If I was into the "normal" size phone, I'd really have a hard time picking between the 12 and 12 pro. They're both slightly too large for my comfort and the pro unnecessarily heavy.
The zoom lens on the pro is underwhelming IMO, 2x digital zoom on the regular 12 doesn't really look worse to be honest. I tried them side by side in the Apple store, hard to tell a difference when pixel peeping.
Lidar? I guess faster auto-focus at night and night mode portrait mode could be cool, but then it's a grainy picture with a blurry background, portraits need to be super detailed where it counts IMO.
Extra RAM? Meh, I don't multitask that much really.
ProRaw? Actually I'd enjoy that I think, being able to undo things the AI did and mess with it by hand.
60 fps HDR video as opposed to 30 on the regular iPhone 12... that's a tough one. From all reports, HDR video is incredible, even just looking at the playback on the phone screen. 30 fps HDR seems like lifelike colors with not-so-lifelike motion. I do hope live photos work with HDR.
Here's hoping for an iPhone 13/14 pro mini down the line. Just all the tech on a handy package.