Or Rock City in Nottingham!
I'd say thats a bit different from the brunswick, which is a massively "real" pub
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I'd say thats a bit different from the brunswick, which is a massively "real" pub
I knew it in your first post joe, I was just waiting for you to say it. Straight guys don't talk about other guys like you talked about your friend. Straight guys don't talk to other guys on line for three years and then say they're "excited" or "nervous" about meeting them in the way that you did. You sounded like you were gushing over the guy.
We all picked up on it right away, hence why everyone thought it was a date. You left clues all over the place.
No offense was intended by my post. I simply said what I did to get you to step up and admit it. I personally dont agree with that lifestyle. Its my beliefs. I dont condone nor condemn you. You are who you are. I hate when people tippy toe around to be Politically Correct. Dont worry what other people think of you. Just be you.
With that said, what Leekohler says above is exactly how I picked up on it. No straight guy talks about getting nervous about meeting a "friend". Hes just another guy to have a beer with, nothing nervous about it. Unless you have other intentions.
Some call me a religious nut, that Im ignorant. But I can read between the lines and put 2 and 2 together.
All in all relax, know who you are, and enjoy yourself.
Classic!
Ahh, the smoking gun.
Good luck and have fun!
You sir are that rare animal: Straight with Gaydar…
I knew it in your first post joe, I was just waiting for you to say it. Straight guys don't talk about other guys like you talked about your friend. Straight guys don't talk to other guys on line for three years and then say they're "excited" or "nervous" about meeting them in the way that you did. You sounded like you were gushing over the guy.
We all picked up on it right away, hence why everyone thought it was a date. You left clues all over the place.
Ok I see your points now (how on earth do I quote multiple people though?
). I don't know how to explain it, maybe I am gushing over him I do not know but we just get on so brilliantly together online. I know though that there is definitely nothing between us two - I'm not 'super fit' or anything and I think he goes for the 'cute' look.
Argh! Can't put what I want to say into words. I apologise if I went a little bit OTT with this whole thing, I honestly had no idea it'd be a 3-pager.
Pcbgone, that's fair enough what you said and I appreciate it. I apologise for misreading what you said before. I also like that you're honest but not everybody accepts gay people which is fair enough - just as long as we can all get on together here.
Also thanks for the pub suggestions, what is the pub from around the corner of the station called?
Another reason I was quite wordy is because as I may've said already, it is a new experience to me and in all honesty, I don't tend to travel very far at all so I would be nervous about it. (to me 2 hours on a train is quite far).
This is turning out a bit... differently to how I'd imagined... I think all that has needed to be said has been said. I'm sure in a few months you'll have all forgotten about this anyways.
It's been good to see some really decent people on these boards, I'll give you that.
Ok I see your points now (how on earth do I quote multiple people though?
Like this:
Just click on the multi quote button next to each post you want to quote… then on the final one you hit the main quote button.
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Just wanted to wade in on the third page(!) and wish you all the very best for your meeting!
I've made a few really good friends online and I met my husband on a classic horror movie forum so whether it be friend or romance, don't worry too much in advance, just enjoy yourself on the day.
I've made a few really good friends online and I met my husband on a classic horror movie forum so whether it be friend or romance, don't worry too much in advance, just enjoy yourself on the day.
Go into town for a drink, Slug & Lettuce, vines and vaults would be a great spot to chat and even grab some nice food.
Weather will be rubbish, no change there..
Weather will be rubbish, no change there..
Hey Joe,
I know it's a bit late into the conversation, but just wanted to give my input:
Back in 6th grade I somehow randomly received a chat from a girl over AIM. After speaking to her for a bit, we continuously spoke every day, just about stupid things, here and there. A couple of years later we actually for the first time called each other over the phone, and at first it was just slightly awkward, but we laughed it off, and still chatted over AIM. Years later, we started speaking every other day on the phone, and then every day.
When she came out to California to visit her family, I took a train up to visit her (I was 16 then). We met in person for the first time, and actually had an amazing time hanging out in Santa Barbara. There was absolutely no love interest or anything, just a bizare mutual friendship. Now I'm 24 (she's 23). She's my best friend in the entire world, and it's very strange that I would have never thought something like this could happen. Even though we grew up on opposite sides of the country, we've spoken to each other almost every day. When we both get busy, weeks go by, and then we catch up from one of us randomly calling the other, and when we speak it's as though we never missed a day of chatting.
We never use AIM anymore, but we always call each other. We've met up several times in person by this point, I have a girlfriend I've been with for 5 years now, but my mine and my friend's relationship has never gotten in the way, as it's strictly a platonic relationship, and it always has been.
I know these things sometimes seem strange, especially to people that have never had this situation, but you never know, sometimes it could just be your best friend waiting. By the way, she's the only person I ever really spoke to on AIM. I know my situation is unique, but I just wanted to share my story, I hope yours works out just as great.
