Mikey, I also have a late 2008, 2.8 Ghz machine, can you tell me the web url or part number of the 8 GB memory you ordered from Crucial.
I recommend buying your memory from MacSales. They're a high-quality supplier of memory, SSDs, and all sorts of other upgrades for Macs. They've noted this memory capacity mystery on the 2008 Unibody MacBook for years and finally sorted it out.
Crucial is a good vendor (and an advertiser here ;-) but I would give this business to MacSales. This page lists the parts you need from them and has a link on how to ensure you have the firmware needed to access all 8GB of memory.