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Please be quiet

iBlue said:
I'm not sure why all the backlash at the OP. Maybe there was a better way to say it but this is a concept surely everyone can relate to. People are LOUD and sometimes that's really annoying.

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Come on! I am a patient person. I live in a very busy urban area. I am content to hear a lot of noise but sometimes people are really goddman inconsiderate. If you're telling me you've never had a day of feeling irritated by people noise, you're either living in a desolate place or lying.
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You said it exactly as I feel it, every day on public transport. For some reason it's much worse in the afternoon, when people are going home for the day. I suppose they're too tired in the morning.

I don't mind discreet phone calls. We live in an age when people are expected to be available a lot of the time, and sometimes you really have to give or get a message. IMO it's possible to make or take a short call in a way that's respectful to the people right next to you.

What drives me crazy is when someone SHOUTS into the phone, and is clearly just chatting away because s/he's bored. It's really, really hard to tune out someone shouting their personal business 1 meter away from you. A few times I've gotten a serial-telephoner right next to me. It's always a female. These people spend the entire trip calling one person after another, just to chat, and they SHOUT into the phone.

If I were to ask these people to please keep it down, I would be doing it Every. Single. Trip. I'm not overly sensitive, I really think it's just the attitude here. Common courtesy is not something you see a lot in public. :(
 
One of the things Ford Prefect had always found hardest to understand about humans was their habit of continually stating and repeating the very very obvious, as in It's a nice day, or You're very tall, or Oh dear you seem to have fallen down a thirty-foot well, are you alright? At first Ford had formed a theory to account for this strange behaviour. If human beings don't keep exercising their lips, he thought, their mouths probably seize up. After a few months' consideration and observation he abandoned this theory in favour of a new one. If they don't keep on exercising their lips, he thought, their brains start working. After a while he abandoned this one as well as being obstructively cynical.​

Thank you DNA
 
notjustjay said:
"tough-talkers"

The key is to be polite and pleasant, but firm. (Too many people think these are mutually exclusive!) If you go in with guns blazing, of course they're going to fight back.

Also, if it's a situation like the OP is describing, you might be the only one with the courage to approach them, but you're probably speaking on behalf of the entire crowd.

And if they're rude or unpleasant even after you've asked politely, then you can either say "Hey, I tried" and live with it, or you could, if the situation warrants, escalate it (e.g. complain to theater management).
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The moment one person has the courage to speak up, the rest of the people will join in. And whoever the combative person might have been, they won't argue with 30+ irate commuters. :cool:

The train I catch in the afternoon has the annoying school girls, this same group that travel in the same carriage, the same train every afternoon. They are the motormouths from hell!

Usually, I'm too tired to be kept awake by them unless they are particularly loud. How the heck do they have so much energy at that time of the day?
 
Huntn said:
You are overreacting to the OP. Relax...
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The OP is over-reacting to what he see's as the 'hardships of life'

Its hardly like they're having to walk miles to get clean water, or facing displacement because of issues in their country is it?

:rolleyes:
 
Totally agree.

I'm getting quite annoyed by people talking on phones, playing music on their phones, playing games, having loud kids etc, on the quiet coach on a train. It's the quiet coach. There are signs telling passengers to be quiet. So on a fairly empty train don't sit in there and make a noise.

I never had a bad experience from people talking at the cinema either until Prometheus. Some middle-aged people sat with an empty seat between themselves and talked through the start of the film. I told them to be quiet and they left (I suspect they were a bit insane). Then the young couple next to us (who took our booked seats too) talked through all the quiet parts of the film. Had to tell them to **** too (but politely, even though I shouldn't have to ask).

There's a lot to be said for having a quiet, peaceful life. Especially when work+everything else is so massively hectic.
 
Dagless said:
...Had to tell them to **** too (but politely, even though I shouldn't have to ask).
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That sum up exactly how I feel about having to ask other people to keep it down (and the reason I almost never, ever do it). It feels so unfair to be put in that position, having to be what others might see as a nag. Even if you do it politely, you can get really nasty reactions. I feel like courtesy only works when everyone does it; I take care to be aware of others in public situations, and I would like them to do the same. It should be a win-win situation. :(

Dagless said:
There's a lot to be said for having a quiet, peaceful life. Especially when work+everything else is so massively hectic.
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Amen. A little downtime is wonderful now and then.

iJohnHenry said:
I would choose invasive, as your time is no longer your own, but someone else's. ;)
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That's a really good way to put it.
 
So I was in another thread about distracted driving, and while digging up reference data from NMRI brain scans I discovered another related study. Our brains are hard-wired to tune into to voices, whether or not we want them to, which results in a degradation in ones ability to focus. (a rather large one).

So those who say "just ignore it" that's physically impossible it appears.

http://www.distraction.gov/research/PDF-Files/carnegie-mellon.pdf
 
Big-TDI-Guy said:
So I was in another thread about distracted driving, and while digging up reference data from NMRI brain scans I discovered another related study. Our brains are hard-wired to tune into to voices, whether or not we want them to, which results in a degradation in ones ability to focus. (a rather large one).

So those who say "just ignore it" that's physically impossible it appears.

http://www.distraction.gov/research/PDF-Files/carnegie-mellon.pdf
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That makes sense to me. When the conversations around me on the bus are in English or Norwegian, I can't stop myself from from tuning in. If they're in Arabic or Urdu or whatever, they don't bother me nearly as much and are easy to tune out - even if they're loud.
 
To add to the topic I hate it when people talk on cell phone at the theater! Movies are so expensive lately and I want to see the movie without some knucklehead talking to his girl/boy of the week during the movie. :mad:
 
satcomer said:
To add to the topic I hate it when people talk on cell phone at the theater! Movies are so expensive lately and I want to see the movie without some knucklehead talking to his girl/boy of the week during the movie. :mad:
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"Take it to the lobby, or it will be no more!!!!"

Should work*. ;)







*I hope you are an imposing figure.
 
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