Well, no. By and large, everyone (edit: here, this forum, not every Air owner) using the Air now has come from or experienced the Pro/Pro Max phones. And most (not all) of the people criticising the Air have not held, much less used, one.The same reason the Air people are calling the Pros Bricks, hideous, ugly, and cheap. Have you looked at many of the forums on here. There is way more hate for the Pros than the Airs.
So it’s not a valid comparison at all.
The in-hand feel of the Air is very different. At first I felt the same as you: how can a few mm and a few grams make a difference? The Air sounds stupid. But somehow, it really does add up to become very noticeable and far more pleasant.
I’ve had mine since Sunday but been back and forth about keeping it or my 16 Pro. Today I finally transferred my number across to make the Air my primary/sole phone for the next week. And honestly, so far it’s so much nicer to use. It’s also almost 3pm and my battery is at 61%, which is better than my 16P would get.