Is this illegal?

[pooky]

Ha! Got me. Clever wording by the OP.

Of course the original version was correct too. There are many things we're NOT: not girlfriends, not hippopotamuses, not small moons of Jupiter...

Hey! Speak for yourself. I happen to be a very small moon of Jupiter.

As to the OP, no way would I even accept such a call from someone I didn't know about a prospective employee. Who are you? From my perspective, just some random nobody with an obvious grudge against someone I'd like to hire.

 

[rdowns]

Mind your own damn business.

 

[eMac4ever]

Background:

Two years ago, I found myself romantically attracted to this boy, presumably under the influence of some narcotic now forgotten. I--with the MOST endearing naivety--divulged this to a friend, thinking that she wouldn’t tell anyone. Friends don’t hurt friends, after all. Reasonable, right?

Wrong.

Not only did she tell “someone,” she told him directly (with the obligatory embellishments of any good schoolyard rumor).

He then proceeded to harass me for the rest of the year, every day—in the hallways, in the classroom, on field trips, etc. Let me tell you, its lots of fun to walk down the hallway, only to hear someone scream “stalker!” while everyone else in the hallways backs away from you in fear. Honestly, it really turns me on. Just the other day, I was asked by a friend as to whether I have any weird fetishes. I replied, “You know what, nothing gets me hard like having everyone in the grade think I’m a stalker and fearful of standing within [literally] five feet of me.” True story. Let’s not even BEGIN to discuss the hilarity of the other boys in the grade effectively prohibiting me from using the boy’s bathrooms for fear that I would rape them.

…since we have agreed to not discuss it, I suppose it would be most expedient to continue with this prologue and put an end to that overly long vignette (including vignettes in message board posts probably isn’t good netiquette anyway).

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Over the summer, despite not having seen him for weeks, I made random connections to him several times per day. I could not get over my anger; no one can hold grudges like I can. I have still hated him all this school year and am tired of wasting emotions on someone that really is not important to my future. I’m worried, if I don’t get over this soon, I just waste my whole life carrying this grudge with me from phase to phase of life.

So, I’m hoping that by doing one really mean thing, I can be over it forever. However, even if he does not get this job, he will probably just get another one shortly, which I can see frustrating me to the point of doing something even more malicious. So, I thought of something better before, but discarded it as a possible course of action on the basis that it was too cruel; I am now reconsidering it. I am thinking of contacting some of the colleges that I know he wants to go to and inform them of his behavior and personality (perhaps with other’s testimonials included), which will elate me every time I hear him talk about how hard he studied, how late he stayed up, how stressed he is, knowing that all of his work is for naught.

Deliciously evil, I know.

I think that if I do that, I will be quite content because even if he does not get into a college on an academic (and more probable) basis, I can placate by myself by thinking I caused him to not be admitted.

Thoughts?

Just to note, I am fully aware that any college I contact will basically consider me a quack, but it will make me feel better to have contacted them.

 

[niuniu]

Background:

Two years ago, I found myself romantically attracted to this boy, presumably under the influence of some narcotic now forgotten. I--with the MOST endearing naivety--divulged this to a friend, thinking that she wouldn’t tell anyone. Friends don’t hurt friends, after all. Reasonable, right?

Wrong.

Not only did she tell “someone,” she told him directly (with the obligatory embellishments of any good schoolyard rumor).

He then proceeded to harass me for the rest of the year, every day—in the hallways, in the classroom, on field trips, etc. Let me tell you, its lots of fun to walk down the hallway, only to hear someone scream “stalker!” while everyone else in the hallways backs away from you in fear. Honestly, it really turns me on. Just the other day, I was asked by a friend as to whether I have any weird fetishes. I replied, “You know what, nothing gets me hard like having everyone in the grade think I’m a stalker and fearful of standing within [literally] five feet of me.” True story. Let’s not even BEGIN to discuss the hilarity of the other boys in the grade effectively prohibiting me from using the boy’s bathrooms for fear that I would rape them.

…since we have agreed to not discuss it, I suppose it would be most expedient to continue with this prologue and put an end to that overly long vignette (including vignettes in message board posts probably isn’t good netiquette anyway).

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Over the summer, despite not having seen him for weeks, I made random connections to him several times per day. I could not get over my anger; no one can hold grudges like I can. I have still hated him all this school year and am tired of wasting emotions on someone that really is not important to my future. I’m worried, if I don’t get over this soon, I just waste my whole life carrying this grudge with me from phase to phase of life.

