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Meeting an online friend in real life after 3 and a bit years of talking...

joelovesapple said:
EvanLugh - this world is smaller than I thought. Again, thanks for the kind offer but it makes me feel kinda uncomfortable coming from a complete stranger (though I am sure it wasn't intended as such).

Zelmo, are you trying to put me under the 'Spotlight' (pardon the pun) here? 😛
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no worries, i've just had bad experiences myself which made the trip suck.
 
I've offered my couch for the night for one guy I met online (but had never met in real life previously). It was just like meeting any of my other friends really. In the same weekend we had a get together with some other people from the same forum. It's a band forum, so we went to see the band together. Good times.

Have fun!
 
I've met quite a few people first online and later in person. So far I'm batting 100% in making friends with good people. In a way, you know somebody better if you've been talking to them online, because you may talk about varied and serious topics, compared to, say, chatting about the weather with somebody you keep seeing in the supermarket.

What usually surprises me is how short or tall they are. You don't get a good impression of that from conversation!
 
I am planning perhaps this summer to MAYBE go and visit a friend of mine who I have known online for about 4 years. So I think it is great that you actually got to meet your friend "in real life". I think the great thing about meeting someone online is you tend to really know a lot more about them than if you meet them in person because people will share more up front online than they do in person so you get the know the person way better than if you meet them in person first.
 
Thanks for the nice replies everyone. I really appreciate it, and it's given me some insight (which is what I wanted) as to what it's like to meet people you talk to online only.

Yeah Zelmo i am pretty clear that I know what his intentions are: to give me a tour of the city, take it all in whilst still being unable to realize we are talking like best friends who have never met before.

I'm so sad though: I keep imagining how it's going to be (in a good sense) and what it will be like once I get off the train; what the weather will be like and how busy it will be and what it will be like when we meet for the very first time.

Anyone know what I mean? Is this normal? 😱

I shall post back in 3 weeks tomorrow and let everyone know how it went, but feel free to contibute if you have something interesting/relevant to say.

🙂
 
joelovesapple said:
Thanks for the nice replies everyone. I really appreciate it, and it's given me some insight (which is what I wanted) as to what it's like to meet people you talk to online only.

Yeah Zelmo i am pretty clear that I know what his intentions are: to give me a tour of the city, take it all in whilst still being unable to realize we are talking like best friends who have never met before.

I'm so sad though: I keep imagining how it's going to be (in a good sense) and what it will be like once I get off the train; what the weather will be like and how busy it will be and what it will be like when we meet for the very first time.

Anyone know what I mean? Is this normal? 😱

I shall post back in 3 weeks tomorrow and let everyone know how it went, but feel free to contibute if you have something interesting/relevant to say.

🙂
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Are you sure your not homosexual? Sorry dude, but all of this is sounding very homosexual like. Most guys dont get so worked up about meeting another guy. Why would you "hook up" with another dude anyway. Im sorry but this sounds totally strange to me as a heterosexual male. If your homosexual then I completely understand but you keep saying your not...

What are you looking for out of this "meeting"?
 
PcBgone said:
Are you sure your not homosexual? Sorry dude, but all of this is sounding very homosexual like. Most guys dont get so worked up about meeting another guy. Why would you "hook up" with another dude anyway. Im sorry but this sounds totally strange to me as a heterosexual male. If your homosexual then I completely understand but you keep saying your not...

What are you looking for out of this "meeting"?
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Let me point out where you are right and where you are wrong, Pcbegone.

For starters, it was *not* me who said 'hook-up', it was just an ordinary meeting up with someone who I've spoken to for 3 years or so. Double check my posts if you wish but I did NOT mention hook-up myself, the other contributors did.

As it's the first time I have done all of this, I was naturally nervous and curious about it so I posted on here and thought I'd make a thread that people might be able to add to, like they do with others.

That is where you are wrong with your details.

This is where you are not mistaken:

Yes, if you must really know the 'truth', both the person and myself are actually 'homosexual', as you put it but there is absolutely *nothing* between us we are just friends and I am 110% sure about it.

I did not wish to bring my sexuality onto this forum as I felt it unnecessary, primarily because it's a tech forum and although I read these boards from time to time, I barely know any of you on here; but then when I posted this thread people kept trying to squeeze the truth out of me so now I have given in. I'm not mad at you, its just maybe I misread what you wrote but it didn't sound that nice (to me anyway).

Cheers for listening.
 
joelovesapple said:
Let me point out where you are right and where you are wrong, Pcbegone.

For starters, it was *not* me who said 'hook-up', it was just an ordinary meeting up with someone who I've spoken to for 3 years or so. Double check my posts if you wish but I did NOT mention hook-up myself, the other contributors did.

As it's the first time I have done all of this, I was naturally nervous and curious about it so I posted on here and thought I'd make a thread that people might be able to add to, like they do with others.

That is where you are wrong with your details.

This is where you are not mistaken:

Yes, if you must really know the 'truth', both the person and myself are actually 'homosexual', as you put it but there is absolutely *nothing* between us we are just friends and I am 110% sure about it.

