: Katie, I would flirt with you but I am to shy to flirt well. Besides, I don't have an iBook. Only this lowsy 15" PowerBook, so I know I don't stand a chance..
Off Topic: Katie, I would flirt with you but I am to shy to flirt well. Besides, I don't have an iBook. Only this lowsy 15" PowerBook, so I know I don't stand a chance..
revenuee said:
Ewww....lol...I get it. so I just gotta try to not talk 2 her all weeek (hard to do) to break out of the friend status? and then ask her to dinner or something?
CoMpX said:
doesn't work that way. if you ignore her you'll just hurt the friendship ... i got weeks without talking to my female friends and my perception of them doesn't change
the reality is ... it's not impossible to break out of that box, but it is hard work ... and when i say hard, i don't mean if you lean on it long enough it will crack hard ... in fact if you lean on it, it will actually be tougher.
i know you're probably feeling like this girl amazing, and that you have so much in common and the relationship would be SOO great.
but there are millions of girls around ... it seems ludicrous to me to waste your time on one ... why screw up the friendship when you can be out dating someone else?
Word. This is a very important point. It doesn't just happen like that. *snaps*yippy said:
I would never consider dating some of my male friends without some kind of buffer time that includes lots of awkward "we're friends, but trying to be more" moments.
Those are so fun.
yippy said:Off Topic: Katie, I would flirt with you but I am to shy to flirt well. Besides, I don't have an iBook. Only this lowsy 15" PowerBook, so I know I don't stand a chance..
Oh em gee, I do too! IT WAS MEANT 2 B!1!!1!!~!!
Well I have tried to skim through this thread and get the details before giving my opinion...at first I thought you should WAIT before asking her out on a date because of just getting out of a relationship so soon but then I saw where she only dated the other guy a month, and personally I don't even call that hardly enough time for two people to have even said anything about being monogamous or committed yet in first the place so obviously no worries about rebound.
Well then my question would be HAS SHE GIVEN YOU ANY signs that she would be interested in YOU more than a friend?? Trust me, WOMEN ALWAYS give the man at least a hint if they are interested in anything more than a friend or they mention something to one of their friends about you at least. If not, go with your gut feeling....I don't see how it would wreck a friendship this early on and even if she says she doesn't want to be more than friends, then just DON'T ever push the issue and you guys will be back to normal in no time! And if there is a chance, it might just take some time for her to develop the same feelings. Either way, don't make a huge deal out of it now---just stay cool!
JMO!
Well then my question would be HAS SHE GIVEN YOU ANY signs that she would be interested in YOU more than a friend?? Trust me, WOMEN ALWAYS give the man at least a hint if they are interested in anything more than a friend or they mention something to one of their friends about you at least.
If not, go with your gut feeling....I don't see how it would wreck a friendship this early on and even if she says she doesn't want to be more than friends, then just DON'T ever push the issue and you guys will be back to normal in no time! And if there is a chance, it might just take some time for her to develop the same feelings. Either way, don't make a huge deal out of it now---just stay cool! JMO!