This is true, but I see it as being different from parents telling the kids to decide, and then "giving them a few days to figure it out".
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This is true, but I see it as being different from parents telling the kids to decide, and then "giving them a few days to figure it out".
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OP-----I would call that crisis number I gave you before to see if you can get connected to whatever the local social services department is where you live. Out here they are called community services boards. They are centers that have psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, case managers, etc, and they would have some sort of case manager that could hopefully help your family out. Your parents have acted irresponsibly and should not have posed that question to you. They are supposed to be in charge, but it seems they have given up that responsibility which I imagine must be frightening for you.
Only you could judge this, but maybe it would be helpful to show your parents this thread. If they would respond hysterically, maybe it's best not to.
To your parents: you're probably mad that your kid made this, you may say he's exaggerating. Frankly, I don't care if he did. You drove him to this place to seek comfort, he's obviously upset, and you need to act for your kids and not yourselves right now. Get into couples counseling now, even if you are getting divorced. Get your whole family into family counseling now. You are creating negative imprints in your children by making bad choices as to how you deal with this divorce.
Only you could judge this, but maybe it would be helpful to show your parents this thread. If they would respond hysterically, maybe it's best not to.
To your parents: you're probably mad that your kid made this, you may say he's exaggerating. Frankly, I don't care if he did. You drove him to this place to seek comfort, he's obviously upset, and you need to act for your kids and not yourselves right now. Get into couples counseling now, even if you are getting divorced. Get your whole family into family counseling now. You are creating negative imprints in your children by making bad choices as to how you deal with this divorce.
Not when they're fighting in the house. It's entirely legal to call the police, and in fact recommended, during a domestic squabble like that too.Isn't calling a crisis number because the parents are divorcing a bit of an over-reaction?
Well, this is interesting.
They talked to me yesterday and told me and my brothers they decided that they still love each other and aren't getting a divorce. This basically happened out of nowhere...
They talked to me yesterday and told me and my brothers they decided that they still love each other and aren't getting a divorce. This basically happened out of nowhere...
Should I be worried that something like this is going to happen again or what???
I don't know what to think.
I don't know what to think.
I think you should consider having some long talks with your parents or just one of them if you're closer to one over the other. It's natural for you now to be put on a yo-yo string, wondering when/if they'll pull the rug out and head towards divorce again. As parents, they should know that you may be feeling this way and come to you with assurances.
That's a question you have every right to ask.
This is excellent advice, and might very well help you to answer the first question.
I'm glad to hear that it sounds like there's a chance things might calm down a bit. Hope this hasn't really messed up end-of-school year for you (exams and such). If it is, MAKE SURE to tell your guidance counselor, who can probably look into your getting a little more time for any exams you might have left.