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How do you feel about yourself?
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techlover828
macrumors 68020
SMM
macrumors 65816
I try to never do something I am ashamed of and not put myself in a position where I can be criticized. I am also honest enough to admit when I fail to live up to these standards. I own many nice material things, but they hold no ownership over me. My most coveted possessions are the relationships I have with family and friends. I do not think I am special, but generally on the right track.
At the risk of being irritating, a few years ago I noticed that things in my life were either doing exceedingly well, or pretty much sucked.
When I thought about it some more (and talked it over with some friends), I noticed that the things I thought the best about were the things in my life that were doing well. The things I had the lowest/worst thoughts about turned out to be the things in my life that I didn't like how they were going.
So I made a conscious effort to work on my thoughts (as in "improving them") on the areas in my life that sucked, and sure enough, things in those areas started going better. It wasn't the easiest thing to try to do, but what I found out helped the most was to talk about how I wanted these things to be, and stopped talk about how they are.
So I guess my answer to "how do you feel about yourself" is very much like some of the others here ... I really really really love myself.
And not in a narcissistic way. More of a "I know I have the power to change pretty much anything in my life to how I want it to be, and I like that" kind of way.
If that makes any sense whatsoever. 🙂
zap2
macrumors 604
I'm pretty happy with myself...even when everyone is mad at me, If I'm happy with what I did(which resulted in them being mad at me) , I'm fine with it. I go relax, and people calm down.
I hate feeling like I messed up...and when it results in people getting mad....that eats me up.
I hate feeling like I messed up...and when it results in people getting mad....that eats me up.
0098386
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I'm pretty chuffed. Have a beautiful, yet adorably neurotic girlfriend, graduating very soon, all's going well. I'm more or less happy about where I am but there's always the nagging voice that I can't rest on my laurels. And I feel like I've let myself down when I don't achieve.
Also a bit annoyed at myself that I let my friends drift away. Everyone got jobs or went to different universities. That's a bit lonely at times. But I've got a fantastic family and a good (small) set of local mates so that makes me smile.
Also a bit annoyed at myself that I let my friends drift away. Everyone got jobs or went to different universities. That's a bit lonely at times. But I've got a fantastic family and a good (small) set of local mates so that makes me smile.
Abstract
macrumors Penryn
I haven't met any of you in person, but you all realize that you're probably great people, right? 😉 There's nothing in your life that needs changing for your life to be worth living. If people feels that you make a valuable contribution, then you're not useless. If someone in this world thinks you look good, then you're not unattractive. If someone thinks you're kind, then you're not completely made out of stone. You're only useless if you don't have friends, family, or colleagues who think you do great work, and you're only unattractive if nobody in your life thinks you're appealing in any way, which can't be true.
I have ups and downs like everyone else. I just know that I shouldn't worry about the negatives when my girlfriend, family, and friends seem to accept them all. 😛
Well stop feeling bad about yourself because of these things! If I did the same thing, I'd be a waste of human life. I had it pretty tough growing up. Did I enjoy the abuse, gambling, threatening phone calls, debt, cocaine, guns, constant fear, and overall chaos surrounding me while growing up? No. 🙄
If you met me, I can guarantee you that you would never be able to see my past by looking at me today, and I intend to keep it that way. 🙂
I've thought about this all day, I guess I am somewhat happy with myself, just I don't think I achieve what I want to, I never make it to the point I want to get to, I am always just a footstep away.
iBlue, I do not think you are not "ugly" at all. You're young, skinny, happy looking, and cute looking. I know that you probably don't really like me, but I suppose everyone in life, if not a big hero or celebrity finds themselves useless in the world. But think of the movie "it's a wonderful life", maybe you think you are "useless" but perhaps you've helped many people without even knowing it.
