Thank you all!
I want to say a big thank you to all of you who have tried so hard to help me, and who have offered great advice. I is very much appreciated, and I've learned a lot!
I have returned the MAC. It wasn't working for my purposes. I think it is a great computer, what fails is that business isn't set to work on a MAC. I have spent the past weeks trying to making it work, and the only way things were 'functioning' was by making extra steps.
In the past 5 days I have spent, according to my online phone bill, 24hours 37minutes on the phone with the various software and apple support numbers, that is 5 hours a day on average. I kept on hearing 'you can't do that on a MAC', 'that is not supported on a MAC', I tried to look for alternatives but it just is limited.
The final deal breakers for me were the following;
Email; though absolutely a POP3/server issue and NOTHING to do with MAC. The email system does support Outlook, and emails would show up within minutes in Outlook, whereas to get it to work 'the same' on a MAC, it would have to go through gmail (which I've come to like!) and it would have a time delay. I would know the email got there as I would see it come in in Outlook, but it would take time for it to show up (though not as much as 2 hours anymore) on the MAC.
If there was ever a good reason to switch ecommerce sites, this would certainly be it, and I'm going to be working on that!
Adressbook; this was kind of disappointing. I tried several mass mail companies to see if any would work with Mac or even Entourage. Currently I'm set up with Constant Contacts, and they work with both Outlook and Quickbooks, for contact information. Otherwise it is 'enter manually' and that would just be too much work.
Edited to add; can you imagine adding 100 emails per week manually
Quicken I spent several days trying to make this work. Because Quicken has a great download your transactions from the financial institution. THis way, I know instantly when somebody has paid. Unfortunately, Q for MAC has a lot of issues, and 1 of them is downloading and especially reconciling statements. It turns things into an absolute mess. Getting my emails in triplicate is confusing, but having several financial transactions not match, that is a nightmare. This happened several days in a row, and when they said on the phone from tech support that that is 'normal', I just broke down.
Editted to add: normally you click download, and spent just a couple of minutes if that at accepting and making sure it is matching, the past days I would have to redo everything manually and it would take me up to an hour!
Quickbooks every 1st Wednesday I sent my file to my accountant to submit tax related issues etc. THis time around I found out that in QB for MAC you can not upload an accountants file. I need to FedEx a DVD WITH all my paper reconciliation reports (as that doesn't convert properly), then my accountant has to make a print out for all the things that need to be tweaked, which I then have to enter manually again.
External hard drives. I should have known, and dumb that I didn't think of that, but of course my EHDs are formatted for windows, so I can read the files, but I can't update my working files.
Instead of making my life more efficient, things have slowed down substantially. I have managed to get my orders out, but normally I update inventory, add stuff to the website, do SEO, work on promotions, facebook, twitter etc etc. I also haven't cooked or cleaned the house since I got the MAC. I have spent 10+ hours per day to make this work, whereas my normal work day only compasses of 6 hours, M-F. I'm ready for some freshly cooked veggies vs pizza, chinees, etc etc
I see many reasons why a MAC is a great computer, and I'm definitely going to recommend my mother-in-law to get one. I have enjoyed playing around on it, and it has some GREAT GREAT features. It is unfortunate that so little software is focused on MAC. It is also unfortunate that MAC doesn't have alternatives. It is too bad that there is so little integration

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I wish you all the best! I hope the future integrates the two OS better, as I would have loved to stay with the MAC for many reasons, but I have to pay the bills! Best to all!