Question about girl and STDs.

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So, I recently met this girl who definitely wants to sleep with me. I'm a virgin. She has had two sexual partners, the first one being just this last May.

She says the first one got tested for everything beforehand because he had just got out of a relationship that ended with cheating. So, as far as she knows, he was disease free when they did it.

The second guy, she said she's willing to pay for him to take tests, and that if he's clear, then that means she's clear. She prefers to not take a test herself because of the invasive nature of them.

Let's assume that she's telling the truth about the first guy. If the second guy is tested and comes out clean, does that make it safe for me? Or should I not do it unless she actually takes the tests herself?
 
Honestly, I'd stay away from that dirty girl.
If you're worried and she won't get a test then she's not worth having.
 
Your safe obviously just having her do the test. The worst part would be if he comes out dirty, she would have to take the test anyway.
 
MegaMillions said:
So, I recently met this girl who definitely wants to sleep with me. I'm a virgin. She has had two sexual partners, the first one being just this last May.

She says the first one got tested for everything beforehand because he had just got out of a relationship that ended with cheating. So, as far as she knows, he was disease free when they did it.

The second guy, she said she's willing to pay for him to take tests, and that if he's clear, then that means she's clear. She prefers to not take a test herself because of the invasive nature of them.

Let's assume that she's telling the truth about the first guy. If the second guy is tested and comes out clean, does that make it safe for me? Or should I not do it unless she actually takes the tests herself?
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Always, always, ALWAYS assume everyone you sleep with has an STD. Use condoms properly and you should be fine.
 
jessica. said:
Honestly, I'd stay away from that dirty girl.
If you're worried and she won't get a test then she's not worth having.
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She's not a dirty girl. She was very careful with both guys, and actually insisted that the first guy get tested. The second guy was her ex.

Am I being too paranoid? It seems like she's definitely clean, but can I know for sure without her taking the test? Even if both guys come out clean, is there still some way that she could have something?
 
MegaMillions said:
She's not a dirty girl. She was very careful with both guys, and actually insisted that the first guy get tested. The second guy was her ex.

Am I being too paranoid? It seems like she's definitely clean, but can I know for sure without her taking the test? Even if both guys come out clean, is there still some way that she could have something?
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Yes, if she lied to you. Also, sounds like you have been "down there" before, remember std's can be transmitted a variety of ways, according to the CDC the most emerging threat now is beer pong.
 
thegoldenmackid said:
Yes, if she lied to you. Also, sounds like you have been "down there" before, remember std's can be transmitted a variety of ways, according to the CDC the most emerging threat now is beer pong.
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She and I have not engaged in any such activities yet.

thegoldenmackid said:
Yes, if she lied to you. Also, sounds like you have been "down there" before, remember std's can be transmitted a variety of ways, according to the CDC the most emerging threat now is beer pong.
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Let's assume she's not lying, because I know her, and she's most likely not. If both guys are clean, could she still have something?
 
MegaMillions said:
She's not a dirty girl. She was very careful with both guys, and actually insisted that the first guy get tested. The second guy was her ex.

Am I being too paranoid? It seems like she's definitely clean, but can I know for sure without her taking the test? Even if both guys come out clean, is there still some way that she could have something?
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She sounds a little on the whorish side to me. So you expect this girl to go up to a guy she no longer is interested in and ask him to go and take a test? I find it HARD to believe he would say ok and follow through. But hey, you are the one taking the risk, not me. Personally, I would have her take the test. If she can jump from partner to partner and then land on you (and I assume you are young), she is mature enough to take a f***ing test.
 
