Met this girl

[Ice-Cube]

I think it would be interesting if you continue to post updates of this dating process. Some of us might be able to help you along the way. Good luck!

 

[iBlue]

You're in. Don't play games. Go with the flow and avoid extremes. (such as TOO many texts or big delays for no reason)

I hope you said "goodnight and I'll give you a call" (in some form or another) and that you do call. Don't wait days, maybe sometime the next afternoon and plan a dinner or something out with her.

Don't stress it, enjoy!

 

[sushi]

i. cant. relax.

i. cant. sleep.

tomorrow is gonna suck trying to be awake and concentrate. i havent felt this way about a girl since sophmore year of college lol

Try relaxing.

Be yourself and go with the flow.

Most of all, don't over analyze things. You'll just confuse her, and then yourself.

Enjoy the journey.

 

[iSaint]

"[snip]... thanks for coming out."

she thinks you're gay.

just kidding!

Sounds like a great connection. She's a marine, let her pay, she's obviously a modern, independent woman. I'll stop at my comments there.

 

[pilotError]

Just don't piss her off. You know they teach them to shoot... Acurately

When you said he beeped twice, me in my sick mind was thinking that it could be a warning to run before she ran you over, but that's just me! LOL

Just kidding... Have fun with it!

 

[Unspoken Demise]

Good luck Duke. It seems like everything is set in motion. We can all tell you really like this girl. Take it slow and use your own "turnoffs" as perspective on how she might see things. If it would turn you off, dont do it to her.

 

[daneoni]

OP really needs to chill or he'll screw this up i'm afraid

She likes you...its up to you now to play your cards right and not screw things up

 

[Tomorrow]

Duke, I'm laughing out loud with joy at this thread. It's a great thing to see.

You might be thinking about it a little too hard and making yourself worry, or at least stressed out. Sounds to me like you're in and doing everything exactly right.

Good luck, and let us know how things turn out!

 

[Melrose]

Don't over-think. As you said before, the conversation just came easily. Take the next few steps the same way.

It is possible to over think these things. She's into you, you're into her. Get your nerves/doubt/obsessing out of your way and let it happen.

Congrats

 

[dukebound85]

Cool your heels a little and wait a day or two to call. You don't want to seem too eager or come on too strong.

yea, as much as i want to call/text her today, i probably wont lol

[Edit] sorry, i just read into her reply a bit more. she may not have actually been agreeing to going out with you, but just wanted to say something innocent without actually letting you down or giving you a thumbs up. not sure.

i soooo hope thats not the case

Textiquette...

But yeah, I agree about saying good night.

i did, last thing i texted last night was "Lol nice! Have a good night". She responded "You too"

Don't get mixed up with signals. Or dating and texting etiquette. I never really understood the whole, "Don't text back quickly or she'll think you're needy" rule, or other types of rules. They're just silly.

Don't text too often as though you were obsessed and have nothing else going on, but don't play it cool.



You're in. There's no denying it, and there's no need to worry.

yea i know though i dont know if i should try and get ahold of her today. might be way to soon right?

Hey duke..... it looks like you've found something to do in Upstate NY after all.

Hope it works out for you.

If you go out again......
Make sure you grab the cheque at dinner- don't let her pay on the second date. Seriously, grab it- don't even give her a chance of getting her hands on it.

And if you go to the Olive Garden: DON'T FILL UP ON BREAD!

NY is looking alot better as of late haha

yea, i will definitly pick up the tab for sure. i was uneasy with how it went down last night but im glad she took it nicely

I think it would be interesting if you continue to post updates of this dating process. Some of us might be able to help you along the way. Good luck!

will do

You're in. Don't play games. Go with the flow and avoid extremes. (such as TOO many texts or big delays for no reason)

I hope you said "goodnight and I'll give you a call" (in some form or another) and that you do call. Don't wait days, maybe sometime the next afternoon and plan a dinner or something out with her.

Don't stress it, enjoy!

so like call this afternoon maybe?

Just don't piss her off. You know they teach them to shoot... Acurately

When you said he beeped twice, me in my sick mind was thinking that it could be a warning to run before she ran you over, but that's just me! LOL

Just kidding... Have fun with it!

lol

Good luck Duke. It seems like everything is set in motion. We can all tell you really like this girl. Take it slow and use your own "turnoffs" as perspective on how she might see things. If it would turn you off, dont do it to her.

good advice thats very easy to disregard ill try and follow it

Duke, I'm laughing out loud with joy at this thread. It's a great thing to see.

You might be thinking about it a little too hard and making yourself worry, or at least stressed out. Sounds to me like you're in and doing everything exactly right.

Good luck, and let us know how things turn out!

i hope im not effing it up! thanks for the good wishes. i hope it turns out well





edit: how we met

i posted a thread here...........and took this advice just for the heck of it

I made my profile, forgot about it, and out of the blue she emails hoping to see me at one of the events as shes always on the younger side

and yea, went from there. totally unexpected in a good way

 

[leekohler]

Oh duke! I'm so glad for you! I hope this turns into something good for ya. Good luck!

