Meeting an online friend in real life after 3 and a bit years of talking...

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  1. joelovesapple macrumors 6502a

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    Hey everybody,

    On Tuesday the 10th Feb I spoke to one of my online friends (who I've 'known' for about 3 years from online), and we arranged to meet up in real life at their local train station in Derby UK and take a look round the place as I've not gone there before.

    I've seen tons of pictures, been on webcams with him (not giving name away for purposes of privacy) and heard him on microphone just once or twice. We started talking when he was almost 16 and I was 17 at the time, he is now nearly 19 in June and I'll be 21 this July.

    We have quite a lot in common and make each other laugh a lot, and I am looking forward to meeting him for the first time very much. I'll be meeting him on the 10th of March which ironically, is a Tuesday because of the leap year :cool:.

    I feel quite nervous too and excited at the same time, though I don't intend to get carried away as for all I know it could be disappointing; however hopefully it won't be.

    Just wondering if anyone has met up either thru here or msn, AIM etc? And what was it like? I've read numerous sites about it but I wanted to get a real perspective of it... I'd imagine that if you talk a hell of a lot it would be very surreal as you already feel like you've known them as they know a fair bit about you.

    Thanks for any responses I receive. :)
     
  2. MacDawg macrumors P6

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    There have actually been quite a few "love connections" made on MR over the years... some resulting in marriages. I won't share the names... I'll let them do that, but just know that it does happen, and for some, it ends happily.

    Be sure to let us know how it turns out... and good luck!

    Woof, Woof - Dawg [​IMG]
     
  3. joelovesapple thread starter macrumors 6502a

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    This won't be a romantic encounter :D. Just friends. :) But thanks anyway.
     
  4. blackfox macrumors 65816

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    I don't have much experience in this field, although I have gone on dates occasionally over the years via online personals.

    Generally, in real life things were better than I would've expected going in.

    I wouldn't worry. It will only be as awkward as you let it be, especially since you two have an established relationship (of sorts). Good Luck mate.

    Why is this in PRSI btw?
     
  5. .Andy macrumors 68030

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    I sometimes send myself suggestive PMs. Would never want to meet me though. It would ruin the mysticism.

    Good luck joelovesapple :)
     
  6. joelovesapple thread starter macrumors 6502a

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    Thanks for wishing me some luck. Oops I saw that the community discussion and social issues forums were separate after I posted this. :eek: Sorry everyone. :)
     
  7. leekohler macrumors G5

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    That's OK.

    I dated one of the members here for two years. It's not that weird to met somebody on line. If you've been in contact for that long, I'd say you'll most likely be OK.
     
  8. joelovesapple thread starter macrumors 6502a

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    Yeah, most likely. Thinking about it, I may even have been corresponding with him since late 2005 but I've forgotten, oh well! :)
     
  9. Iscariot macrumors 68030

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    I've met scores of people from various online locations.

    Only had to kill three of 'em.
     
  10. leekohler macrumors G5

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    And I'll be meeting you in another three days.
     
  11. TSE macrumors 68030

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    Meh, online dating is not my cup of tea, but good luck. :)
     
  12. joelovesapple thread starter macrumors 6502a

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  13. Prof. macrumors 601

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    I met a lot of cool ppl on Modlife.com over the past year and a half. Then in October of 2008, seven of us met up in Chicago, IL. Two of them flew from California, one came from North Carolina and the other three came from Chicago and Indiana. I've also hung out with numerous other ppl from the same website. As funny as it sounds, they're some of the best friends I've ever had. It's like we've known each other our entire lives. :)
     
  14. leekohler macrumors G5

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    Hey joe- ya never know. ;)
     
  15. drlunanerd macrumors 65816

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    If he's from Derby I'd be afraid, very afraid ;)
     
  16. EvanLugh macrumors 68000

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    Hey, don't be 'dissin' derby! If you want someone to look out for you, i would happily offer- i work just around the corner. You can never trust people these days. :)
     
  17. joelovesapple thread starter macrumors 6502a

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    Well thanks for the kind offer but seeing as I know you even less I shall decline. :p

    Leekohler - It's a same sex meeting...! Do you know something I don't, then? :confused:
     
  18. arkitect macrumors 601

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    *snort* Are you just playing the innocent?
    :D:D

    Trust me. As a veteran of many a "same-sex" meeting… lots can/do/might happen. Be prepared. Enjoy.
    ;)
     
  19. joelovesapple thread starter macrumors 6502a

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    No, not at all.:)

    Thanks for wishing me a good time.:cool:
     
  20. Applespider macrumors G4

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    If you've been chatting online for that long and still have stuff to say, then you should have a great time in real life. Just find a pub and chat for a bit.

    Might be a bit odd at times when you realise that you know lots of some things about each other and not much about others.

    I've met a variety of men/women that I originally met online over the last decade and while I'm not in touch with all of them, I don't think I can honestly say that I regret meeting them. The majority were very like their online selves and we had a lot of fun.
     
  21. joelovesapple thread starter macrumors 6502a

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    Hang about - do you lot think I'm a girl? I'm a man! :eek: Well, I was the last time I checked. :apple:
     
  22. joelovesapple thread starter macrumors 6502a

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    Thanks Applespider. I may do that actually, though I am going to be given a tour of the place once we've had a milkshake :p.

    I can't wait - I have 3 weeks to go yet but I'm sure it'll fly by. :)
     
  23. EvanLugh macrumors 68000

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    Hehe i didn't mean like that, I meant more of a if I see you wandering around lost or get put into a white van :) I can see the train station from my window but, the offer is there if you need it and I wouldn't risk kidnapping you and be banned from MR. :p
     
  24. zelmo macrumors 603

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    Easy, skippy.:) Sounds like you are completely hetero [or in full denial mode:p]
    Here's a question: Are you 100% clear on your friend's intentions?

    At any rate, hope you guys hit it off with no hiccups. It'll probably be weird for the first few minutes and then it'll settle in to the friendship you've maintained for the past several years. No worries.
     
  25. joelovesapple thread starter macrumors 6502a

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    EvanLugh - this world is smaller than I thought. Again, thanks for the kind offer but it makes me feel kinda uncomfortable coming from a complete stranger (though I am sure it wasn't intended as such).

    Zelmo, are you trying to put me under the 'Spotlight' (pardon the pun) here? :p
     

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