You should know better.
Exactly.
OMG, you're such a wh...er...sl....er...frisky person!!
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OMG, you're such a wh...er...sl....er...frisky person!!
If you haven't had sex she could have been a practice run so you don't freak out when you meet someone you actually like.
If you haven't had sex she could have been a practice run so you don't freak out when you meet someone you actually like.
He may not freak out when he meets someone he actually likes, even without prior practice. But maybe that was your very point? Not sure if you were sarcastic or not.
Practice run... if that's what he needs, then he might as well go see a prostitute. Heck, maybe he should have done it long ago.
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For the OP, if you are feeling anxiety, I'd say having sex for the first time with basically a stranger who has high expectations of your performance is a mistake. Maybe it would be better with someone who you had developed a relationship with? If you tell this person it's your first time and you are anxious you may or may not get the kind of support and possibly the patience you need. That's kind of a crap shoot. Wear protection.
BTW, my impression is that many young folks these days view sex in a very recreational manner, about the level I used to consider 'petting' about 40 years ago- yes? If worried about embarrassment, maybe a professional tutor should be employed before delving into possibly romantic relationships... However whether you are a girl or a boy, having sex first seems to me like it's contrary to long lasting relationships, but is it a long lasting relationship that is primarily being sought and are girls now just acting like boys have always acted?
For the OP, if you are feeling anxiety, I'd say having sex for the first time with basically a stranger who has high expectations of your performance is a mistake. Maybe it would be better with someone who you had developed a relationship with? If you tell this person it's your first time and you are anxious you may or may not get the kind of support and possibly the patience you need. That's kind of a crap shoot. Wear protection.
BTW, my impression is that many young folks these days view sex in a very recreational manner, about the level I used to consider 'petting' about 40 years ago- yes? If worried about embarrassment, maybe a professional tutor should be employed before delving into possibly romantic relationships...
However whether you are a girl or a boy, having sex first seems to me like it's contrary to long lasting relationships, but is it a long lasting relationship that is primarily being sought and are girls now just acting like boys have always acted?
If it's any consolation, I was 24 when I lost mine (and tbh, I think I'm finding it again..), and I was still incredibly nervous.
I did tell the girl beforehand that it was my first time and that I was very nervous, and she actually was very flattered and sweet about it. Now, it's possible that your girl might react differently, in that case, don't have sex with her! It's meant to be fun, not a test.
There is no right age to have sex, no correct number of dates before having sex, no correct answer as to who initiates sex, no correct number of times to have sex...
p.s. I also suffer from anxiety; though CBT has helped me hugely.
I did tell the girl beforehand that it was my first time and that I was very nervous, and she actually was very flattered and sweet about it. Now, it's possible that your girl might react differently, in that case, don't have sex with her! It's meant to be fun, not a test.
There is no right age to have sex, no correct number of dates before having sex, no correct answer as to who initiates sex, no correct number of times to have sex...
p.s. I also suffer from anxiety; though CBT has helped me hugely.
I thought the third date meant sex? Well thats what Bernadette told Howard!
Personally speaking I think there is a lot less pressure if you are in a trusting relationship. I've only ever had sex with my wife (and she has only ever had sex with me). It's the best solution in my opinion, but I grew up in a different time when things were probably different.
ready or not you make the decision. Just remember if you get her pregnant on accutane, you're going to have a bad time.
Wait, what?
Accutane? Isn't that some sort of prescription drug against acne?
Yea and it causes massive birth defects. I was on it when I was a little teenager. They warn about it all the time. I'd be surprised if his doctor hadn't mentioned it.
I'm not a doctor so I'm not really sure how it causes birth defects. I just know it does. Use a condom!
Accutane (Isotretinoin) may cause birth defects if you're a woman using it. A man using Accutane is not risking causing birth defects when having sex with a woman who is not using it:
I suffer from anxiety too. I dont think your issue is really the girl or the sex in particular, its just a big event that has set off your anxiety alarm bells. I would imagine you have the same reaction to other big stressful events too?
Anxiety is an awful, crippling thing. If you have the means to see someone professionally to get help with it now then you really should. Its much easier to deal with these problems before they become more severe or interfere with your life more than they have already.
If you do decide to see the girl then make sure she knows its your first time, itll take away some of the performance anxiety from you.
Good luck with things and dont let your friends push you into something your not happy with.
This is complete and utter rubbish, its linked to potential birth defects if the woman takes the drug while pregnant.
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accutane is straight poison but it sure did clear up all my acne like magic and now i can have a pound of lard spreaded on face and i wont even get a spot
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when your on it your feel like a zombie with headaches and liver and kidney pains you really feel like your gonna die or have cancer but having acne was worse the birth defect thing is if your carrying an baby and taking it as the massive amounts of vitamin A can harm the baby or something like that
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when your on it your feel like a zombie with headaches and liver and kidney pains you really feel like your gonna die or have cancer but having acne was worse the birth defect thing is if your carrying an baby and taking it as the massive amounts of vitamin A can harm the baby or something like that
Good advice. Be honest with her. She needs to know about your anxiety up front. If she reacts as above, great. If not, you can always walk away.
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