So, I’m hoping that by doing one really mean thing, I can be over it forever. However, even if he does not get this job, he will probably just get another one shortly, which I can see frustrating me to the point of doing something even more malicious. So, I thought of something better before, but discarded it as a possible course of action on the basis that it was too cruel; I am now reconsidering it. I am thinking of contacting some of the colleges that I know he wants to go to and inform them of his behavior and personality (perhaps with other’s testimonials included), which will elate me every time I hear him talk about how hard he studied, how late he stayed up, how stressed he is, knowing that all of his work is for naught.

Deliciously evil, I know.

I think that if I do that, I will be quite content because even if he does not get into a college on an academic (and more probable) basis, I can placate by myself by thinking I caused him to not be admitted.

Thoughts?

Just to note, I am fully aware that any college I contact will basically consider me a quack, but it will make me feel better to have contacted them.

Ah, so you're a high school kid, or college kid who's friend told some boy there that you were gay and liked him.

You're in school, how else would you expect other hetero kids to act? They love to bully and taunt. I'd be more annoyed at your female friend that started this whole thing.

Drop it and get back to studying.

 

[Sdashiki]

Ah, so you're a high school kid, or college kid who's friend told some boy there that you were gay and liked him.

You're in school, how else would you expect other hetero kids to act? They love to bully and taunt. I'd be more annoyed at your female friend that started this whole thing.

Drop it and get back to studying.

yea. it would have saved alot of time and effort if you had originally stated this was a High School Drama.

Nothing to see here, moving on.

 

[maflynn]

I could not get over my anger; no one can hold grudges like I can. I have still hated him all this school year and am tired of wasting emotions on someone that really is not important to my future. I’m worried, if I don’t get over this soon, I just waste my whole life carrying this grudge with me from phase to phase of life.
...
So, I’m hoping that by doing one really mean thing, I can be over it forever.
...
Deliciously evil, I know.
...
Thoughts?

Personally, you need to let it go. Your lasted post is showing quite a lot of anger and while you painted the other individual as evil, clearly you are the one showing evil tendancies. I'm not excusing this other person's behavior but to wrongs don't make a right and trying to hurt him is not going to remove your hate within you, quite the opposite, it will feed and enflame it more

So you're friend outed you and made this other boy very uncomfortable, to which he reacted in a way that impacted you negatively. Why did you continue to connect with him several time a day "randomly" Avoid him and let this be a life lesson not something that will just take over your life

 

[IntelliUser]

This is one of the most stupid threads I've read in a while.

 

[iOrlando]

although in this situation...with hs kids and the job is for a mcdonalds...who cares..


but in real life..

i still stand by my statement that she should get involved. Understand though I am looking at it from the employer's standpoint and not this individuals standpoint. If you a small business owner, you probably dont have the means to do background checks and if someone mailed me undercover photos and stuff on this prospective hire and I get the full story as to why this person sent them to me, I would consider moving on after talking with the suspect.

Of course, dont stretch my words into stuff i am not saying (which happens alot in here).

I am talking about major bad stuff. (like as an example..my ex-husband did rob a bank..heres the newspaper article)..etc.

not...like "my husband doesnt clean the dishes...he so doesnt follow directions..dont hire him. "

 

[GoCubsGo]

if you felt the need, I would say sure why not.

i wouldnt call though. Maybe send a letter in the mail. If you have any proof of some sort of issue he has, that would hold more weight.

trust me, the employer would appreciate your help, as long as its just not you saying he sucks. If he previously got arrested for something, etc.

I would think they do a background check, but maybe this job isnt that big and those checks arent performed.

Don't take this advice. You omit the slander and go right to libel. Not a good idea.

eMac4ever first I apologize for saying "woman scorned" as I did assume when you said boy. With no implications I simply assumed something and I was wrong so for that I apologize. Gender is difficult to assertion online often. If I am still off base then I am just old and confused.

Background:

Two years ago, I found myself romantically attracted to this boy, presumably under the influence of some narcotic now forgotten. I--with the MOST endearing naivety--divulged this to a friend, thinking that she wouldn’t tell anyone. Friends don’t hurt friends, after all. Reasonable, right?

This is where you need to stop because it tells me that you're likely easily influenced and that you're willing to blame something on being under the influence tells me that you need to grow up and move on.

Wrong.

Not only did she tell “someone,” she told him directly (with the obligatory embellishments of any good schoolyard rumor).

He then proceeded to harass me for the rest of the year, every day—in the hallways, in the classroom, on field trips, etc. Let me tell you, its lots of fun to walk down the hallway, only to hear someone scream “stalker!” while everyone else in the hallways backs away from you in fear. Honestly, it really turns me on. Just the other day, I was asked by a friend as to whether I have any weird fetishes. I replied, “You know what, nothing gets me hard like having everyone in the grade think I’m a stalker and fearful of standing within [literally] five feet of me.” True story. Let’s not even BEGIN to discuss the hilarity of the other boys in the grade effectively prohibiting me from using the boy’s bathrooms for fear that I would rape them.

