Become a MacRumors Supporter for $50/year with no ads, ability to filter front page stories, and private forums.
So what are you going to do if you have grandkids and your son/daughter feels the same way about surnames? That'll be a 4-word surname after 2 generations. :confused:

For one thing, it won't be up to me, it'll be up to them. It's their child not mine.

For another thing, double barrelled surnames have been around for a long time. People work out things. Surnames don't always follow logic :)

For a third thing, some cultures already have the custom of the child taking both parents' surnames. IIRC, in Argentina, it is standard for everyone to have two surnames, one from each parent. I think only the paternal surname is passed onto grandkids though. (i.e. the kid has forename, middle name, mothersfathersname, fathersfathersname). Someone correct me if I'm wrong.
 
I think it makes more sense to keep the maiden name, especially since, with the professionals I'm around, there are issues of being in databases for publications and so on, where it can be a detriment to be listed under multiple names that don't get cross-indexed (but really, Pubmed needs a way to identify variants of a person's name -- it doesn't even handle the situation where a person is variably listed with and without their middle initial well. It ought to have some kind of unique ID for each individual author and allow attributions to be tagged back to it) /rant

I'd support anything my future wife wanted to do with respect to her own name. I do rather.want a child, and want a child with my last name... I'm an only child, and it's the only chance my dad has. :eek:
 
I think the woman should feel free to choose, but I honestly would take away the guy's man card if he took her name. For some reason it just seems silly. That is simply my opinion of course.
 
I think the woman should feel free to choose, but I honestly would take away the guy's man card if he took her name. For some reason it just seems silly. That is simply my opinion of course.

Unless it's a super-awesome maiden name.
 
My wife took my name. It meant a lot to me. Now we're expecting our first child and she will also carry my name, until she finds a husband. We're one family with one name. It's worked well for us and it's worked great for billions of other people over hundreds of generations.

I can't imagine growing up and trying to figure out why Mommy and Daddy had different last names while they're still married, and why I got stuck with Mom or Dad's name and not vice versa.
 
I think the woman should feel free to choose, but I honestly would take away the guy's man card if he took her name. For some reason it just seems silly. That is simply my opinion of course.

i dont. i believe it is a part of our custom to have the wife take the husbands last name

no amount of talking will convince me otherwise
 
do rather.want a child, and want a child with my last name... I'm an only child, and it's the only chance my dad has. :eek:
This is in essence what it come down to. Some people want to continue their family name others (myself included) couldn't give two hoots :D. I'd be more than happy for my family name to die with me. I don't see it as important at all. As I said before it would be my preference for my kids to take my wife's name or a different surname altogether.
 
My wife took my name. It meant a lot to me. Now we're expecting our first child and she will also carry my name, until she finds a husband. We're one family with one name. It's worked well for us and it's worked great for billions of other people over hundreds of generations.

I can't imagine growing up and trying to figure out why Mommy and Daddy had different last names while they're still married, and why I got stuck with Mom or Dad's name and not vice versa.

I don't think children put too much thought into it. Usually the kid ends up with the Fathers last name even if the mother didn't take it on.. unless they are separated at time of birth.
 
I think it makes more sense to keep the maiden name, especially since, with the professionals I'm around, there are issues of being in databases for publications and so on, where it can be a detriment to be listed under multiple names that don't get cross-indexed (but really, Pubmed needs a way to identify variants of a person's name -- it doesn't even handle the situation where a person is variably listed with and without their middle initial well. It ought to have some kind of unique ID for each individual author and allow attributions to be tagged back to it) /rant

I'd support anything my future wife wanted to do with respect to her own name. I do rather.want a child, and want a child with my last name... I'm an only child, and it's the only chance my dad has. :eek:

Your entire post made sense, and yet you ended off with that? :confused:
 
My wife took my last name. I wouldn't have cared either way, but I must admit that it's cool that she did it. I really look up to her, so I see it as an honor - seriously.
 
My wife took my name. It meant a lot to me. Now we're expecting our first child and she will also carry my name, until she finds a husband. We're one family with one name. It's worked well for us and it's worked great for billions of other people over hundreds of generations.

I can't imagine growing up and trying to figure out why Mommy and Daddy had different last names while they're still married, and why I got stuck with Mom or Dad's name and not vice versa.

Speaking as someone who has had divorced parents, with everyone having different names, I 100% agree with you, and want that for my own family.
 
I wouldn't care at all. I would love her for who she is. If I let stupid things like if she takes my last name or not to get in the way, I wouldn't be a good husband or person.
 
I'm not here to convince you, nor do I think I'd even care to.
:cool:

likewise, just stated my opinion on the matter

to be honest, i think i would be somewhat insulted if she didnt take it. i cant name a single couple off the top of my head that i know personally who has not been conventional in this regard

with that said, i may be singing a different tune if my future wife does indeed not want to. hard to predict your behavior/thoughts/etc until you have to actually cross that bridge in a sense
 
I can't imagine growing up and trying to figure out why Mommy and Daddy had different last names while they're still married, and why I got stuck with Mom or Dad's name and not vice versa.

It really wasn't that strange at all. I have my dad's last name as my last name and my mom's last name as my middle name.
 
I was just at a wedding this weekend and both the bride and groom are changing their last names to " <her last name> - <his last name> "
 
Register on MacRumors! This sidebar will go away, and you'll see fewer ads.