Serious switch iPad 3 for ENGRAVED iPad 2

[bawbac]

Why are so many people advising that the OP leave his girlfriend? I'm she is worth more to him than an iPad.

Because the new iPad is their girlfriend. It's easy to say ditch the girl when you have none of your own.

I would first ask your girlfriend if it's OK to exchange it.
Do this face to face so you can read her face/body language and tone of voice.
If she says YES but her body language/face/voice says no, I would just keep the iPad2 and return the new iPad. Otherwise, this will be something that may impact future gift purchases or cause drama that may lead to unpleasent alone time.

Of course, if this girls means nothing to you, then do what you will to satisfy your technical gratification.

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Honestly I do not understand why an adult conversation with the girlfriend would end up in a win win for everyone. What she did was very nice. But given the new iPad launched TODAY, I would expect my wife (sorry, no girlfriend) to understand that while I value her thought, I want the new one. So getting a new one with the same engraving should make everyone happy.

If I could not have had a simple conversation with my (then) girlfriend to arrive at a mutually satisfactory conclusion over something so TRIVIAL, I would not have married her. 50 years of this stuff could get old quick.

You must not understand how a woman perceives giving a well thought out gift.
Returning a gift that has had some thought behind it because of your own self serving desire would say a lot about your character and relationship.

A good woman is hard to find.
Inanimate objects will come and go & are replaceable.

 

[Ccrew]

yah dude, you need to break up with that girl

Ya, and get one smart enough to keep up with the fact that Apple's releasing new stuff.

ipad3 + porn might be better than iPad 2 + clueless woman?

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Inanimate objects will come and go & are replaceable.

So are women

 

[Hello...]

Give the iPad 3 to your girl and borrow it often

 

[ugahairydawgs]

Just to recap, your options are...

1. Take back your $600 iPad, pocket the money, and accept a pretty great gift from your lady.

2. Sell the personalized gift your lady has purchased for you, keep the one you paid for, and make her feel marginalized.

Honestly if you don't know what to do here you have bigger issues.

Box up the iPad you bought, return it to the store you purchased it from, and tell your girlfriend how amazing it is that she bought you such a great gift before she wisens up and realizes she is better off without you.

 

[bawbac]

Ya, and get one smart enough to keep up with the fact that Apple's releasing new stuff.

ipad3 + porn might be better than iPad 2 + clueless woman?

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So are women

You must have forearms like Popeye.

 

[Mshilling]

Just to recap, your options are...

1. Take back your $600 iPad, pocket the money, and accept a pretty great gift from your lady.

2. Sell the personalized gift your lady has purchased for you, keep the one you paid for, and make her feel marginalized.

Honestly if you don't know what to do here you have bigger issues.

Box up the iPad you bought, return it to the store you purchased it from, and tell your girlfriend how amazing it is that she bought you such a great gift before she wisens up and realizes she is better off without you.

I dont know if you're married or have a girlfriend (or boyfriend, not that theres anything wrong with that) but if the woman feels marginalized over this, she has issues. Maybe daddy didnt love her enough? Not sure but I see clear heels in her future.

 

[teleromeo]

Give the iPad 3 to your girl and borrow it often

Great idea unless he should give her an engraved iPad ...

 

[zackwhitman]

i mean i have 2 extra iPad 3's so if you need the iPad 3 back eventually, ill sell you mine for 575$

 

[ugahairydawgs]

I dont know if you're married or have a girlfriend (or boyfriend, not that theres anything wrong with that) but if the woman feels marginalized over this, she has issues. Maybe daddy didnt love her enough? Not sure but I see clear heels in her future.

Let your buy something nice for you and you tell her thanks, but you're going to sell it and see how well that goes over.

Then again I've always thought it is a pretty crap move to sell a gift, regardless of who gave it to you.

 

[s15119]

Ok so I lined up this morning to get my 32 gb ipad3 and I was very happy. That was until my girlfriend saw it . You see the thing is she ordered me a secret ENGRAVED iPad 2 for my birthday next week .

My understanding is I can not return the engraved iPad so I will effectively have to downgrade to the iPad 2 after spending time with the iPad 3 .

Any bright ideas

No I can't give one to her and I can't keep both either .

Is the no engraved returns policy set in stone ????

Ahhhh what to do . I really love the updated screen .

Please guys and girls help me out

Sell the girlfriend.