I know it's a bit late into the conversation, but just wanted to give my input:
Back in 6th grade I somehow randomly received a chat from a girl over AIM. After speaking to her for a bit, we continuously spoke every day, just about stupid things, here and there. A couple of years later we actually for the first time called each other over the phone, and at first it was just slightly awkward, but we laughed it off, and still chatted over AIM. Years later, we started speaking every other day on the phone, and then every day.
When she came out to California to visit her family, I took a train up to visit her (I was 16 then). We met in person for the first time, and actually had an amazing time hanging out in Santa Barbara. There was absolutely no love interest or anything, just a bizare mutual friendship. Now I'm 24 (she's 23). She's my best friend in the entire world, and it's very strange that I would have never thought something like this could happen. Even though we grew up on opposite sides of the country, we've spoken to each other almost every day. When we both get busy, weeks go by, and then we catch up from one of us randomly calling the other, and when we speak it's as though we never missed a day of chatting.
We never use AIM anymore, but we always call each other. We've met up several times in person by this point, I have a girlfriend I've been with for 5 years now, but my mine and my friend's relationship has never gotten in the way, as it's strictly a platonic relationship, and it always has been.
I know these things sometimes seem strange, especially to people that have never had this situation, but you never know, sometimes it could just be your best friend waiting. By the way, she's the only person I ever really spoke to on AIM. I know my situation is unique, but I just wanted to share my story, I hope yours works out just as great.
Thanks
Encouraging words there.Cheers Evan, much appreciated.
That is very encouraging stuff and quite sweet too. You're right, you never know. Sometimes I just cannot believe the power of the Internet - like your story and yesterday, though rather different, everybody grouping up to take down the bastard for abusing his cat. It goes a long way. I never once would've thought that an internet chat could lead to this. I was referred to my friend thru another I met on a Sims 2 forum when I was younger and into games.
Its funny how stuff transpires.General note:
I was also a bit nervy and excited because I don't have many friends in my area now - they all departed to go to Uni so I have just 2 people I am friendly with in real life, apart from when uni friends see me which is not often mostly because we do not have that much in common. Maybe I'm just a desperate loner who spends too much time on the computer.
Thanks again everyone, nice to hear your words of pisitivity.
No Worries, Standing Order (opposite Slug and lettuce, Vaults) is also an impressive bar - probably a must. Ask your friend, if he doesn't know it's near the Big Screen on Sadlergate.
Hm personally, Nandos & Pizza Express. But there are plenty of Fast food options like Burger King, KFC, Hey Potatoe and Hey Fish.
See here for westfield's website and restaurants.
Hey everyone,
Sorry to drag this post up from the dead but I'll be going to Derby tomorrow and may have some pics to put up, if I have the guts! I'll definitely let everyone know how it went if people would like that.
*is really quite looking forward to this now*
Sorry to drag this post up from the dead but I'll be going to Derby tomorrow and may have some pics to put up, if I have the guts! I'll definitely let everyone know how it went if people would like that.
*is really quite looking forward to this now*
Hey everyone,
Sorry to drag this post up from the dead but I'll be going to Derby tomorrow and may have some pics to put up, if I have the guts! I'll definitely let everyone know how it went if people would like that.
*is really quite looking forward to this now*
Please do, Joe. Can't wait to hear how it goes!
Facebook opened up a connection who owns a gallery. So they emailed me and we met sometime later and while the art didn't get into that gallery, I made a possible connection with another from an art dealer that happened to be there.
I think for self employed people who sell products, online connections are a must these days.
I think for self employed people who sell products, online connections are a must these days.
No problem, feel free! It is a public forum, after all
.And Lee, I shall indeed let you know how it goes.
I totally agree about the power of the internet and how it does the last sort of thing you'd expect.
Once I was new to the internet, and I can honestly say I never thought it would lead to this... ever.
No problem, feel free! It is a public forum, after all
And Lee, I shall indeed let you know how it goes.
I totally agree about the power of the internet and how it does the last sort of thing you'd expect.
Once I was new to the internet, and I can honestly say I never thought it would lead to this... ever.
I am going to stalk you.
haha just kidding, hope it goes well and we have non of this hail again
And I do hope you're joking.
Seriously.
You're creeping me out just a tad, and if I catch any stalkers or any suspicious people near me I swear to God I'll hurt them.
Ta.
Seriously.
You're creeping me out just a tad, and if I catch any stalkers or any suspicious people near me I swear to God I'll hurt them.
Ta.
Just barging in a bit, my apologies, but.. you may want to tell your online friend that you could possibly have a stalker on your hands and to help you watch out for a Mr. Evan. only kidding.
I've only met two people through online and it was to buy something so they weren't friends.
only kidding.I've only met two people through online and it was to buy something so they weren't friends.
And I do hope you're joking.
Seriously.
You're creeping me out just a tad, and if I catch any stalkers or any suspicious people near me I swear to God I'll hurt them.
Ta.
You'll hurt me? Haha! It's my job to look out for people
You might actually notice me now, hehe.