…since we have agreed to not discuss it, I suppose it would be most expedient to continue with this prologue and put an end to that overly long vignette (including vignettes in message board posts probably isn’t good netiquette anyway).

It sounds as though you have left something out. Going from "I like this boy" to "stalker" doesn't jive, not even with school children. Kids are terrible by nature, they hurt with and without intent but in my experience they do not often go from "I like a boy" to "stalker" without some fuel added to their fire.

Over the summer, despite not having seen him for weeks, I made random connections to him several times per day. I could not get over my anger; no one can hold grudges like I can. I have still hated him all this school year and am tired of wasting emotions on someone that really is not important to my future. I’m worried, if I don’t get over this soon, I just waste my whole life carrying this grudge with me from phase to phase of life.

If you are tired of wasting emotions on someone who is not important to you then I have to ask why the hell you're here today?
If you are worried that you will not get over this soon then you seriously need to consider getting professional help. Anger like this and the fact that you foresee the worst is scary and should not be discussed openly on a message board that mimics high school life much of the time.

So, I’m hoping that by doing one really mean thing, I can be over it forever.

It will never be enough for you. That's my opinion.

However, even if he does not get this job, he will probably just get another one shortly, which I can see frustrating me to the point of doing something even more malicious. So, I thought of something better before, but discarded it as a possible course of action on the basis that it was too cruel; I am now reconsidering it. I am thinking of contacting some of the colleges that I know he wants to go to and inform them of his behavior and personality (perhaps with other’s testimonials included), which will elate me every time I hear him talk about how hard he studied, how late he stayed up, how stressed he is, knowing that all of his work is for naught.

Deliciously evil, I know.

There is nothing delicious about it. This is sick. You want to ruin his chances at some retail job; likely that he's a teenager and the job is of little importance, and move onto his college career? That's FUBAR, really. It is disgusting that someone would tease you, have the influenace over the entire school to cause you some emotional distress, yes. But it is just as disgusting if not more to want to ruin his life over something that happened in high school.

Two things come to mind ... He's just not that into you and an old program called Jenny Jones, a daytime talk show host that focused on bringing back people who were ridiculed in high school. They wound up being skinny if they were fat, beautiful if they were not, etc etc. Mostly women confronting these men who likely forgot about them and what they did to the ladies in school. The ladies held this grudge that likely drove them to dark places and when they came to this show they felt vindicated. Fact is, some felt bad because they realize the grudge was a one way street, they weren't important to these guys after high school and that was that. In other words, move on and don't let this consume you any longer. It is probably a good idea to speak to your parents and let them help you get help.

I think that if I do that, I will be quite content because even if he does not get into a college on an academic (and more probable) basis, I can placate by myself by thinking I caused him to not be admitted.

You will never be content. This will never be enough. You will start with some minimum wage job and then move onto college, then it will be his career choice, then his family. You will likely find yourself in a great deal of pain, you will affect people who matter most to you, him, and others. Your actions will ultimately ruin other people's lives including your own. If you value your life and yourself stop now.

Thoughts?

Just to note, I am fully aware that any college I contact will basically consider me a quack, but it will make me feel better to have contacted them.

Why not focus your energy on your college career? Even quacks should go to college and if any college even entertains your call or letter then it is not a college I'd want to go to.

Side note: I kind of feel this thread is a dangerous path to go down to.

 

[rdowns]

After reading the OPs background post, I still say, Mind your own business.

 

[MacDawg]

Note to self... never take iOrlando's advice about anything
Note to self 2... call iOrlando's employer and warn them

 

[kellen]

Sounds like you need to learn how to ignore the stupid people in life and drop grudges.

There is a life after high school, don't pass it up because of someone.

 

[iOrlando]

Note to self... never take iOrlando's advice about anything
Note to self 2... call iOrlando's employer and warn them

People dont like to go against the grain until the grain gets made into bread. think about it.



you really think I have an "employer" in Miami Beach? ha. funny. Why do you think I am discussing this thread from the perspective of "employer" and not "employee"?


oh..and this type of situation..where employer learns something about a potential employee and ends up not hiring him or her because of that happens all the time.

 

[Sdashiki]

This is one of the most stupid threads I've read in a while.

+1 (maybe we should change the MR age requirement from 13 to "under 18 and not into high school drama")

 

[lionheartednyhc]

Believe it or not, evil people need jobs too. Lest they turn into even worse people. Unless he's a pedophile and applying to work at a daycare, its not your business.