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I guess we all have our insecurities, because we all have shortcomings. Whether or not we actually care about them, to to what extent we do is different depending on who we are.
iBlue, I do not think you are not "ugly" at all. You're young, skinny, happy looking, and cute looking. I know that you probably don't really like me, but I suppose everyone in life, if not a big hero or celebrity finds themselves useless in the world. But think of the movie "it's a wonderful life", maybe you think you are "useless" but perhaps you've helped many people without even knowing it.
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I guess we all have our insecurities, because we all have shortcomings. Whether or not we actually care about them, to to what extent we do is different depending on who we are.
zap2
macrumors 604
I can tell you...your not.
Well having never met you outside of MR, I can't say anything other then this
Your not useless here..as far as outside of MR, I don't know, but I have my doubts.
Again, only know you on macrumors, but you certainly don't seem stupid.
I'm not saying those things to be nice...if you were those things, I wouldn't have commented here, and more then likely it would have come out somewhere else on the forums....but I can tell you from here, and pictures of you, you don't seems to be anything of those thing.
macmama
macrumors regular
I have the kind of high self esteem that I'm sure borders on arrogance. I try to keep this in check, unless I'm being honest in a thread on the topic, of course. 🙂
iBlue, FWIW, I think you're a knock-out. I know that doesn't change anything about your perception, but it might be nice to hear (repeatedly!).
iBlue, FWIW, I think you're a knock-out. I know that doesn't change anything about your perception, but it might be nice to hear (repeatedly!).
elfin buddy
macrumors 6502a
I used to have serious problems with myself, but I now feel like I've conquered those issues and I'm one of the happiest people I know 🙂
I guess it all stemmed from striving to just be "normal", which I could never quite get. I lived across town from all my friends, I never had a TV (missed out on all pop culture references), I moved a lot, my parents didn't have a lot of money, we couldn't afford summer sports programmes or camps, et cetera. I just wanted to fit in and be like everyone else, and so I hated myself.
That all changed as I got older and realised that I really don't even want to be like everyone else. I'm much happier for realising that 😱
I guess it all stemmed from striving to just be "normal", which I could never quite get. I lived across town from all my friends, I never had a TV (missed out on all pop culture references), I moved a lot, my parents didn't have a lot of money, we couldn't afford summer sports programmes or camps, et cetera. I just wanted to fit in and be like everyone else, and so I hated myself.
That all changed as I got older and realised that I really don't even want to be like everyone else. I'm much happier for realising that 😱
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You sound just like my girlfriend! She never had a lot of money and enjoyed different hobbies compared to the rest of her school friends, she grew up wanting to be herself and it's really made her into a fantastic person.
Alternative childhoods are great. It's what makes us all different and that. I grew up not playing many computer games, but (at first) designing them and eventually making them. I grew up not liking music till I was 15.
You sound just like my girlfriend! She never had a lot of money and enjoyed different hobbies compared to the rest of her school friends, she grew up wanting to be herself and it's really made her into a fantastic person.
Alternative childhoods are great. It's what makes us all different and that. I grew up not playing many computer games, but (at first) designing them and eventually making them. I grew up not liking music till I was 15.
gadgetgirl85
macrumors 68040
I'm not really happy with my appearance. Even losing 30kgs and being normal weight now hasnt made me any happier. I suppose I like that I have reasonable intelligence and thats about it
KristieMac
macrumors 6502a
I thought losing weight would be the answer to all my issues and whatnot. It was disappointing to find otherwise. 😕
0098386
Suspended
I go for huge walks on my own. I live on the foothills of the Pennines and Saddleworth Moor so it's just a 10 minute bus ride and the hike begins. It's probably the only place you'll hear me singing 😀
It's better in bad weather because your mind is so set on just surviving that all the worry of smaller issues just goes away.
It's better in bad weather because your mind is so set on just surviving that all the worry of smaller issues just goes away.
jimN
macrumors 6502a
Way to knock a girl when she's down, suggest you take more time to consider your sentence construction. Well so much for the mac owners are all smug and self-satisfied myth; seems most are full of self-loathing.
