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How can a guy who's not particularly handsome, feel confident?
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Also in agreement there. I would actually go so far as to say I am completely repulsed by guys who think it's oh so clever to go out and try to "score" as many "chicks" as possible.
Confidence is a wonderful thing indeed but it doesn't mean one has to be perpetually out looking for strange™. In fact, I've found that guys who have urges to behave that way actually tend to have unchecked low self esteem... in the worst ways. No thanks.
Understated confidence and wry wit will blow my skirt up a lot faster than hubris and BS.
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LOLOLOL!!!! This was such a casual response it caught me off guard and. Made. Me spit my beer out hahaha
I second the statement below. I've got friends that are always looking to get laid and bragging about getting laid...all the time..thats not the lifestyle for me.
As far as confidence goes, I recently reconnected with someone from high school. In HS this guy was really one of the geekiest guys there. Today he is still not much too look at, but he has a beautiful wife, and even now is hit upon by beautiful women younger than he is. The thing that I noticed that is different from the HS days to now (this is also at least a 20 year difference by the way), is that he is one of the most self assured people Ive met.
Three chicks by the age of 24 is pretty good...I had one by the age of 24. Im 43 now, and have had a total of 3, but Im one of those oddball males who wont sleep with someone unless they are in a committed relationship.
As far as confidence goes, I recently reconnected with someone from high school. In HS this guy was really one of the geekiest guys there. Today he is still not much too look at, but he has a beautiful wife, and even now is hit upon by beautiful women younger than he is. The thing that I noticed that is different from the HS days to now (this is also at least a 20 year difference by the way), is that he is one of the most self assured people Ive met.
Three chicks by the age of 24 is pretty good...I had one by the age of 24. Im 43 now, and have had a total of 3, but Im one of those oddball males who wont sleep with someone unless they are in a committed relationship.
I don't go out to hook up with random womens I've never met before. It's not my style. Perhaps you're jumping to conclusions if you assume your friend *cough*cough*wink*wink* is a failure.
Dawg, you hit the nail on the head, as per usual.
So horribly low, so funny.
Dawg, you hit the nail on the head, as per usual.
So horribly low, so funny.
^ This x 10 + 2 to the power of 3.
Really, I bet he finds a wonderful lady who he adores as much as she adores him long before you figure out that sticking your dirty P in some random chick's V in no way suggests that you're "more blessed" than he is. Perhaps he doesn't look like he should bathe in cologne and stand inside an Abercrombie store but I bet he has something inside of him that you likely lack. Your "friend", from what little we all know here is truly the blessed one.
Sorry but this is the first thing I thought of when I saw the title of this thread...
love that, and so true...
love that, and so true...
Eben Pagan is a bit smarmy methinks, but it may work. The guy's also got a whole course on how used "David DeAngelo" to make his millions.
There are a bunch of guys out there who have great tips on being better with women. Sure many of them just deal with picking up chicks but the same rules apply if you're looking for a serious relationship.
David DeAngelo
Neil Strauss
Mystery
There are bunches of them. I like to read many of them and pick and choose things that work for me. DeAnglelo is just another guy who used to be terrible with women and then figured it out. A lot of his emails and books are repetitive but they key message always remains the same.
Im shocked. I wouldve thought a guy as awesome as you had never heard of any of these authors. I cant even look at you now.
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Maybe the OP's friend actually enjoys sitting back and watching the OP trying to stick his penis in the maximum number of vaginas (beating the "chick high-score"), just like a cur would.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and maybe he hasn't me the right girl yet. You say 3 Chicks like that's a bad thing. Should he be like Gene Simmons and have sex with thousands of women?
And are you sure he is straight? Maybe he's gay or even bisexual and having internal issues with it.
Im shocked. I wouldve thought a guy as awesome as you had never heard of any of these authors. I cant even look at you now.
Oh, now, trust me I found out about David DeAngelo from Eben's other videos. He's good at the psychological points of selling stuff, which interested me.
How to date? How to get women? I don't need no stinkin' badges. Er, help.
Assuming that the guy really wants help with this, I can only suggest to fake it. Pretend to be confident and people will think you are. Eventually enough people will think you are that you actually will be.
Damn, I wish I'd thought to say that.
Damn, I wish I'd thought to say that.
Because if you don't "get with" more than 3 chicks, your not a man.
But if you read his original post you'll see there is more to the situation. He stated that his friend can't even strike up a conversation at the bar.
That is a social problem and can certainly inhibit many parts of his life, including ladies, making friends or the professional world with his job.
It's nice that the OP wants to help his buddy out but it also depends if his buddy even cares. If he sits arounds the house and talks about how all the girls at bars suck and has no interest then it probably isn't worth his time.
SchneiderMan said:^ Haha! Who are you kiddin? You're beautiful MacRy!
Oh I'm so sorry but this is just too funny! Hahahahaha
I'm butt ugly, does that help?
No I'm not. ...Really. I'm not.
Lol. Thanks man. You clearly see the inner beauty in people, as if it wasn't for that paperbagectomy I had when I was in my mid twenties I would still be single I think.
I'm already interested in your friend on the mere basis that he sounds capable of going to a bar without needing to find a one night stand. Win for him.
What seems to be the issue? Is he overweight or too thin? Is his hair all wrong, does he not dress appropriately for his body type? There are lots of things a person can do to improve their looks and feel more confident.
This is so true. Confidence is everything. I have found myself attracted to less-than-physically-attractive guys for just that reason.
Maybe the OP is talking about you, Chris, like the Piña Colada Song. Maybe she also likes making love at midnight.
"3 chicks by the age of 24"... that's more than what I had. Then we broke up and I did my best to catch up with society.
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That's exactly what I thought when reading the first post. I did not have more girls at that age (I am 25 now). Who decides what number is enough and what not?