Well, I qualified it with "depending on her personality" and "at least". So, 3 decades is definitely within the realm of possibility as well.
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I hid something from my Girlfriend for 2 years
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Well, I qualified it with "depending on her personality" and "at least". So, 3 decades is definitely within the realm of possibility as well.
You lied to her but if she says she can't really trust you again then she's silly. On the other hand, I bet if she hid something from you for 2 years you would react the same. Men do overreact, shocker, I know.
You fessed up and if she leaves you then so what? Clearly she didn't value the years spent with you if she's willing to throw it away on this. One thing though, I would wonder myself what else you had been hiding if you were willing to hide something seemingly insignificant. But anyway, let her piss on a long term relationship if she wants. Don't stand around and let it happen though. It's just not worth it. You may end up completely alone for the rest of your life but at least there won't be anyone around to lay guilt on you for something like this for 3 months or 3 decades.
You fessed up and if she leaves you then so what? Clearly she didn't value the years spent with you if she's willing to throw it away on this. One thing though, I would wonder myself what else you had been hiding if you were willing to hide something seemingly insignificant. But anyway, let her piss on a long term relationship if she wants. Don't stand around and let it happen though. It's just not worth it. You may end up completely alone for the rest of your life but at least there won't be anyone around to lay guilt on you for something like this for 3 months or 3 decades.
How does anyone know your word is true once you've demonstrated that it is not,
and you continue to be oblivious as to why that's important?
I suppose it's all fine so long as she also gets to arbitrarily decide when,
where and why the truth is important.
You could clean half of it up easily, with only a little thought on the matter.
ps.
The way to restore your integrity is to acknowledge that,
then to acknowledge how it affected others surrounding you,
and finally to do your best to repair the way that your error affected others.
The flowers come last, and are least significant.
and you continue to be oblivious as to why that's important?
I suppose it's all fine so long as she also gets to arbitrarily decide when,
where and why the truth is important.
You could clean half of it up easily, with only a little thought on the matter.
ps.
The way to restore your integrity is to acknowledge that,
then to acknowledge how it affected others surrounding you,
and finally to do your best to repair the way that your error affected others.
The flowers come last, and are least significant.
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I keep reading your posts like they are some kind of poetry.. the voice in my head even sounds different and takes weird pauses for effect while reading them.
I think it's the line breaks that you use.
I'm a Johnny come lately to this thread but here's my input on the whole situation.
While I can understand some people thinking she is over reacting, I tend to disagree.
You deceived your girlfriend for 2 years, and as stated relationships are built on trust. While its not as bad as sleeping around, you purposely deceived her and for that she is angry.
With that said, all you can do is apologize, ask forgiveness and let her calm down. Of course don't tell her she's over-reacting as that will have the opposite affect
While I can understand some people thinking she is over reacting, I tend to disagree.
You deceived your girlfriend for 2 years, and as stated relationships are built on trust. While its not as bad as sleeping around, you purposely deceived her and for that she is angry.
With that said, all you can do is apologize, ask forgiveness and let her calm down. Of course don't tell her she's over-reacting as that will have the opposite affect
Ooh, it's that Wonder Woman lady again,
and now I'm writing poetry! :O
Perhaps I have a tip for how to one day put words to music
I'm almost sad to break it...
A time in the 80's before the internet was regulated at all,
it was very expensive, so we would dial into a Bulletin Board Service
that could also potentially provide an On-ramp to the internet.
If you were doing line by line chat, either on the BBS or On-ramp,
it was bad to exceeded a 70 character line limit.
Very annoying because it caused another line to roll off the screen,
and there were a limited number of lines on your screen as well.
it's a habit that's just never gone away.
But it's not how something was said that matters so much
Props to the OP anyway, at least for successfully hiding it.
You couldn't ever smoke in your car,
or for a long time either side of meeting with the lady.
and now I'm writing poetry! :O
Perhaps I have a tip for how to one day put words to music
I'm almost sad to break it...
A time in the 80's before the internet was regulated at all,
it was very expensive, so we would dial into a Bulletin Board Service
that could also potentially provide an On-ramp to the internet.
If you were doing line by line chat, either on the BBS or On-ramp,
it was bad to exceeded a 70 character line limit.
Very annoying because it caused another line to roll off the screen,
and there were a limited number of lines on your screen as well.
it's a habit that's just never gone away.
But it's not how something was said that matters so much
Props to the OP anyway, at least for successfully hiding it.
You couldn't ever smoke in your car,
or for a long time either side of meeting with the lady.
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[/COLOR]When I was a smoker I would try to hide it as much as I could.
It was more of the shame that I had a weakness. The fear of what people thought. It is only human to hide things for fear of judgment.
[/COLOR]When I was a smoker I would try to hide it as much as I could.
It was more of the shame that I had a weakness. The fear of what people thought. It is only human to hide things for fear of judgment.