I'm with mad Jew, I love myself (sometimes so many times a day that it starts to hurt).
iBlue
macrumors Core
Nah, I'm sure it was meant in good spirit. He was quoting my own choice of words. It could be taken the other way but I decided to take it as the former.
Mac owners (at least many of the ones here) are sure a supportive bunch. 🙂
What I've found though is no amount of kind words can change how you actually feel about yourself, but they are always nice to hear. (ta)
I use all of my good personality qualities to the fullest, and I admit my shortcomings, because we all have them, and as soon as we can admit them in front of people is the time when we are more mature than burying them in the sand. I try to focus on the positive and repress the negative, and overall, I'm pretty happy.
Mord
macrumors G4
This varies allot, I am the type of person who goes out of their way for others often. Often I feel like I'm just not particularly "nice" though.
My biggest trouble is how I deal with other's pain, I find it so so so difficult to say the typical "I'm so so sorry" thing as when my mother died that really drove me up the wall and I just wished people would stop so whenever anyone else is going through anything I find it extremely difficult to offer support or condolences as I feel like all I'm doing is rubbing their face in it if I do and I'm only doing it so that I appear in a better light.
I also have a deep down feeling that I'm rather boring, which is hugely ironic as I was always known as a chatterbox and around my friends I'm usually the one who directs conversation I just feel like I'm talking about the same old crap that no one particularly cares about even though they give the impression that they do.
That probably stems from some kind of low self worth but it's completely juxtaposed by my egotistical streak, I've done a fair number of pretty amazing things in my life by other people's standards without really putting all that much effort in and that often goes to my head as I'm left thinking do other people just not try? I generally take the attitude that it's worth giving most things a go as if you don't then you've already failed whereas, say, my sister will only do things if she knows for sure that she's going to succeed.
I also so often end up hurting people, more so these days when they think they get close to me and thus we're "best friends forever" but they're really not, I have friends I was born in the same room as and have known ever since, some people can't handle the fact that it takes me a fair long while to let them into my inner circle of friends and if relationships get too destructive I end them.
All this leads me to have such mixed feeling about myself that I end up just not thinking about it and just getting on with things as it's not particularly worth it tbh.
Oh, and to be vain: I don't really have much of a problem with my body bar a couple of things physically that'll be fixed in time, overall I consider myself lucky, not that I'm that amazing looking or anything just it could've been allot worse considering certain things.
My biggest trouble is how I deal with other's pain, I find it so so so difficult to say the typical "I'm so so sorry" thing as when my mother died that really drove me up the wall and I just wished people would stop so whenever anyone else is going through anything I find it extremely difficult to offer support or condolences as I feel like all I'm doing is rubbing their face in it if I do and I'm only doing it so that I appear in a better light.
I also have a deep down feeling that I'm rather boring, which is hugely ironic as I was always known as a chatterbox and around my friends I'm usually the one who directs conversation I just feel like I'm talking about the same old crap that no one particularly cares about even though they give the impression that they do.
That probably stems from some kind of low self worth but it's completely juxtaposed by my egotistical streak, I've done a fair number of pretty amazing things in my life by other people's standards without really putting all that much effort in and that often goes to my head as I'm left thinking do other people just not try? I generally take the attitude that it's worth giving most things a go as if you don't then you've already failed whereas, say, my sister will only do things if she knows for sure that she's going to succeed.
I also so often end up hurting people, more so these days when they think they get close to me and thus we're "best friends forever" but they're really not, I have friends I was born in the same room as and have known ever since, some people can't handle the fact that it takes me a fair long while to let them into my inner circle of friends and if relationships get too destructive I end them.
All this leads me to have such mixed feeling about myself that I end up just not thinking about it and just getting on with things as it's not particularly worth it tbh.
Oh, and to be vain: I don't really have much of a problem with my body bar a couple of things physically that'll be fixed in time, overall I consider myself lucky, not that I'm that amazing looking or anything just it could've been allot worse considering certain things.