 

[Foxykhat]

ill refer you back to my first point. women dont work like that.
jesus, most people dont work like that id be really pissed off if i bought someone a personal gift and they just sold it straight away. i wouldnt buy them anything ever again

I'm a woman and if I had bought my hubby the iPad2 engraved and he happened to purchase the newer and improved version I would only not have an issue with him selling what I bought. Granted I will be honest and say I would be a little hurt when I see him using his, and not what I bought but... I will get over it quickly enough considering he's only exchanging and in a sense upgrading rather than NOT appreciating my thoughtful gesture.

 

[Mshilling]

Let your buy something nice for you and you tell her thanks, but you're going to sell it and see how well that goes over.

Then again I've always thought it is a pretty crap move to sell a gift, regardless of who gave it to you.

I've been with my wife since 12th grade. Going on 17 years together, 11 married. That didn't just happen. I know what it takes to make her happy and her the same about me; this is minor. The situation sucks, but a 5 minute conversation and some reasonable adults is all it takes to fix it and he'd have an engraved 3rd gen ipad on the way.

 

[M87]

Sell girlfriend, keep all the iPads!

 

[Reser]

Ok so I lined up this morning to get my 32 gb ipad3 and I was very happy. That was until my girlfriend saw it . You see the thing is she ordered me a secret ENGRAVED iPad 2 for my birthday next week .

My understanding is I can not return the engraved iPad so I will effectively have to downgrade to the iPad 2 after spending time with the iPad 3 .

Any bright ideas

No I can't give one to her and I can't keep both either .

Is the no engraved returns policy set in stone ????

Ahhhh what to do . I really love the updated screen .

Please guys and girls help me out

So the entire build up to the new iPad and then the week to launch you never even mentioned to her you were getting an iPad 3?

Do not know about anyone else but I talked about getting my new iPad ALOT.

 

[Azzin]

"She is ordering..." implies she hasn't already. If she has, then it may still be in "processing" so she cancel it. Also, calling 1800-My-Apple doesn't hurt either. You may be surprised at what they're willing to do.

OP said "She has ordered", not "She is ordering".

 

[stickybuns]

Your girlfriend could try calling Apple to explain the situation; they might be willing to cancel the order for the engraved model upon hearing how much she was looking forward to spending more $$$$$$$ on an iPad 3.

 

[Leonard1818]

Ah so you're who I have to deal with in the dating pool? Fan-****ing-tastic! Seriously children, if you really think that this warrants breaking up, a womb punch, or anything more than a simple explanation then you're ignorant. This is not how normal people function at all. So his girlfriend doesn't have her thumb on the pulse of current tech news. So what?


Because they're either children, never been in relationships, have no idea how people should behave in the world, or they think they're funny.

OP: I thought there were returns for engraved items after all. Is it on their store policy online? I'd try to return it for sure but I would explain to your girlfriend first. No one knows her like you do so you have to be the judge. Obviously your question is best posed with less detail next time. "Bought iPad today and came home to previous iPad as a gift that is engraved, can I return it?"

Leave the kind deed your girlfriend did for you out of it. This site is clearly not the melting pot of wisdom. Even I've been prone to offer up crappy advice just because I am amused with myself.

No, you don't have to worry about me in the dating pool. I'm happily married thank you! I've been with my wife going on 10 years now and we have a beautiful baby girl.

Sounds like you're too stuck-up for a sense of humor so...uh... wonder why you're still in the dating pool? It's the internets. Relax a little. Obviously nobody thinks the guy should break up with the girl over a mispurchased iPad... we're all just doing like you and offering crappy advice for our own amusement.

For what it's worth, I got my wife an iPad 3 for her b-day (today) which just got delivered. Only downside is that it's a 32-gb and not a 64-gb. I hope she doesn't divorce me!

ROTFL

 

[shamash]

Why can't you just keep both?

 

[Leonard1818]

ipad3 + porn might be better than ipad 2 + clueless woman?

:d

 

[Lunchbox700]

I would keep the 2 sell the new one. That said electronics as surprise gifts is almost always a bad idea. My inlaws bought us a new router for Xmas I explained before hand only buy it if its exactly the same as the one I had them buy (and setup for them) well they got the wrong one the one the got looks the same but has a different model # instead or price its hard to tell the difference. I know they went to the store asked for the routed and the clerk grabbed the cheaper one.

 

[GoCubsGo]

No, you don't have to worry about me in the dating pool. I'm happily married thank you! I've been with my wife going on 10 years now and we have a beautiful baby girl.

Sounds like you're too stuck-up for a sense of humor so...uh... wonder why you're still in the dating pool? It's the internets. Relax a little. Obviously nobody thinks the guy should break up with the girl over a mispurchased iPad... we're all just doing like you and offering crappy advice for our own amusement.

