Hush up DT! Let this flourish. Please.
Just sit back, grab a beer, and watch him assuredly dig his own grave.
Any minute now the conversational will turn to his ultimate goal, talking about himself and his immense wealth.
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Has anybody on here ever had a sugar baby?
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Hush up DT! Let this flourish. Please.
Just sit back, grab a beer, and watch him assuredly dig his own grave.
Any minute now the conversational will turn to his ultimate goal, talking about himself and his immense wealth.
To be honest, I am at something of a loss to understand why any 35 year old male, let alone an accomplished, attractive, charming, (suitably employed) male, would even want to be considered as someone who is auditioning for the role of a "sugar daddy".
Surely such an accomplished individual is able to attract appropriate female attention without having to resort to that?
I'm sure a man of that caliber could get married if he wanted to a beautiful and successful woman.
It's just a matter of choice. Not every man wants something serious. Some just want to have fun with college girls I guess.
It's not a matter of "resorting" in my opinion. It's not like going to the street corner...
Uh, so exchanging sex and companionship for money and goods is what exactly, if not a subtle form of prostitution?
A lot of rich men spoil their beautiful wives or girlfriends with money and goods..
I don't believe that I ever mentioned the word 'marriage'. However, I would have assumed that the proverbial, hypothetical, male someone of that age, (and reputed accomplishments), might, perhaps, be interested in something such as a relationship.
"Relationship", needless to say, (and it does need to be said) is a word that carries a lot of freight. As such, this is one of those words which can be interpreted rather flexibly, as not all 'relationships' are equally serious.
What I still fail to understand is why an attractive and accomplished 35 year old would feel the need to have to act like a 'sugar daddy'. (Even the very notion of the word 'daddy' in any sexual relationship - and I assume that these are sexual relationships - gives me the creeps). Surely an attractive and accomplished 35 thirty five old would experience little difficulty in persuading women that he would be someone they could enjoy being with; why the need to play this 'sugar daddy' role?
I see. I don't have the answer to that. Maybe he's really busy and doesn't have time for a traditional relationship.
It'd be terrible if he was dating a pretty woman who expected marriage and then she falsely accused him of horrible things after breaking up, because she felt he just used her.
Remember, rich men have a lot to lose. With a sugar baby, everything is pretty transparent and she knows what to expect.
If you are older, and wedded to your wealth, rather than a woman, perhaps.
However, my point is that a 35 year old male (supposedly accomplished, and so on, let's ladle on the adjectives, here) who desires to act as a 'sugar daddy' must feel that he - as a person, as a man, as a human being - has very little to offer, and not that he has much, or a lot, to lose.
The overt sexism in this thread is appalling.
So far, here is what I have learned
So far, here is what I have learned
- If you make less than your spouse, you're a sugar baby
- Being a sugar baby is exchanging sex for money and wealth
- Being a sugar baby is borderline prostitution.
Again, this is not like going to street corner because no one else will have sexual relations with you.
I think time could be a factor as a traditional relationship requires a lot of time. I think cost could be a factor for some men, as a sugar baby could be cheaper than a girlfriend or worse losing potentially 50% to a wife. And of course the safety- if everything is open and transparent there is less of a chance an angry ex can faslely accuse him of rape and take him to civil court for monetary gain.
Take a look at the OP's other threads. They make for interesting reading, to say the least, but this latest thread is a continuation of a perennial obsession approached from different directions.
Oh, good grief, we are back to that area where money, power, lack of time, excessive entitlement, and encounters with other genders intersect. Actually, we are back to the OP's obsession with money, and wealth.
If time is too costly an expenditure, then, I think we can forget about anything meaningful That doesn't just mean in the context of relationships, but it often includes other intangibles, those things such as affection, liking, respect.
Absent these, instead, what we have is a commercial transaction. Sex for money. What is the problem with seeing this as an upmarket version of prostitution?
However, I repeat that if someone seeks to embark upon - if relationship is such an ugly word - what can we call it instead - transactional encounters? - which involve sexual relations without the time, trouble, and context that might give it deeper meaning, - and perhaps some degree of meaningful duration - we are reduced to something not a million miles away from a commercial sexual exchange, a transaction - a transaction of sex for money - or of money for sex, where both partners may come to despise or loathe what they can come to view as the power imbalance; this is a trade that is as old as recorded history.
But don't confuse this with love, or try to delude yourself that this is what you have here, as your original post seems to try to assume. It is nothing of the sort.
Yup Too agree. It pretty much defines the personal relationship a pimp has with his female sex workers.
But then again, supposedly a lot of prostitutes fall in love with their pimp and never leave them...
Could be for the same reasons a sugar babies sometimes fall in love with their sugar daddy.
Could be for the same reasons a sugar babies sometimes fall in love with their sugar daddy.
Delusional self-serving nonsense. Nonsense on stilts.
Hm. Now, it appears that we have gone from 'not uncommon' to 'common' to 'often times'.
Stuff and nonsense. This is the kind of utter tosh that well-heeled older men come up with to try to pretend that they are not buying sexual favours from gorgeous young women.
More self-serving delusional nonsense on the part of well off older men.
What I cannot understand is this need to disguise what is a crude commercial transaction to try and delude themselves that the women - for whom they insist they have no feelings - this tedious and tired cliché of the 'tart with the heart of gold' - must fall in love with their vapid and boring (but moneyed) selves.
You know, if they put the time, effort, and energy into trying to build proper relationships, they might actually find someone who would be fond of them, and may even come to love them.
Google it. You are so misinformed!!!
Prostitues often fall in love with their pimp. This is the same thing sort of.
Stockholm Syndrome for prostitutes and their pimps, but don't put the blame where it firmly belongs: on the pimp.
I seriously hope you are not wanting to be the cause of Stockholm Syndrome. If so, you would definitely be a very cruel person indeed.
You made the assertion. You must provide the source.
BL.
From 'not uncommon' to 'often'. Good grief.
Prostitutes and pimps I'd class as coercion and dependence relationships, ruled by fear, and sometimes addiction to narcotics; romance doesn't come into it, for they are not relationships in the (healthy?) sense we understand that word - the power imbalance is far too great, reinforced by fear, violence and control.
Now, the 'Stockholm Syndrome' may arise from such relationships, but it is predicated upon such an imbalanced of power, and access to resources, that it derives from a frenzied fear mingled with a healthy desire for self-preservation.
Is this what your proverbial sugar daddies want from a relationship? Then, they are even more deranged, and deluded that I had thought.
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I don't know what sugar daddies want beyond play. I just know via Google that some sugar babies fall in love with their sugar daddy.
And I think that's odd.
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