I need help, just got escorted home by the police

Discussion in 'Community Discussion' started by Mr. lax, Sep 11, 2009.

  1. Mr. lax macrumors 6502

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    Okay, so lets start from the beginning, I'm 16, and i live in a country where the drinking age is 18. A week and a half ago, my dad searched my room and found alcohol... among other thing. Tonight i was drinking at my buddies place because his dad is out of town for 3 weeks. My bud and i both know our limits and don't ever go over that. We had 2 girls with the 2 of us and one of them did know her limits, the other drank until she passed out and started throwing up. After cleaning up all the vomit, and letting her sleep it off for 2 hours, we decided it was time to take her home. As we were leaving my buddies house, these neighbors were wondering what happened and they called the cops. Once i heard the sirens, i ran back to my buddies house to make sure it was okay, and to clean up the beer cans and bottles. Less than 5 mins after i got there, i heard a knock on the back door, and without thinking, i opened the door to the police. They asked for my I.D. and i told them i didn't have any. They asked if i had shoes and i told them i did, then they asked for I.D. again and i gave them my drivers license. On my way out i got frisked and the police drove me home. On the way they questioned me more and i told the honest truth about how much we had been drinking, and that we were honestly just trying to take care of this girl. The police dropped my off at my house, and talked to my parents for a couple minutes before letting me go in. My dad was so mad he wouldn't look at me, and my mother and i had a long talk before she went to bed. The police aren't pressing charges, but I am in deep trouble with my parents....

    What do you think i should do? Like what is the next course of action?

    Sorry for the rant
     
  2. mac88 macrumors 6502

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    Um, let me get this right. The police are not pressing charges. How are you arrested?
     
  3. dukebound85 macrumors P6

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    where did you get arrested in that post of yours?....
     
  4. jav6454 macrumors P6

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    I was about to write a long paragraph about what to do, but then I decided to do something better [realizing you are in Canada; laws are different].

    Best course of action is don't drink for a while and ask the girls who had drinks with you to talk to parents about the truth if you feel they don't believe you.

    Edit - Also, you were just escorted by the police. Arrested means you went to the precinct.
     
  5. bruinsrme macrumors 603

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    Take responsibility for your actions and accept what is handed down by your parents. It could be a lot worse. It doesn't sound like you got arrested. you should thank the police for giving you a ride home instead of your parents having to pick you up at the precinct
    BTW if she passed out she probably didn't sleep anything off,;)
     
  6. bartelby macrumors Core

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    So you're not in trouble with the law, only your parents?

    OMG!!!!
    :rolleyes:
     
  7. spillproof macrumors 68020

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    Oh the joys of being young... [-thinks back-]

    I am suppose to tell you to not drink, but then I would be a hypocrite. Just drink less. Don't drink SO much that you can't remember you already told the cops you didn't have any ID. You don't know your limits.

    Besides, limits change depending how (de)hydrated you are; it is different everytime.
     
  8. jecapaga macrumors 601

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    Doesn't sound like you were arrested. As to what the next course of action is...we can only hope you have good parents.
     
  9. jmann macrumors 604

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    What do good parents consist of?
     
  10. jecapaga macrumors 601

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    They hopefully guide, direct and help. But also create some bit of ownership of responsibility with their kid when they mess up. Especially when it's serious. I try.
     
  11. CorvusCamenarum macrumors 65816

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    You forgot "and plant a swift one in the posterior when necessary". Don't worry, it's a metaphorical swift one.

    So, let's review:
    1) OP failed to realize that since he's underage, his limit is zero.
    2) OP decided that since drinking at his house was out, he should go somewhere else to do it.
    3) OP lied to police.

    If the OP were my kid, he wouldn't be going anywhere except school for a copious amount of time and would become intimately familiar with an long list of arduous household tasks and chores.
     
  12. kymac macrumors 6502a

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    well, first off, you can't break the law if you don't do anything illegal..

    also, you don't sound too great at making decent decisions. life is about choices.
     
  13. jecapaga macrumors 601

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    I was typing with flowers, but yes...a severe kick in the ass is what also is needed.
     
  14. ceezy3000 macrumors 6502

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    just take it easy and chillax. Have a sit down with your pops and talk to him man to man. Explain it to him in a way which will seem rational and logical to him but don't expect everything to be better right after. He'll prolly come around after a while. Just be happy you guys weren't caught driving while under the influence. I'm not sure what the laws are in your country but i would assume you can't drive while drunk. Also tell that girl to stop being a stupid hoodrat lol:D
     
  15. Grolubao macrumors 65816

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    These are strange days were everything is prohibited... I just have to say that you are in a very strict country where nothing is allowed.