For what it's worth, I got my wife an iPad 3 for her b-day (today) which just got delivered. Only downside is that it's a 32-gb and not a 64-gb. I hope she doesn't divorce me!

ROTFL

Who said I was in the dating pool? I may have implied but no one outwardly said it here about me.
Congrats on your marriage, hope she never ****s up and buys you a droid.

 

[tigress666]

yah dude, you need to break up with that girl

You know, why would some one want to break up with a girl who wants to be nice enough to buy him an iPad?! You do realize it's the thought that counts.

Especially since it hasn't even been implied she'd be upset if he just explained the new one was out that he just got so he wants to return hers (But he really appreciates the thought and thinks it was a great gift).

Honestly, yeah she'd be a little immature to get offended long as he was polite about it and he'd be helluva immature if he followed your advice. And stupid. Giving up a GF who doesn't mind his hobbies and actually tries to encourage them or find stuff that he would find nice, even if she was a little naive this time about the new iPad coming out (In a way that shows how thoughtful she was cause it shows she's not a huge follower herself but at least understands he is).

 

[Leonard1818]

I would keep the 2 sell the new one. That said electronics as surprise gifts is almost always a bad idea. My inlaws bought us a new router for Xmas I explained before hand only buy it if its exactly the same as the one I had them buy (and setup for them) well they got the wrong one the one the got looks the same but has a different model # instead or price its hard to tell the difference. I know they went to the store asked for the routed and the clerk grabbed the cheaper one.

electronic gadgets are a GREAT gift if WE (sounds like you're much like me) are the givers and people like your in-laws are the receivers...

My dad doesn't have to worry about reading nerdy stuff online or keeping up with the latest specs... he can just call me and say "what _______ should I buy" and I tell him. (of course he takes that information and sits on it for 2 weeks... compares it to something he sees on TV that is totally unrelated, forgets what I told him, then goes to best buy and pays out the b-hole for something inferior to what I recommended but it's all good)

 

[ZBoater]

You must not understand how a woman perceives giving a well thought out gift.
Returning a gift that has had some thought behind it because of your own self serving desire would say a lot about your character and relationship.

A good woman is hard to find.
Inanimate objects will come and go & are replaceable.

I may not understand how THIS woman perceives giving a gift.

Besides, this is not a male/female thing. You are right. Some people (gender notwithstanding) would be offended if they gave a gift and the recipient wanted to exchange it. I am of the opinion that you shouldn't be giving gifts if that is the case. A gift is something you give someone to show your appreciation, and it is the THOUGHT that counts. MY woman would rather me have what I want and would not be offended in the least if I asked for an upgrade.

And I think you are also right. It does say a lot of one's character and relationship. I'd rather have a strong relationship where something like this can be discussed and a win-win situation can be arrived at rather than pretend and not say anything and hide my true feelings or desires to avoid offending my partner. That kind of relationship I am not interested in. YMMV.

 

[Leonard1818]

Who said I was in the dating pool? I may have implied but no one outwardly said it here about me.

errr... you did

Ah so you're who I have to deal with in the dating pool? Fan-****ing-tastic!

Congrats on your marriage, hope she never ****s up and buys you a droid.

Thanks! No, it's cool. She has an android phone now. In fact, we both had them until I got my iPhone. I like Android well enough and wouldn't be disappointed if I got one... we just use our phones a lot and need something that "just works" and my experience with Android was not like that so I figured I'd try the iPhone. Since getting my iPhone I've had to reflash my old android phone once (rooted while I was at it) cause it's my VOiP phone now and hers is giving her grief so I think I'm going to have to tinker with it too... I LOVE tinkering with that kind of stuff... but really only on my own terms and only when it's something that isn't as much of a necessity. She needs her phone to work always since she's the one carting my daughter around and stuff. If she breaks down on the highway or something I would want her to have a WORKING phone.

I appreciate all of your concern. I hope you find someone who shows as much regard to strangers lives as yourself!

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You know, why would some one want to break up with a girl who wants to be nice enough to buy him an iPad?! You do realize it's the thought that counts.

Especially since it hasn't even been implied she'd be upset if he just explained the new one was out that he just got so he wants to return hers (But he really appreciates the thought and thinks it was a great gift).

Honestly, yeah she'd be a little immature to get offended long as he was polite about it and he'd be helluva immature if he followed your advice. And stupid. Giving up a GF who doesn't mind his hobbies and actually tries to encourage them or find stuff that he would find nice, even if she was a little naive this time about the new iPad coming out (In a way that shows how thoughtful she was cause it shows she's not a huge follower herself but at least understands he is).

nobody has a sense of humor on the internet?