I'm going to hang out at the movies with my friend Alley in a little while. My Dad doesn't know her. He's demanding that I get where she goes to church, how often she goes to church, and her parents' names and phone numbers. She understands completely, and her Dad wanted the same information, but it got me wondering. Is this normal behavior for a Dad? Me and her aren't even going on a date.
Seems kind of odd to me ... sounds like something my father would have done, and he's 82. I don't know how I will act when my girls are at the dating age, but this seems overly paranoid, unless church is such a big deal in your family? I guess it would be in my family too, if only so I could warn my kids to keep away from devout Christians.
Well thats just how it is...got to be careful these days beacause anything can happen. How old are you 13-17? it's normal(to worry) although I'm not a father but i dont know about the church thing. Bless
I'm 15. I understand that he's just trying to protect me. This isn't a complaint. It's simply wondering. Had to make that clear.
None of his business what church YOUR friend goes to, how often etc. I think he is just being a control freak. When I was sixteen (not that long ago) and wanted to go somewhere I left contact info and time I would be back by, that was enough.
everyone goes through an occasional paranoid phase. perhaps he saw some scary story on 20/20 or dateline and it has his undercrackers in a bunch. not to worry, i'm sure he's just looking out for you.
Is your family really religious? I don't think your dad should judge who you date on how much they go to church or what religion they are. When I was living at home my dad nor mom ever asked for the other parent phone number. What is your dad going to do with the number? Call them and ask if their daughter is sketch? Seems weird. But I did grow up in a family where I had the freedom to see who I wanted and my parents didn't care. As a parent you obviously should be able to trust your kid. My parents always knew where I was and I always told them the time I would be home (so they could start worrying if I was not home at that time). We all grow up in different families but I have seen the kids who are the most protected do the most ****ed up things. Being a kid, we want to rebel. I saw give kids the freedom and punish them if they mess up and hopefully they will learn their lesson.
From what? Atheists? Non-Christians? Catholics? My girlfriend's dad is a minister and even he doesn't care that I don't go to church.
So we're getting an even split between Europeans not understanding the church part, and USians saying, yeah whatever, makes sense.
Given your age, the parental info and contact numbers seems reasonable. On the religious front, maybe your dad needs to spend some Saturday afternoons with a priest to develop the interrogation technique you will likely see more of in the future.
see i just do what i feel like and call my dad if i'm going to be back the next day. i have the type of relationship with my dad where he'll pick me up from a girls house the next morning....
i don't understand church either, but i do understand an occasional paranoid streak because of television or something. i'd tell my kids to stay away from the bible thumpers personally but that is my own 'thing'.
Well, I wouldnt do that to my kid if he was going out with a girl. Kind of embaressing. I'd take his friends numbers though, just so I would know where he was when I couldnt get a hold of him.
i understand the church part since there are so many non-denominational churches out there with no general description and they could be cults, though most are not if i hear presbyterian, baptist, catholic, methodist, etc, then i know what i can expect but if it's uncle jim's church of the seventh key of heaven of st. louis, then how do i know it's not some criminal who invented a cult to make money off of naive people?...a generation ago here in northern california, the people's temple under jim jones made the headlines too many churches founded in the last 150 years have gone through growing pains that many early churches have gone through, like cultlike behavior and an addiction to making money from unsuspecting people...within his lifetime, martin luther saw his reform movement fall into the same sins as the church he broke from it's not unlike some of the democratic leaders in russia who are corrupt who were corrupt communist bosses before the changeover...ie) the same people running the same rackets so i totally understand the fear of some churches out there but churches aside, there is a lot more any parent of a teen has to worry about
Not really. I mean, wanting to know who you're going to be with and a little bit about that person is normal, and responsible, but inquiring about CHURCH habits? I'm sorry.
my long time employee and friend now says i am not his friend anymore because his church forbids it since i am not a member...it also says his particular sect/corner/territory of christianity, though only a couple of centuries old, is the only true version of the religion...nobody, but 144,000 of its exclusive, high standing members, will go to heaven and he has given tremendous amounts of his paycheck to that church who is known to be more of a business than a real religion i would rather have my teenage daughter spend money at macy's and video games than to a fake religion
What a bunch of wierdos! Actually I dunno. We aren't religious soo.... yea. I've never heard of anythin like that though.