Exactly, Apple designs chips according to a workflow. The A12X in the iPad Pro is not the same as the A12 in the XS. Different workflows, different designs. They will design a Laptop chip and a desktop chip. Just like Intel has got an Atom, a Celeron, a Pentium, an I3,5,7,9 core or a Xeon according to the requirement. There will be an A13, A13X, A13XX etc based on what it is they want the chip to do. Same thing for the GPU. I am pretty sure they won't stick to the intel integrated Iris or whatever it's called.iOS and macOS are both Unix-based operating systems. Yes, iOS was optimized for smaller devices (mostly in terms of having less ancillary code running, as well as not having to support a lot of normal expected Unix services), but when you're running a computation-based benchmark, you don't care about all that other stuff, and, indeed, you try to minimize its impact on the benchmark (e.g. you don't run other intensive software while the benchmark is running). Computation-based benchmarks aren't measuring anything directly related to the OS, they're going to run roughly the same on an iPhone vs a MacBook, once you've quieted down anything that might interfere with the benchmark.
First, it's not at all clear that that is true. Second, putting an iPhone CPU in a "real" computer is not what Apple would do. One of Apple's huge advantages with their A-series of chips, is they can have their engineers target precisely the needs of their iPhones and iPads. The mobile phone environment is severely limited in terms of how much power you can use, and how much heat you can generate.
Those limits are much different in the laptop arena, and many orders of magnitude different in the desktop arena. So why do you assume that they would use chips designed for a phone in their other computers? Especially given that a huge advantage they have is the ability to precisely target their own needs? Other companies have to scrounge around for processors that fit (and mostly come in two sizes: too small and too large), while Apple has the equivalent of their own tailor making exactly what they need.
There's nothing stopping them from making a desktop ARM-based CPU with 5x as many cores, running at twice or more the clock speed. You haven't seen a chip like that from them yet, because it's more computational power than they need in a phone, and it couldn't stay within the thermal and power limits of the phone environment. But in a laptop, or desktop, it'd be fine. And I wouldn't be at all surprised if they've had at least designs for such chips in the lab for a few years.
Microsoft has done a very good job by just adding a Neural Engine to the Qualcomm 8CX. Imagine what Apple could do.