I did not wish to bring my sexuality onto this forum as I felt it unnecessary, primarily because it's a tech forum and although I read these boards from time to time, I barely know any of you on here; but then when I posted this thread people kept trying to squeeze the truth out of me so now I have given in. I'm not mad at you, its just maybe I misread what you wrote but it didn't sound that nice (to me anyway).

Cheers for listening.
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Joe- it's OK, lots of us are out here. Don't worry about that. It's a pretty friendly, safe place.
 
I never thought I would be "one of those" but I've met loads of people (including my husband) from the big bad internet and macrumors and I don't regret any of it one bit. The majority have been really great people. I think you can usually get a decent idea about what sort of person they are and what you have in common over the course of 3 years. I imagine once you get past the brief moment of surreality over finally meeting, you may have a really good time. If not, at least you went and found out.

And don't be put off by that other post. Plus some of the finest homosexuals EVER exist in this forum. 😀 It's a pretty open place here. 🙂
 
Thanks for the support you two. Probably best I draw this thread to a close now as it's getting off topic a bit. :apple:
 
joelovesapple said:
Thanks for the support you two. Probably best I draw this thread to a close now as it's getting off topic a bit. :apple:
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It's not off-topic at all. Meeting people in real life after knowing them on line can be a little scary. We were just letting you know that it's usually OK. iBlue met her husband here! That speaks well for this site, IMO.
 
leekohler said:
Joe- it's OK, lots of us are out here. Don't worry about that. It's a pretty friendly, safe place.
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What he said, You'll find there are a bunch of us here (it is an Apple forum after all🙂)

As for "PcBgone" I don't think his post was meant to be mean, he was just genuinely curious. I mean after I read your first post in the thread, and saw your username, I kinda assumed you were.

And don't assume that just because you've talked online for 3 years, that there might not be something there when you meet in person. You never know what might happen.

Good luck!
 
todd2000 said:
What he said, You'll find there are a bunch of us here (it is an Apple forum after all🙂)

As for "PcBgone" I don't think his post was meant to be mean, he was just genuinely curious. I mean after I read your first post in the thread, and saw your username, I kinda assumed you were.

And don't assume that just because you've talked online for 3 years, that there might not be something there when you meet in person. You never know what might happen.

Good luck!
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Thanks Todd,

Just curious though, how did you guess by looking at my name? It's fairly generic I would have thought, for an Apple fan. (Well I was big time in the days I was getting my first Mac, hence that name I used to sign up) and that was before I really told anyone...

Does that make any sense? 😱 And nope, I won't assume anything otherwise I'd be making an ASS out of UME 😛 (yoo emm eee)
 
drlunanerd said:
Yeah come on Todd, what is this euphemism you're alluding to? 😉
in all honesty I have no idea
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Somebody please explain what's going on in everyones heads with regard to this thread - I make a normal enough (or attempt to) thread with a decent question and then several posts down people are thinking (and right) that i'm gay... I can't see it or maybe I'm just blind.


😕
 
joelovesapple said:
Somebody please explain what's going on in everyones heads with regard to this thread - I make a normal enough (or attempt to) thread with a decent question and then several posts down people are thinking (and right) that i'm gay... I can't see it or maybe I'm just blind.


😕
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I knew it in your first post joe, I was just waiting for you to say it. Straight guys don't talk about other guys like you talked about your friend. Straight guys don't talk to other guys on line for three years and then say they're "excited" or "nervous" about meeting them in the way that you did. You sounded like you were gushing over the guy.

We all picked up on it right away, hence why everyone thought it was a date. You left clues all over the place. 🙂 It's no big deal.
 
joelovesapple said:
Somebody please explain what's going on in everyones heads with regard to this thread - I make a normal enough (or attempt to) thread with a decent question and then several posts down people are thinking (and right) that i'm gay... I can't see it or maybe I'm just blind.

😕
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I honestly didn't think you were gay (at first); I think it just came across as being quite a sweet thread and when peeps knew you were a guy meeting another guy they made an assumption. You could just as easily have been a young straight kid or otherwise someone who hasn't experienced meeting up with an online buddy.
I am in a silly mood today though so please don't take anything I might post as vaguely serious 🙂
 
joelovesapple said:
Thanks Todd,

Just curious though, how did you guess by looking at my name? It's fairly generic I would have thought, for an Apple fan. (Well I was big time in the days I was getting my first Mac, hence that name I used to sign up) and that was before I really told anyone...

Does that make any sense? 😱 And nope, I won't assume anything otherwise I'd be making an ASS out of UME 😛 (yoo emm eee)
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drlunanerd said:
Yeah come on Todd, what is this euphemism you're alluding to? 😉
in all honesty I have no idea
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What I meant was, looking at your first post it was obvious as Lee said that you were gushing over this guy. At first I figured maybe you were a female, but your username "joelovesapple" implied that you were a guy. So you put two and two together and you get "gay" as the case may be. 🙂
 
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