 

[snberk103]

Two Thoughts.

1) "Revenge is dish best served cold." Be patient, take your time.... it might take years, but an opportunity will present itself that will allow you to have your revenge. In the mean time, get on with your life. Excel at whatever field you are in. In time, you may decide out-earning and out-performing him professionally is all you needed to do.

2) Keep in mind that anyone you call or write letters to about him may just turn around and tell him. Imagine the consequences, both socially and legally.

 

[ucfgrad93]

As an employer, if I got a call like that I'd would feel certain that it was "just some disgruntled girlfriend trying to exact revenge on a previous lover" and assume the guy was smart in ditching someone who would do such a whacko thing.

Grow up. Drop it. Move on.

I would think the exact same thing.

It's not criminal illegal but you could possibly be sued for defamation of character if he found himself unemployable and could prove that it was because of the things you said.

I would move on. If he's rotten, it will be discovered soon enough.

In this day and age, I think it would be likely that she would be sued for libel, slander, etc. I agree with you on your last point. If this guy is that bad, the employer will find out quickly.

 

[heehee]

However, even if he does not get this job, he will probably just get another one shortly, which I can see frustrating me to the point of doing something even more malicious.

This, you need to get over it or it's never going to stop. Learn to ignore stupid people, you will see alot of them throughout your life.

 

[MattSepeta]

#@%@#t`

So. you tell a friend that you are homosexually attracted to a straight guy.

Friend tells straight guy. Straight guy responds EXACTLY how most straight high school guys would.

You get mad and decide it is straight guys fault and ask an online message board if it is wrong to sabotage this poor guy.


Sorry to bust your bubble of self-importance, but it sounds like you and your friend are the "bad guys" here.

And I have a feeling that if you went into most business and "explained" yourself and why you feel straight guy should not be hired, you would be laughed out of the office.

Its called hearsay. Move on.

 

[Gelfin]

OP, you really need to face up to how much of this is about your embarrassment over your crush going off the rails.

You developed the crush. You told Miss Blabbermouth (and may or may not have had any way to predict that). And it just happened to be the case that the guy you had a crush on is one of those guys who feels like he's got to overcompensate and go on the offensive to prove to the whole school he isn't gay. Given this is high school, the odds were very much not in your favor on that last point anyway.

I have no doubt he's done some hurtful things to you. Going to high school is like being a bunny rabbit trying to disguise himself in a pack of wolves in the best of circumstances, but it's probably not that this one guy is especially more evil than most others. He just feels like he's got to be that way in this set of circumstances. In his own way, he feels just as cornered as you do. It isn't even close to right, but it won't be the last time you encounter that attitude, I promise you. The only thing for it is to grow a thicker skin and learn to walk away with your head held high, or at least your dignity intact.

Doing something hateful to the source of your embarrassment will not end your embarrassment. Only you can end your embarrassment by rising above it. Don't worry if you don't know how. Nobody in high school ever does. Figure it out and leave the guy alone.

I can tell you that at least a significant number of your classmates will grow up and come to regret how they're treating you right now. If you go to your ten year reunion, you might even get a few apologies. For now, focus on getting out of high school and try to avoid giving your classmates too much ammunition. Life is seriously all uphill from where you are now.

 

[0098386]

However, even if he does not get this job, he will probably just get another one shortly, which I can see frustrating me to the point of doing something even more malicious.

What you're suggesting is insane. Control those emotions, damn!

 

[bmacir]

Thoughts?

As most in this thread have stated, you should mind you own business. I think that, given the background, you should not unnecessarily attempt to ruin his life. At least not in the way you are trying to.

The best way to get back at him is to tell all his friends that he kissed you, so that is the reason you had a crush with him in the first place and that's why he is acting like this now, he is simply scared. Trust me, he will be pissed.

 

[Hmac]

I didn't realize this was an unrequited homosexual attraction.

 

[macswitcha2]

why would anyone interfere with a person's lively hood???? That's sick!

 

[mac-matt]

People dont like to go against the grain until the grain gets made into bread. think about it.



you really think I have an "employer" in Miami Beach? ha. funny. Why do you think I am discussing this thread from the perspective of "employer" and not "employee"?


oh..and this type of situation..where employer learns something about a potential employee and ends up not hiring him or her because of that happens all the time.

your talking about 2 completely different types of grain, therefore thats a terrible analogy. secondly, if i gave advice from the perspective of jesus do you actually think ppl would believe me. no. because you say your someone or something doesnt mean you are. and if you really are an employer giving the advice to "believe what some random person says about a possible employee" then you must not be a very good one. no offense.
sincerely
Jesus Christ himself

send this to the wasteland please