    When I was 16 I drank, and wasn't because of that that I didn't took a degree and am successful in life. It's part of life to learn those things.
     
  16. maflynn Moderator

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    I love when I see a 16 year old say they drink and know their limits. The problem teenagers don't know their limits and drink too much.

    There's also the problem of alcohol on a developing brain. There's been enough studies to show that drinking at such an early age has more affects on learning/cognitive development.

    Don't drink and you'll be better off
     
  17. Heilage macrumors 68030

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    Not necessarily true. I started drinking when I was 12 years old (although in hindsigth I'll admit it was stupid), my brain is functioning very well, especially in its ability to absorb knowledge and performing cognitive/resonating tasks. :)

    I think teenagers should taste alcohol if they want to. There's nothing immoral about it, alcohol is just something that's in a lot of good beverages. If parents start beating down on absolutely every part of exploration for the teenagers, they will end up being really messed up when they eventually move out and start their lives.

    You only learn stuff about life when you truly mess up and get into trouble. :)
     
  18. kellen macrumors 68020

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    Just because you didn't doesn't mean everyone won't. OP is still maturing and this could interfere with this. Is it 100%, no. But it is shown that people who drink at a young age can lead to problems later in life. I'm not advocating quitting and attending church 24/7, but moderation.

    To the OP, sounds like you just need to talk to your parents. They are probably okay with you drinking as long you aren't overdoing it and are not driving, but won't admit to this. Odds are they drank at your age. Just stress that you aren't overdoing it and not driving, but only if you truly arent.
     
  19. northy124 macrumors 68020

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    OP FAIL, you were not arrested, you were escorted home.

    IMO you should just do what your parents want you to do, don't make a single decision.
     
  20. GoCubsGo macrumors Nehalem

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    I agree here. Fact is, if he knew his limits he would not have been drinking at all. at 16 how could you even know your limits? I don't care if the drinking age is 18 or 21, at 16 you're still 16; even in Canada.

    Mr. lax, a few things stick out here. If you "just" got arrested I doubt you'd have a way to post on MacRumors. If you "just" got arrested you would have been taken to the police station and booked. Booking in most countries involves fingerprints, a photo of sorts (not your standard vacation photo) and a cell where you're locked in. You weren't "just" arrested but you should have been. How were you going to get the girl home? 2 hours to drink off all that she obviously drank is nothing. You need more than that for the body to process.

    You were escorted home and released to the custody of your parents. Your parents are pissed off and they should be. What to do? Well I'm shocked you're able to access a computer to actually post. I'd be thanking someone for what appears to be a rather light punishment.

    You lied to the police. At 16, or any age, this is a bad idea. If you're confused where you lied let's discuss the form of ID you did not have and then suddenly had. That police officer was real nice to you, you should be writing him a thank you.

    What to do now? Stop drinking. I don't think having one to try is all that horrible, but you clearly have an issue where you drink often. Your room was searched and alcohol and "other things" were found. A week later your dad leaves town for 3 weeks and you're out drinking. There is another flaw. Dad leaves town for 3 weeks so you were at your buddies house? Ok, so when you were taken home how the hell was your dad there?

    Aside from you being a liar who clearly doesn't know his limits, the best anyone should be telling you now is to quit drinking. You've had a taste and you need to wait 2 years because you clearly aren't responsible enough to handle anything.
     
  21. EvanLugh macrumors 68000

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    jessica, his buddies dad had gone away - which is why he was there drinking. OP dad was at home with his mum i guess. :)

    and op- seriously, 16, drinking, girls in a house? Good job.
     
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  23. redAPPLE macrumors 68030

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    i don't get it... why did you guys want to take the grrls home? what time did you guys leave to take the grrls home? i hate nosy neighbors :D

    were the grrls so ugly that you wanted to get rid of them? or just afraid that when they wake up, they would drink what's left of the booze, so you could drink it?

    anyway, what i am trying to say is, thank god, that nothing happened to you or the others.

    i would try to be a decent citizen (in your home) for the next few months...
     
  24. Mr. lax thread starter macrumors 6502

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    I guess it wasn't really arrested, just brought home and talked to by the police
     

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