 

[dukebound85]

Oh duke! I'm so glad for you! I hope this turns into something good for ya. Good luck!

hey thanks, i hope so too!

 

[Iscariot]

I never really understood the whole, "Don't text back quickly or she'll think you're needy" rule, or other types of rules. They're just silly.

I agree, to a point. I think the whole "be aloof" strategy that's been popularized by "pick up artists" is ridiculous, but I like to set the tone for the rest of the relationship early on. Establishing a healthy amount of distance and respect for personal barriers will help ensure both people are on the same page, and prevent any "you used to call more often" kinds of disappointments. I'm big on establishing respect, good habits and clear communication (no games) early on.

 

[dukebound85]

would it be a bad idea to call her tonight?

 

[DoFoT9]

would it be a bad idea to call her tonight?

definately do it!

 

[leekohler]

I'd give it another day, but do what you feel is right.

 

[rdowns]

I agree. No games. Call her.

 

[Surely]

I hate games. Should I call? Should I wait? How many days? Will I look desperate? When you think about it, it's all so stupid.

After the first date (on a Monday) with my future-wife, I called her the next day and made plans to go out with her again on Friday (we went to the Reservoir Lounge- a restaurant with live swing-jazz music). We spoke every day up until that date. During the Friday date, we made plans for the next day- we went ice-skating at Toronto City Hall, spent the rest of the afternoon together, and went out for dinner that night. We have been together ever since (five and a half years since then!).

BTW, I thought I'd mention that our first date was at a nice sushi restaurant- it was her idea to go there for dinner (I usually suggest drinks or coffee, just in case the date sucks). She offered and insisted on splitting the bill. So I said okay. I made sure to buy the hot chocolates after dinner at Starbucks and I made damn sure to pay for dinner on our second date. She told me that if I wouldn't have paid on that second date, there wouldn't have been a third date ..... good thing I paid!

I guess my point is that you just need to be yourself. If you want to call, then call. Calling her today is a reasonable thing to do after a good date. If she doesn't appreciate the attention, or gets turned off, then she's not the right girl for you. F the games.

 

[dukebound85]

well crap. I called her an hit her voicemail. Asked if she wanted to set aside a night this weekend to hang out.

Why do I feel she screened by call lol. Man I'm a pessimist

 

[r.j.s]

well crap. I called her an hit her voicemail. Asked if she wanted to set aside a night this weekend to hang out.

Why do I feel she screened by call lol. Man I'm a pessimist

Calm down, she was probably busy working on the paper or didn't hear the phone ring.

Be patient and wait for her to call you back.

 

[Chundles]

well crap. I called her an hit her voicemail. Asked if she wanted to set aside a night this weekend to hang out.

Why do I feel she screened by call lol. Man I'm a pessimist

Bloody hell man, RELAX.

You're going all nutzoid here at the moment, just go with the flow. Go out, do stuff you always do. Stop tying yourself up in knots over this - it's really unattractive...

Get outside and strut, like REEEAALLY strut.

 

[Gelfin]

and she is awesome. she is 22, im 24 and she is in the marines and very cute and easy to talk to

Just remember at all times that if you do even the slightest thing wrong, she can f***ing kill you.

But no pressure.

Seriously, this sounds really awesome. Like everybody else has said, try to relax (before your head pops) and have a good time. Good luck with it.

 

[sushi]

Just remember at all times that if you do even the slightest thing wrong, she can f***ing kill you.

That's the fun of inter-military dating.

Both of you know that you could easily kill each other, if needed.

 

[phas3]

and she is awesome. she is 22, im 24 and she is in the marines and very cute and easy to talk to

however i suck at this signals thing

we met for coffee at 830 and just got back home 3 hrs later. the convo was sooooo easy it wasnt funny. i have had some where it was like torture to talk

however, before we got talking, i said "dont worry i got it" and she said "thats alright". the cashier rang them as one and she payed......ugh so not cool but she didnt mind

anyways, the convo was great, talked about so many htings. we then walked around for like 2 hrs continuing to talk

at the end, we were just standing by our cars and she came in for a hug. not knowing what to do, (reminds me of that just friends movie) i just hug her back......however, i was pretty sure she wanted me to kiss her (she initiated the hug) so as we stop hugging, i do kiss her (usually i am such a coward with these things)

as i walk back to my car, she is driving off and gives me 2 beeps with her horn....that has to be a good sign right?

so anyways, once i get home, i text her "thanks for the coffee I would definitly like to see you again"

havent received a text back yet. was it too soon, did i blow my chance like i tend to do

what are your thoughts?

ugh this is so racking on my brain lol

a marine chick? nope dude stay away from it, coming from another marine dont even bother there's other fishes in the sea

 

[OutThere]

I've been chasing it in the capital district for 3 years so if you're looking for places to go out I can make some recommendations, let me know.

As far as restaurants go I highly recommend the Water's Edge Lighthouse in Scotia now that it's getting summery out. It's a little more upscale than Olive Garden and you can eat outside by the Mohawk. On a warm sunny evening it's really one of the best places in the area. There can be a wait so a reservation is a good call.