MegaMillions said:
Let's assume she's not lying, because I know her, and she's most likely not. If both guys are clean, could she still have something?
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Just have her to the test so you won't be so paranoid about it. I'm a virgin too and I understand you concern (however, I gave up on women), but it's just a matter of having her to the test and boom, all questions and concerns answered. As someone mentioned, use a condom.
 
uberamd said:
She sounds a little on the whorish side to me. So you expect this girl to go up to a guy she no longer is interested in and ask him to go and take a test? I find it HARD to believe he would say ok and follow through. But hey, you are the one taking the risk, not me. Personally, I would have her take the test. If she can jump from partner to partner and then land on you (and I assume you are young), she is mature enough to take a f***ing test.
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Two guys and she's a whore? Jeez- you kids are tough these days.
 
uberamd said:
If she can jump from partner to partner and then land on you (and I assume you are young), she is mature enough to take a f***ing test.
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I second the above motion ;)
If she really cares about you, she will be an adult and volunteer instead of begging her exes to take the heat.
 
leekohler said:
Two guys and she's a whore? Jeez- you kids are tough these days.
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The kid still has his V card, and this girl has had multiple partners. This leads me to believe he is like 15 or 16 and if the girl matches his age then yeah, she is a bit whorish, by my standards anyway.
 
She used condoms with both her previous partners. She was careful, safe, and used condoms, AND the first guy was tested clean.

If the second guy is tested clean, is it safe for me?
 
leekohler said:
Always, always, ALWAYS assume everyone you sleep with has an STD. Use condoms properly and you should be fine.
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1) Amen to above!
2) I'm surprised an ex would say "Sure, I'll get tested for STD's so you can do your new guy with a clear mind."
3) SHE should be getting yearly Pap smears, STD checks, and HPV checks (and the vaccine)
4) Screening test for STD's are more sensitive in women than in men. Just b/c partners test negative, she could still be positive.
5) Always, always, ALWAYS assume everyone you sleep with has an STD. Use condoms properly and you should be fine
 
uberamd said:
The kid still has his V card, and this girl has had multiple partners. This leads me to believe he is like 15 or 16 and if the girl matches his age then yeah, she is a bit whorish, by my standards anyway.
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Nope, we're not in that age group. And she was a virgin up until just a few months ago, and has only done it two or three times since she lost it. And used condoms every one of those two or three times.
 
MegaMillions said:
She used condoms with both her previous partners. She was careful, safe, and used condoms, AND the first guy was tested clean.

If the second guy is tested clean, is it safe for me?
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Just have her to the test, dude. Condoms arent 100% effective.
 
uberamd said:
The kid still has his V card, and this girl has had multiple partners. This leads me to believe he is like 15 or 16 and if the girl matches his age then yeah, she is a bit whorish, by my standards anyway.
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i have many guy friends who are 24-25 who are virgins by choice and what not

15-16? lol thats quite an assumption to make
 
drewsof07 said:
I second the above motion ;)
If she really cares about you, she will volunteer herself instead of begging her exes to take the heat.
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I do agree with this though. She should just go and get the tests. It sounds as if she may be embarrassed to take them. That doesn't make her a whore. And it certainly doesn't mean she doesn't genuinely like the OP. It just means she's human, and maybe a bit immature.
 
Okay quick clarification! She's definitely not a whore. She did it ONCE with a guy who had been tested clear (and they used condoms) and then she did it twice with her ex, using condoms both times. That's all she's done.
 
Just because the test comes negative, doesn't mean they don't have STDs. It takes a few months for some STDs to show up in test results, HIV being one of them.
 
MegaMillions said:
Okay quick clarification! She's definitely not a whore. She did it ONCE with a guy who had been tested clear (and they used condoms) and then she did it twice with her ex, using condoms both times. That's all she's done.
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And we told you, for clarification, that she should get checked. So quit ignoring our advice and waiting for people to say what you want to hear.
 
MegaMillions said:
Okay quick clarification! She's definitely not a whore. She did it ONCE with a guy who had been tested clear (and they used condoms) and then she did it twice with her ex, using condoms both times. That's all she's done.
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I'm 99% positive of one thing: She probably would not enjoy you recounting her sexual history with all of us on this google indexed forum ;)
 
MegaMillions said:
Okay quick clarification! She's definitely not a whore. She did it ONCE with a guy who had been tested clear (and they used condoms) and then she did it twice with her ex, using condoms both times. That's all she's done.
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Of course she's not. Some people just think everyone should be perfect. It's not a perfect world.
 
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