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Is kissing overrated? Or is it just me?

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devilot said:
I still agree w/ the OP. I'm not a huge fan of kissing, either. I much prefer hugs. If kisses can't be avoided, I prefer them to NOT be wet. Ick.

I like pecks on the cheek. I think they're sweet and cute. Or pecks on the forehead.
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I'm glad to hear that. Maybe it's just some people don't find it that great. That makes me feel more.... comfortable.
 
Don't worry too much about it. Everyone's different, and maybe you just prefer kissing cheeks and, er, stuff ;) more. Maybe you'll end up with someone who loves kissing, and maybe they'll make you like it more. Maybe you'll make that person realise that there's more to kissing than just mouth kissing mouth. :)

Gotta agree on the whole "less tongue is more" theory though. And I also agree with you that kissing other places (or being kissed on ;) ) is certainly no bad thing at all. :)
 
Maybe i'm too much into Byron Katie's stuff, and I automatically question my thoughts that tell me that the kiss feels good, and therefore I don't feel it.
 
macgeek2005 said:
I'm glad to hear that. Maybe it's just some people don't find it that great. That makes me feel more.... comfortable.
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You should never feel like you're supposed to enjoy something you don't. That said, I think that the people who don't like kissing in general just haven't found the right person to kiss, but I'm open to believing that it just isn't in the cards for some of us to like it.

macgeek2005 said:
Maybe i'm too much into Byron Katie's stuff, and I automatically question my thoughts that tell me that the kiss feels good, and therefore I don't feel it.
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If you're thinking while you're doing it, that's one of the things that's going wrong. Not everything was meant to be analyzed.
 
jsw said:
You should never feel like you're supposed to enjoy something you don't. That said, I think that the people who don't like kissing in general just haven't found the right person to kiss, but I'm open to believing that it just isn't in the cards for some of us to like it.
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Kissing is often and extension or at least related to love. Not always that easy to find someone who you enjoy kissing. It would be easy to think that it would come naturally to be good at it. Nope. and it takes two to tango.... its a team sport and if you dont have a good teammate.... you arent going to win. do you see where i am going with this?
 
That's not exactly what I meant.

What I meant was, maybe since i'm so much into this enlightenment stuff that I know everything is just caused by a thought. Whether or not a kiss feels good, depends on your thoughts. Maybe since i'm more awake than other people, i'm beyond feeling the pleasure of a kiss. I'm not trapped in my mind enough to believe that it feels good.
 
macgeek2005 said:
What I meant was, maybe since i'm so much into this enlightenment stuff that I know everything is just caused by a thought. Whether or not a kiss feels good, depends on your thoughts. Maybe since i'm more awake than other people, i'm beyond feeling the pleasure of a kiss. I'm not trapped in my mind enough to believe that it feels good.
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or your head is too big from being above the rest of us mere mortals to enjoy it? ;) :p
 
macgeek2005 said:
That's not exactly what I meant.

What I meant was, maybe since i'm so much into this enlightenment stuff that I know everything is just caused by a thought. Whether or not a kiss feels good, depends on your thoughts. Maybe since i'm more awake than other people, i'm beyond feeling the pleasure of a kiss. I'm not trapped in my mind enough to believe that it feels good.
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you say this like you feel good about it. If i were unable to find pleasure in life because i thought about it too much.... i would figure out a way to stop thinking about it so much. Ignorance can be serious bliss.
 
I personally think kissing is underrated. People seem to think it's a means to an end, but I think it's a great thing in and of itself.
 
jelloshotsrule said:
or your head is too big from being above the rest of us mere mortals to enjoy it? ;) :p
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Well.. yeah. That's the possibility i'm considering.
 
taytho said:
Kissing is often and extension or at least related to love. Not always that easy to find someone who you enjoy kissing. It would be easy to think that it would come naturally to be good at it. Nope. and it takes two to tango.... its a team sport and if you dont have a good teammate.... you arent going to win. do you see where i am going with this?
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All other things being equal, then being in love with the person will make the kissing more enjoyable. However, one can be in love and not find the kisses to be exceptional, and one can have few emotional attachments and still very much enjoy the kiss.

Also, there's no such thing as a universally good kisser (but I suspect that there are many universally bad ones). Kissing is a personal preference, and, as mentioned by others, you need to find the right "match".
 
taytho said:
you say this like you feel good about it. If i were unable to find pleasure in life because i thought about it too much.... i would figure out a way to stop thinking about it so much. Ignorance can be serious bliss.
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But when you're free of your mind, everything is bliss. Everything is love. You love everything, and you realise that everything and everybody loves you.

That's a better place to be.
 
macgeek2005 said:
Maybe since i'm more awake than other people, i'm beyond feeling the pleasure of a kiss. I'm not trapped in my mind enough to believe that it feels good.
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More awake? Not trapped in your mind?

What have you been reading?
 
taytho said:
[...]its a team sport and if you dont have a good teammate.... you arent going to win. do you see where i am going with this?
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I don't know... I've always liked the thought of it being into a 1-on-1 thing, you know... shirts versus skins. :D
 
macgeek2005 said:
I agree with you. I almost enjoy kissing cheeks and stuff more than lips, it feels more solid..

edit: But i'm still confused as to why kissing lips doesn't feel that amazing to me.
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Maybe one or both of you have bad breath??
 
Whatever. Life is. That's the simplest way to put it.

But we're getting off topic. This thread was about kissing.
 
I personally love it. As mentioned before, a good kiss can be better than sex if its done correctly. My lips are one of my favourite parts of my body and I do certainly enjoy the chance to use them. If there's tongue involved well, its a whole different story. I mean...I didn't get this done for no reason. ;)

-Ani

macgeek2005 said:
hahahahaha. Possibly. I haven't brushed my teeth in 3 months.
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Woah, explains a lot.

Eew.
 
macgeek2005 said:
But we're getting off topic. This thread was about kissing.
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It's not all that off topic. The point is that kissing is one of those things that can't be simultaneously analyzed and enjoyed.
 
macgeek2005 said:
Whatever. Life is. That's the simplest way to put it.

But we're getting off topic. This thread was about kissing.
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and about how you dont like it because you think about it to much.

let go.

live...... let yourself just live...... i am not sure how old you are so i dont know who i am speaking to really........ just let it flow buddy.
 
macgeek2005 said:
I agree with you. I almost enjoy kissing cheeks and stuff more than lips, it feels more solid..

edit: But i'm still confused as to why kissing lips doesn't feel that amazing to me.
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Don't worry about it, you're just too young. Everyone blossoms at their own pace.

And there is no such thing as being beyond some form of contact. There's just whether one appreciates it or not.
 
taytho said:
and about how you dont like it because you think about it to much.

let go.

live...... let yourself just live...... i am not sure how old you are so i dont know who i am speaking to really........ just let it flow buddy.
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That's how I live my life. Maybe to such an extent that the kiss doesn't feel like anything anymore..
 
macgeek2005 said:
Well.. I haven't done that yet... but I don't think you're right. Sex is different.
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You're right. Sex IS different, but it, too, can feel somewhat ho-hum (and sometimes painful) if it's not done right or if you're just not into it.

Both kissing and sex are part physical and part emotional/mental. If you don't have both in play at the same time then the experience can just be blah.

But hold off on the sex part... you're far too young....
 
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